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Telling your parents is usually the most difficult, and for those of you under the age of 18 or who have not graduated high school yet, I'd advise against telling your parents unless you're pretty sure they'll be ok with it. The hardest thing was for me to tell my mother, even though deep down I knew she'd be fine with it (and she was).

My advice... if you're 15, 16, however old... and you've just discovered your gay in some way... I'd say dont worry about telling your parents... keep it to yourself for a while... You're still young, and you still need to feel out the situation yourself... I knew a lot of "bi" people in high school who, once they were out of high school realized they weren't THAT bi, and could pretty much consider themselves straight... and therefore really have nothing to tell their parents. Not to say any of you will do the same, I'm just saying, give yourself some time, make sure you know yourself well enough to tell the rest of the world about it... And the reason I say keep it to yourself until you're 18 is... I have enough friends that their parents went completely skitzo when they found out they were gay... and its not a fun experience ESPECIALLY if you're 15 and HAVE to stick around a few years, or worse, you're 15 and they kick you out for it and you really arent even old enough for a job that makes you decent money.

Like I said, though, you want to know yourself really well before you decide to drop a bombshell on your parents... I dont know if any of you have heard of the Kinsey Scale... it was developed by Dr. Alfred Kinsey, and its a scale from 0 to 6... zero being completely heterosexual, and 6 being completely homosexual... well he (and I) believe that the VAST majority of people in this world fall in BETWEEN the zero and the six, and that there's very few people who are completely one or the other.

http://www.lgbtcampus.org/resources/training/kinsey_scale.html

So when it comes to telling the parents... its best to be absolutely sure about your feelings on the subject... a lot of you are much younger, and you'll learn that when you get out to college and whatnot, things are a lot different... there's a lot more sex going on in college and a lot less relationships... Thats when you will most likely discover how gay or straight you are. I'd say if you enjoy having sex with women but dont want relationships with them, dont bother telling your parents... (or if you're a guy, if you enjoy having sex with men but not relationships) Because thats all in your bedroom and thats only your business. However if you realize that you are completely bisexual, or homosexual... well then you have to decide when and how to tell your parents...

My last thing I wanted to mention is... and I've even experienced this personally... when you're younger... your parents might not take you as seriously... Some will think it's just a phase, and thats understandable, I knew a lot of people in high school who DID go through a phase where they claimed to be gay... So thats again why I say, just wait, give it a few years, be sure about your sexuality, and when you're a bit older your parents will be more likely to take you seriously.

I told my sister when I was 14 and she told me I was going through a phase, whatever, I wasn't gay, blah blah. Proved her wrong...

I'm sorry it has to be that way for you... I have friends that are in college and have been out of the house for a while who STILL just cant tell their parents because of how they'll react... its tough telling them whether you live with them or not... There is just a lot more at stake though when you still live with them...

The only thing is... if you ARE gay, and you DO know that youre parents are going to react really terribly... dont try hiding it forever... I have some friends who are adults, dont live at home anymore, and still wont tell their parents because they know their parents are going to go crazy (and instead, they're going crazy trying to hide it from them). Its inevitable... if you're gay, your parents will have to know sometime... You just have to prepare for the worst and blurt it out... you may get a silent treatment for 7 years, but at least youre not torturing yourself with hiding it anymore... (this is just a general note, not to you particularly Amaya). Do you plan to tell your dad once you move out? (that IS for Amaya)

stare I came out after my mom found me with my first gf.. She thought at first I wasnt serious and just experimenting.. After a while she really took notice to whom I was with, she started to forbid it then we got in loads of fights well when I told her straight up I was bi and she couldnt do a thing about it we got into a psyical fight and well yeah... She accepts it now because she knows Im to stubborn to care what others think. I have always been into girls and guys occaionaly more girls then guys but when it comes to girls Im more obsessed with look behavior, than with guys. Im just... Weird I guess. xp gonk

My mother and father give me that same look everytime i even look a girl. They alwayz think i'm thinking perverse, too, my brother's the same way. Me and my brother was watching a Alicia Keys vidoe together and he changed the channel b/c i was getting to in to Alicia's video. I hate the way he's been treating me [even b4 i came out he wasn't treating me any better] but it was ok. Now it's lyke[with my family] they feel i'm not normal and that fact that i go to an all girlz High School doesn'ty make it any better.

all boys school when ur gay? i can imagine. a big @ss slice of heaven! any boy with their hormones rapidly growing and is bi or gay would love that... *cough*dillion*cough*.
I've given up on telling my parents. they'll never know until im 76 in a nursing home and sleeping with a young 20 yr old nurse in my bed and making out like wildcats in heat. xp arrow kidding

When I figured out that I was a bi-sexual, it was easy for me to come out. One day I came hom and announced that I had a girlfriend. My parents were cool with it. I just have to watch out who to tell, and who not to tell.

I came out about 2 days ago. My mom found out when she snooped in my email account. It has been hard. I guess the hardest part was my mom finding out. She is a strong chrisitan and well she took it kinda hard. So far my life is a living hell, and to her I will be going to hell. She is mad at me for it and wont even look at me. It`s been bad. But I think that it will get better once she gets used to it. I think the hardest part is telling my grandpa cuz it will kill him. That was the hardest part for me.