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Alright, I have a question. ( If it doesn't belong here just let me know. )

There is a girl at work I have had a crush on lately. I've been thinking about asking her out but I'm not sure.

I see two options.

1. Ask her out, I mean the worst she can say is no right?

2. Stay asexual and don't care. A crush is no more than hormones anyway, it'll pass.

The things stopping me from asking her is that I'am extremely passive agressive. I work out my problems through manipulating others, not with my own hands. So asking her on a date bluntly is kinda hard. The idea of it makes me choke, so I doubt I really could.

The other thing stopping is that personal relationships with females make me feel insecure. I have never known why, but since I was a young boy I have always felt insecure and afraid around females.

But, then there is the old saying, " nothing ventured nothing gained. "

Well the reason I'm asking for advice is because I actualy want to.

Like a child looking at a rollercoaster for the first time. It looks scary, but it could be bloody great aswell.

My father taught me a lesson when I was small I have not forgotten.

Its that we have to do many things in life that we don't want or are afraid to do, but we do them anyway because being a p***y about it doesn't solve your problem.

Which makes me think, maybe I'm only uncmfortable because it is new.

I've never had a girlfriend, been kissed, or even spent time with girls on any great level. They haven't even had much hold on my mind except in the past few months. So is this something I'm only afraid of because its new?

I'm basically asking what would you do in my shoes?

I would like to disagree with this...

My boyfriend and I, when we see each other, we kiss a lot. We're both "kissaholics" and neither of us are really bothered to have sex just yet. We have had sex, but we both know that that isn't the reason why we're in a relationship... its just how we are. :]

My take on that post was that it was about 1st, 2nd and 3rd dates, not after 3+ months in the relationship. I know some guys do have that much patients even if they are only after the sex, but its few.

Oh, and Hi Niko!
I took HellsBitch out of this guild since I never posted here. I didnt really see a reason to stay, but Luficer was the one you originally invited to join in and as you can see, she's still in. Anyway, it doesnt look like much has been goin on in my old hangout, huh? Not many posts have been added since I last stopped by which is... at least 6 months ago sweatdrop

All rigt, the breakup post said to share your breakup esperiences, so I've got one. Sorry if this doesn't belong here redface It's actually pretty hilarious, just the comic relief I needed this week. Hopefully you guys will get a kick out of it too; my friends sure did. So in my MySpace blog, I posted this entry stating that my boyfriend could not tell me what to do, and that I still didn't trust him after what he did ( stare ) Well, shortly after his return home from Disney World, he found the entry. Know what he did? Posted a comment on the entry breaking up with me! rofl Seriosuly, who does that?

No, wait, he did follow up that comment with a long, angry voicemail on my cell phone. Oh man, he was so pissed to learn that his girlfriend has a "dark side" - I mean, a mind of her own *le gasp* and still didn't trust him after he cheated on me, lied to me, and has a history of cheating. Wow, I can't believe I watsed two years of my life on that p***k (hence the siggy).

Well, I did call him when I found the comment, because I wanted to have a civilized conversation with him about the whole thing. Luckily, he had calmed down a little and we were able to talk, but he had already considered us over because he had already posted a blog entry saying we were through, and changed his marital status to "single."

I had been thinking of dumping him though, and according to his friends he was talking about dumping me. Still, you don't end two years and three months of a committed relationship with a blog comment!

Ha, I'm still laughing about the whole thing! rofl

Yeah, some people can be asswipes on that site. I know a guy who was dating a girl who had a MySpace, and her profile said "single" and then "swinger" while they were going out. I felt kinda bad for him, because I didn't want him getting hurt.

On the other hand, as we see, MySpace can also be an affective tool when it comes to catching cheaters and assholes, because people are often more open about their assholeism on the site, if you know what I mean.

Oh, and the whole "not trusting" thing, I think you had every right to not trust him; you had probable cause. He shouldn't have gotten mad about it, because it's not like you randomly accused him of cheating. He sounds a lot like my current ex, who demanded my trust after the all the lies and deception and the horrible things he had done to me in the past. dramallama Men can be such jerks sometimes!