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 Posted: Tue Apr 25, 2006 5:40 pm
omigod my mom's just as bitchy with my friends she wouldn't let me hang out with ANYBODY becuase she didn't trust me and she didn't trust them and....it was blatantly obvious by just frickin' grade point averages they weren't out smoking pot or anything rolleyes and this continued until I was like 17...now that I'm 18, strangely enough, my mom doesn't seem to care about anything I do eek
ME: *walks out door* Hey mom Imma gonna go hang out with peeps and stuff.
Mom: Mrmph...kay.
Me: *searchingly*...and my homeworks not done...
Mom:....
Me: ...and I plan on getting drunk.
Mom:...
Me: *dismayed* and I brought condoms for safety
Mom: *blink* aren't you gone yet?
*disclaimer: I...wouldn't do any of this stuff btw
It's really weird when your mother has a thumb crushing your social life into the ground for 17 years of your life and then suddenly decides to let you go.... *and senioritis is really starting to kick in* gonk
moral of the story...pick a college where your very far away from parents heart
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Posted: Tue Apr 25, 2006 6:53 pm
I wanna do that to my Mom. o_o But she still gets mad when I joke about beating someone up.
"DON'T GET INTO FIGHTS, YOU'RE SO CLOSE TO PASSING WITH STRAIGHT A'S!!!!"
"Mom? I was.. y'now... kidding."
I made her cry once when I said I was gonna beat up some guy in class. O-o
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Posted: Tue Apr 25, 2006 7:50 pm
Youko, I can understand the whole thing about helping your dad with the house (been there, done that, hated every ******** minute of it) but the sweet sixteen thing...well, having had a really less than eventful one, I can say that it sounds kind of out of line to be complaining about not being able to stay in a hotel.
For mine, my best friend was still in Georgia, and a mutual friend of ours (from my fifteenth) was in Kentucky. So it was kinda hard to find anybody to go. I tried my ex boyfriend but he ******** forgot and never showed up. I asked this guy I knew but his dad wouldn't let him go. So I asked my former best friend and she accepted. So I was at the fair at noon, and she came like, fifteen minutes late. Then she declared that she's have to leave at two so she could go to a concert! I was miffed about this, but I just tried to be happy.
And at two she left, I had to walk about a mile (in like, 90 degree weather, wearing all black...as usual) to get to the train which I rode home. And absolutely nothing happend the rest of the day. (Though I did get a nice, tasty cake.)
And, you know what? I did not complain one bit. Did I feel cheated? Yes. Hell yes. But I did not complain. I was lucky for the fact that I got to go somewhere with someone at all.
Sure, it caused a rift in my friendship with that girl (which, strangely enough, was repared to some extent by the guy who's dad wouldn't let him go tomy "party" just in time for me to learn about Matt Olson (the Winslowy dude) who I probably would have completely missed any information about if I'd waited any longer) but I still accepted it as the way it was.
Sorry, but from my point of view, complaining about not getting a hotel room makes you sound like a little princess. Be happy with the two friends and the Broadway show. It's more than I ever got for my "sweet" sixeen.
Oh. And RDS, I've pulled that on my mom a couple of times. She never believes me. Sometimes she's the instigator of the joke too. It's kinda strange in an amusing way.
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Posted: Tue Apr 25, 2006 8:28 pm
I'm with Alexis. My Sweet Sixteen wasn't much, either. The only two friends I know outside of Gaia or the internet had been scattered out of state by Katrina, leaving me to spend my birthday with my Mom. Not that I complain. The woman would kill for me. But, it was a downer to not really celebrate it until weeks later when I could kidnap one friend for the weekend.
Might not've been the best Birthday, but it beats the hell out of my 10th birthday. My Dad ruined that day lyke woah.
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 4:11 am
Red_Death_Stalking
moral of the story...pick a college where your very far away from parents heart T-T My mom is making me go to college where she bought this house.. In Florida. BUT IT'S NOT LIKE I'M MAKING THIS DECISION ANYTIME SOON. xD; I'm not out of Middle School yet... TT;
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 11:38 am
My sweet 16 was frickin great. Me and 2 of my best friends bought each other tickets to PotO (all of out b-days are right next to each others) at the Saenger, and we spent the day in NO just hangin around and having fun. I think I'd have died (from happiness, mind) if my parents had offered Broadway PotO to us.
But your friends should all be punjabbed. Except that the Holy Punjab shouldn't be wasted there, a hand across the face will just have to do. For your dad, too. Do you know any Ninjas, Youko? you could have him assassinated if you knew a good ninja.
Hush, RDS, college near the 'rents isn't all that bad. rolleyes
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 4:50 pm
Alexis Of Shadow Youko, I can understand the whole thing about helping your dad with the house (been there, done that, hated every ******** minute of it) but the sweet sixteen thing...well, having had a really less than eventful one, I can say that it sounds kind of out of line to be complaining about not being able to stay in a hotel. Sorry, but from my point of view, complaining about not getting a hotel room makes you sound like a little princess. Be happy with the two friends and the Broadway show. It's more than I ever got for my "sweet" sixeen.
It's my big day- my big Sweet 16 party. I'm not asking for caterers and ballroom dances like some of my other friends- I don't need gowns and dresses and giant cakes and djs and billions of friends to come. I never wanted anything like that.
I just wanted to have a fun, peaceful birthday in the company of my four closest friends, and have fun while doing it. There's so mcuh that beach had to offer- something for everyone. The beach, the giant boardwalk where I once got interrogated by a policewoman because I was a witness to a crime (someone tried to set the boardwalk on fire), and they have a giant carnival on the boardwalk, too.
It would have been awesome.
gonk I guess it's all relative to what your enviroment is, but... the majority of my friends are practically having parties that look like weddings. Only... minus the whole... marriage thing.
I dunno. I'm just so shocked you would sound like you're accusing me of being a prissy little dumb-bell, honestly. I'm hurt. sad I really am.
"Bring the two friends to a Broadway show." So what? Completely cut two of my best friends out of the party, just because the one freaking girl can't get over the fact that one of my friends isn't her friend?
I really don't know what to say.
D: I never, ever thought I'd hear you (well... read you, but, you get the idea) say something like that. I really... I don't know. Maybe I should just take my dad's advice.
Camp out in the backyard.
Whee-hee.
Happy birthday to me...?
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 5:02 pm
*blink*
Why would people spend money on a birthday to look like someone just got hitched? I was always happy with going to my Aunt's with a few friends and playing board games and eating cake until we all couldn't stand ourselves with the sugar high.
And please don't start a fight. D: I'm sure Alexis didn't mean it to sound that harsh. We all have our days, right..?
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 5:18 pm
Utakan And please don't start a fight. D: I'm sure Alexis didn't mean it to sound that harsh. We all have our days, right..?
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 7:16 pm
Youko-chan Utakan And please don't start a fight. D: I'm sure Alexis didn't mean it to sound that harsh. We all have our days, right..? I'll admit I read it wrong, but we can't start slapping each other! *patpat* You need a mask cookie.
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 8:25 pm
I never said that I didn't want you to do what you wanted. But, well, as they say "change what you can, accept what you can't." I can understand complaining about something, but...I don't know, speaking from experience it's really not that bad not having a big sweet sixteen. It's just not. Hell, I didn't enjoy turning sixteen 'cause it just meant that I was one year closer to being a toothless old lady with alzheimers. Joy, right?
Anyway, back to the point. If you manage to get a fancy sweet sixteen then more power to you. You don't hear me bitching about how Erin had a great sweet sixteen and I didn't. All I'm saying is that you should be happy with what your parents let you have. What I got from the post you wrote made it seem like you felt entitled to go to a theme park, rent a hotel, etc., etc., for your birthday. Hotels do not cost like, 15 bucks each, Youko. And then your parents would have to rent another room for themselves which would be twice as much money.
Honestly, I can understand your parents' point of view. Even if they were willing to pay money for one hotel room, it would be four sixteen year olds in a hotel alone. Which, obviously, your parents are not comfortable with. And I doubt that they'd be willing to pay for two hotel rooms just for you to have fun messing around with your friends for a night.
If you want to stay overnight with a friend that badly, go somewhere and then have a sleepover. It's been done before. Hell, I'd have been thrilled to camp out in the back yard with my friends for my sixteenth (I've never gone camping or slept outside in my life). And it wouldn't cost your parents a shitload of money if you did that. Or make them wig out about four teenagers in a hotel by themselves.
When your family is poor (as mine is) you kind of have to put things in perspective. I only get two to three hours of slow-a** dial-up internet a night. I never have huge wardrobes with all the expensive clothes. And just as such, I didn't have a (as you put it) "proper" sweet sixteen. But I learned to accept things like this. All I'm saying is that you need to learn to accept that life will not always give you what you want.
And another thing. You don't exactly seem like you're considering your friends' feelings. One girl obviously doesn't like another of your friends. I've been in her situation, and it was hard for me just to hang out with my friend when the other was there. We just did not get along and it just inspired me to hate the other girl that much more. I'm sure you could accept someone not going 'cause she doesn't want to interact with an enemy of hers.
Y'know, it's strange irony that you said "I never, ever thought I'd hear you say something like that." 'Cause I was thinking something similar about you. Once you were fun-loving, hyperactive and over all cool Youko. Then...you just kinda started complaining about how you don't have this, your parents are making you do that.... It just seems you've changed. I mean, I've had bad streaks in my life, but nothing ever just got me down and complaining for that long.
I dunno. Maybe I'm just sensitive to such changes in people. I've known people to change a lot in my lifetime. Some of it was good and most of it was bad. I just kinda miss old, hyper, funny Youko
There. Ya happy you got that outta me? *Is the kind of person who, like, never says she misses anyone or otherwise is the displayer of any sentimental emotion except in rare cases*
Anyway, that's what I have to say. Think what you will of me.
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 9:12 pm
I'm going to sit neutral on this, but I'll ask again not to start a ruckus. I understand both sides' views, but I'm not going to babysit a spitfight. If you want to argue, please take it to PMs.
Alexis: I understand the whole viewpoint. I have my financial problems, but we're only young and halfway out of money ignorance once. Be blunt (God knows I am) but don't accuse.
Youko: I understand your point as well. All I can offer is that maybe thinking on what you say (type?) next time might prevent these kinds of bruises from others' personal opinions. Or perhaps re-wording when you're in better mind to do so.
Sweet Sixteen is a big deal for every girl. It's the age-old indication of the girl being eligible for dating and finally getting close to being a woman. Of course every girl wants to share the moment with friends in an enjoyable environment, wherever that may be.
To have complications arise, whatever they are, is a heart-breaker. Yes, we will go on living if we do not get our way or don't celebrate it lavishly at all, but it's still an important milestone set into our minds.
Opinions are as they are, but some wish only to have one night of happiness. We are all but human. And we are all selfish, though others on much larger scales.
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 2:36 pm
Well, I'm sorry that I'm not any fun any longer. gonk People change. Changing people influence other people to change. It's just kind of hard to be energetic and amused when people glare at you and hate you for something minor you did six months ago, your friends are whoring themselves out quite literally like there's no tomorrow, half of your female friends decide it's a very good idea to ask you out, one wants you to be her ********, you're so distraught about numerable things, you're on the brink of an eating disorder, and then your friends start showing up stoned and drunk to parties, and others are trying to get you to join them, and then (IT NEVER ENDS!!! gonk ) you find out that someone you used to rely quite heavily on was not, as you once thought, clever and amusing, but rather a very, very high, stoned pot-head.
It's kinda overwhelming. gonk
And since I'm sure you don't want me to be sitting here, saying, "And then so-and-so took this, and so-and-so smoked that..." ... gonk
Also, maybe if we could all just (myself included in this) cool it a little bit, I could actually have add some humor in this post. Besides the sickening realization that the actions of a rather adored friend were not, as I had suspected, simply clever amusement, but rather the pyschotic workings of a drugged-out mind, my day was actually rather amusing.
And about "considering my friends' feelings," how did she consider my feelings when she started calling one of my best friends obcene names in front of me face? I told her quite plainly. If she doesn't want to go, because she really doesn't want to deal with so-and-so, then I won't be mad if she decides not to go. What I would, however, by angry with, was if she came and started a fight. I don't mind if she comes- in fact, I'd rather, but I told her that if she doesn't come, then I'd just hang out and do something with her later.
And I'm sorry you think I'm so prissy for wanted to do something extra-special for basically the most important birthday (minus when you turn 18. Or 21. Or both) I'm pretty much ever going to have. I will admit. Usually, I get to go where I want. I have enjoyable birthdays. Usually, we go to the pool. Or to a water park. (Are you seeing a pattern here?) And usually, my parents are fine with it, because it's just me, and two of my friends.
gonk But, I have more friends now. And it's an important party. I'm sorry I've given you such a low opinion of me.
Utakan- We're not really arguing. Sort of... explaining? o_o; If I was arguing my capslock would be on. And I'd be using like... size 24 text.
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 3:17 pm
Killing two birds with one stone. Just wanna lay down the law before the law has to be used.
That's quite a valid point as well. I just had a big discussion on change earlier today and it's quite true. Everyone changes, whether for the better or the worse of it, and friendships fluctuate.
Not only that, but you bring up another point with your friend calling another friend of yours names and such things. I have friends who have other friends I don't care for, but I respect them despite unless they get into a squabble. Then it's an all-out b***h-Fest.
.... I don't even know why I'm nosing in on this! D:
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 3:32 pm
Oh, and... a bit of an update. :O
See, Youko really isn't as stubborn and unmanagable as she leads (and I'm not just referring to you guys here) people to believe. xd
Youko had a bit of a chat with her mum...
Mum: Uhh... look. sweatdrop I'm sorry I'm saying definitely no to your idea for the party, but... it's just... look. If it was my Sweet 16, and I was in a hotel two hours away from home with four other fifteen, sixteen, and seventeen year old girls, we'd probably be getting into major trouble. gonk Like... sneaking out at midnight to go use the pool, or something. Or something rediculous. I have to admit. We'd be bad. gonk Really bad. And now that I'm an adult, I don't want to be the one to have that responsibility of watching over five crazed teenage girls on a beach/boardwalk/amusement park/hotel two hours from home, alright?
And Youko took a few minutes to consider what she just said, and nodded, and replied,
Youko: 3nodding Alright... I get it, I suppose. sweatdrop I'm not pleased about it, but... I mean, I guess we could pick up my friends the night before we go, and have a sleepover at home, and then go to the beach early the next morning, and leave late that night, right? 'Cause, if we don't have all my friends corraled into one household... well... take Nettie, for example. xd She may show up three hours after we wanted to be there. So... would that work, maybe?
And her mummy nodded, and said it was definitely an option. She said she wasn't saying yes or no, and Youko has to get all of her friends to behave themselves with each other beforehand, and she will consider it much more than she did the last suggestion.
gonk See? We needn't not make a fuss about it. Give Youko a few days, and she'll think of a way where she can get her wishes, but accomodate other's needs. sweatdrop
Now I've just got to find Chrissy and Kate free at the same time, and have a chat with them. sweatdrop Nothing mean or anything. Just an earnest discussion to see if we can work at least some form of deal, jsut for the party. We'll see.
Oh, and I need to get a hold of ONE of my OTHER friends and ask him wtf he's doing smoking pot, and tell him that once, putting a moustache of real hair on one's teeth to simulate baleen was awesome. As was talk of sitting on a canoe strapped to the roof of a SUV, dressed as a pirate, and rowing oneself to Manhattan was also absolutely insanely amazing. sweatdrop And then Youko must tell him that she's infinitely dissappointed in him.
And pray that does something. O_o
...although I'm severly doubting it will. e.e;;;
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