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 Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 6:09 pm
t0paz Your mom sounds like mine...totally spacey and aloof to the world around her. Sadly there is nothing we can do about it. When I talk to my mom she seriously zones out every 2 seconds and just doesn't get anything I try to tell or ask her about.The only thing that you can really do is keep trying..maybe one day you'll get through to her.Maybe if you tried an unorthodox*sp?) type of therapy your dad would be more open to it. There are many different types out there, one I know of is equine therapy. If you did that it would help you with your mental anguish, you could play with horses and the activity would probably help you lose some weight,then your mom would be happy. My question to you is do you really want to lose weight? It doesn't sound like it. Since there seems to be very limited options for you considering therapy I guess a support network would be essential, such as us. Alot of people here know what you're going through. I know it's hard to want to open up to people online but maybe it'd be good for you just like you're doing now. Just some ppl to offer encouraging words. Friendship can be theuraputic anyway.Can you possibly live with another family member who isn't so concerned about your weight? At least that way your mother couldn't bother you as easily and you'd get time to think about your dreams and how you want to accomplish them. I'll try to get my Dad to take me to that, but my Dad always tells me that his child hood was rougher then mine, and he didn't need any help. He is fine and I shouldn't b***h, because I get everything I want, go to a good school, live in a nice house, and have a family who cares. Well, I have emotional problems, not problems like that, but they don't listen. I don't have anyone who lives near by that could take me in and my parents would never allow that. I do want to lose weight, but I'm an emotional eater and I need help with figure out a way to not eat when I'm depressed and do something else. I sometimes think I look really pretty and nice, but then something happens and it kills my self-esteem and I go back to thinking I'm ugly and not wanted. I am a mess..lol
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Posted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 12:10 pm
I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok.
I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans.
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Posted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 12:31 pm
gege78 I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok. I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans. sweatdrop crying Ask somebody who knows abit of sewing to take them in, or wear a belt.
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2005 5:37 am
Fuzzy Necromancer gege78 I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok. I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans. sweatdrop crying Ask somebody who knows abit of sewing to take them in, or wear a belt. Cliche it may be, but you could just make yourself bigger... that is a classic solution for clothes that are too big! 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2005 1:46 am
gege78 I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok. I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans. sweatdrop crying There is no return policy on them? Whenever I ordered clothing the company would always have a return policy (within so many days). Perhaps you can still make use of those and then order a smaller size?
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2005 4:23 am
Great, I just found out my cat (haven't been at my other home for a few days; I live there with my best friend) has run away. He's only a couple of months old and hasn't been with us for more than three weeks. We already had him running around outside and he was doing really well. He didn't come home last night and still hasn't. crying First kitten I ever picked out myself. I miss the little fellow and I'm terrified he's not going to come home. We still have an older cat, but the second one we had before little Carlos disappeared as well one day (about a year and a half ago). This is the first night he's ever been outside alone. This sucks...
*EDIT* Woohoo! My best friend just found him. He's been grounded for a while now, but he's just fine. mrgreen I'm telling you, this kitten is going to kill me...
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2005 6:55 pm
EvilJelly Fuzzy Necromancer gege78 I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok. I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans. sweatdrop crying Ask somebody who knows abit of sewing to take them in, or wear a belt. Cliche it may be, but you could just make yourself bigger... that is a classic solution for clothes that are too big! 3nodding Think about that a minute. If she got bigger to fit one pair of pants, that's all she'd fit. All her other clothes would be too small. rolleyes
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Posted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 5:32 pm
I feel awful..I was at play rehearsal and this costume lady was all mad, because nothing was fitting me. She was making me put on everything and nothing was fitting. Then she basically freaked out on me saying how all I do in this play is dance and I'm in a puppet why don't I lose weight. I got so mad with her that I yelled back at her saying it's not my fault that actresses these days are size zero's and all the teenagers who join are size zero's too. We went back and forth and this lady is like in her 60's and I guess she is not afraid to speak her mind. She was bashing me saying she doesn't understand how I could get roles in plays anyway and how that I'm going to look ugly in my costumes, because only the big costumes for "the fat people" fit me..and they don't even fit me. Then she told me I don't deserve to have a speaking part and that I deserve to only be in the puppet so she doesn't have to worry about making me a costume. So, I walked out, very close to slapping this old women in the face. So I am getting phone calls and phone calls from the director asking where the hell am I. I told my Mom, and she is going to try to get the lady fired.
I still feel awful. I'm 189 lbs..I don't think I'm that fat, but more and more I feel I am just an ugly freak. No one is happy with my weight and they are making me lose..and I am doing it so people can just get off my case and just love me. >.< That felt good to get off my chest.
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Posted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 10:47 pm
Shampoo_0405 I feel awful..I was at play rehearsal and this costume lady was all mad, because nothing was fitting me. She was making me put on everything and nothing was fitting. Then she basically freaked out on me saying how all I do in this play is dance and I'm in a puppet why don't I lose weight. I got so mad with her that I yelled back at her saying it's not my fault that actresses these days are size zero's and all the teenagers who join are size zero's too. We went back and forth and this lady is like in her 60's and I guess she is not afraid to speak her mind. She was bashing me saying she doesn't understand how I could get roles in plays anyway and how that I'm going to look ugly in my costumes, because only the big costumes for "the fat people" fit me..and they don't even fit me. Then she told me I don't deserve to have a speaking part and that I deserve to only be in the puppet so she doesn't have to worry about making me a costume. So, I walked out, very close to slapping this old women in the face. So I am getting phone calls and phone calls from the director asking where the hell am I. I told my Mom, and she is going to try to get the lady fired. I still feel awful. I'm 189 lbs..I don't think I'm that fat, but more and more I feel I am just an ugly freak. No one is happy with my weight and they are making me lose..and I am doing it so people can just get off my case and just love me. >.< That felt good to get off my chest. Man, that really sucks. Honestly, try to confront these people whenever they yell at you. Just remind them you're a human being and they're being shallow for focusing on your weight and not recognizing you for what you're worth. Take a stand about it. I dealt with a lot of the same crap when I was younger and taking a stand really helped. People feel embarrased whenever you outright confront them about this. It's like only then do you become an actual person instead of just the fat person stereotype. I hope it works for you. *gives you a big comfort-hug*
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Posted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 11:11 pm
You're not that fat, and you're not ugly. This crabby old b***h is being just that.
Sure, you might not be able to find a fitting costume easily, but guess what, she's going to die a lot sooner! razz Tell that to the corpse.
It's good to hear that your mom is on your side, this lady obviously has issues and may in fact be borderline deranged (all this talk about puppets).
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2005 10:52 am
Yeah, Shampoo_0405, that woman was just being a b***h. I would have said with her being lazy enough not to want to make a costume, you could get fat like me, ya b***h. I mean damn, I'm 360 some odd lbs and I've been casted in roles before...leads even. Sheesh! Most of the time the costume directors find it a welcome challenge making a costume for me. She's just being a lazy old bat. It's ok, though. If your costume doesn't come out pretty....you can always b***h back at her....not that you should... sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 6:26 pm
Kacee Morivan EvilJelly Fuzzy Necromancer gege78 I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok. I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans. sweatdrop crying Ask somebody who knows abit of sewing to take them in, or wear a belt. Cliche it may be, but you could just make yourself bigger... that is a classic solution for clothes that are too big! 3nodding Think about that a minute. If she got bigger to fit one pair of pants, that's all she'd fit. All her other clothes would be too small. rolleyes It's more of a joking/feederous response than a serious solution.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2005 12:02 am
Shampoo_0405 t0paz Your mom sounds like mine...totally spacey and aloof to the world around her. Sadly there is nothing we can do about it. When I talk to my mom she seriously zones out every 2 seconds and just doesn't get anything I try to tell or ask her about.The only thing that you can really do is keep trying..maybe one day you'll get through to her.Maybe if you tried an unorthodox*sp?) type of therapy your dad would be more open to it. There are many different types out there, one I know of is equine therapy. If you did that it would help you with your mental anguish, you could play with horses and the activity would probably help you lose some weight,then your mom would be happy. My question to you is do you really want to lose weight? It doesn't sound like it. Since there seems to be very limited options for you considering therapy I guess a support network would be essential, such as us. Alot of people here know what you're going through. I know it's hard to want to open up to people online but maybe it'd be good for you just like you're doing now. Just some ppl to offer encouraging words. Friendship can be theuraputic anyway.Can you possibly live with another family member who isn't so concerned about your weight? At least that way your mother couldn't bother you as easily and you'd get time to think about your dreams and how you want to accomplish them. I'll try to get my Dad to take me to that, but my Dad always tells me that his child hood was rougher then mine, and he didn't need any help. He is fine and I shouldn't b***h, because I get everything I want, go to a good school, live in a nice house, and have a family who cares. Well, I have emotional problems, not problems like that, but they don't listen. I don't have anyone who lives near by that could take me in and my parents would never allow that. I do want to lose weight, but I'm an emotional eater and I need help with figure out a way to not eat when I'm depressed and do something else. I sometimes think I look really pretty and nice, but then something happens and it kills my self-esteem and I go back to thinking I'm ugly and not wanted. I am a mess..lol
Any emotional eater huh? I think that's a substantial enough reason for therapy, it'd kill two birds with one stone. Maybe you can tell your mom about seeing a therapist about that and persuade her by letting her know that if you get to the root of those emotional issues you won't have to eat like that and gain weight. You're not a mess, I'm the same way. Sometimes I think I'm beautiful then something happens and I start disliking myself. It's normal..I think. I'm sure if you are able to go to the therapist for being an emotional eater you can talk about those things that are bothering you since low self esteem is probably a cause to eat.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2005 12:09 am
gege78 I don't know were to post this so I hope it's ok. I order a pair of jeans and I just received it today. Problem? There too big! I was rofl when I tried them because this never happen to me ever! But I don't know what to do, I really wanted jeans because I never found any in my size. I don't know what to do, the shipping was nearly as much as the cost of the jeans. sweatdrop crying
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2005 6:28 pm
*makes everyone an apple sour shot* Drink up me hearties! Sounds like you all need one.
Shampoo: I used to share your father's mentality....I've gone through some really bad experiences in my past, and when my friends would talk to me about their problems, I would think to myself that they should quit their bitching because they have nothing to complain about in comparison to what I was going through.
But then I realized that we've all been raised differently...we've all gone through different experiences and we all handle them/are affected by them differently. It's not a competition, and your father should realize this...who is he to judge what should be worried about and what shouldn't? Yes I know, he's your father, but he is not an ultimate being/guru of wisdom...he should keep his biased opinions to himself. Does he not realize that he's causing you to eat because he's upset you? Some people have no clue *shakes head sadly*.
I agree with topaz...if things are becoming so unbearable at home, then perhaps you should talk to your school concellor and explain your situation...maybe he/she can help you either talk to him or get the heck out of there. If he/she can't help, then ask one of your friend's parents if you could possibly stay there for awhile, and explain what's going on.
As for that ignorant/rude ol' hag, she should SERIOUSLY be penealized for her harsh and unecessary behaviour/comments...her job is to make outfits...if she can't do her damn job, then she should go find something else or retire for pete's sake.
189 is not big...I would KILL to be that weight. You will encounter both the chub lovers and haters, but teachers should not be talking like that.
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