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 Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 6:21 pm
I haven't told anyone yet, actually.
It's incredibly terrifying. I hear stories where parents and friends are like "Oh! Great! : D" and I'm incredibly envious. Stories where parents disown and kick out their children and friends ignore you are more what my case would be...
I'm actually still a little confused myself. xD It's hard to explain.
My friends in Illinois once figured me out...They were like, "Hey, you act kind of like a lesbian...are you?" I completely blanked and pretty much denied it in every way possible, and they were like, "Okay, good, 'cause we were worried for a sec." That's when I realized that not everybody's accepting. I didn't understand it. My whole family's pretty anti-gay, as well...I came out to my youngest brother, which was pretty cowardly. He's only 9. But he screamed "EW! YOU'RE GAY!" and ran away. I thought I was going to cry, really. I told him it was a joke, and after that, any courage I'd been building up has evaporated.
>x> I tried to hide my gender after that, for the longest time. I never had the guts to tell my current friends and teachers what name I'd like to be called (a boy's name), or what gender I'd like to be associated as (male).
Truly, I admire everyone here who's come out. I really do. I wish I had the guts to be so open like you do. I guess I'm really just frightened of being rejected by people I considered friends.
Okay, rant over. : D
I plan to come out...I guess through a letter, or written form of communication. I can't handle a face-to-face reaction, IMO. I'm kind of sensitive like that. D':
Even online, it's hard to even think about telling my 'online friends'. Mngh.
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Posted: Wed Sep 15, 2010 9:09 pm
I'm transgender
I know with my friends, almost all of them are in the "gay" group too, haha, so that was easy
My sister was in the "gay" group too, so when I told her she was perfectly accepting
My Dad I assume just felt awkward so he said he'd support me with whatever I want to due
But my mom insist it's just a phase, she's the least homophobic parent I know, but I know it's hard to accept
I haven't told my extended family, I don't know how well that'd go
I know my mom's side would be perfectly fine with it, my dad's side is the one I worry about
But yeah, basically
I'm happy to say that there are families out there who are very accepting of their children, and my family's one of them smile
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Posted: Fri Sep 17, 2010 1:00 am
Coming out would corrode my relationships, family ties, and my career.
There was a time where I tried to talk to my parents about such matters, and was swiftly kicked out.
So I'll stay happily in the dark.
No one's business but my boyfriend's, and my own.
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Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 8:14 pm
i was found out nuff said don't wanna bring up old scars of my past
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Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 12:17 am
It kinda just... happened. People just knew. I never said anything or hinted. Maybe its because I never had a bf, never dated any guys that asked me out, etc. Luckily everyone kept their mouth shut about the suspicion until I came out on my own. Sooo faaarrr, I'm not 100% out. As in, my parents don't know. Siblings do know. And most friends know. Yeah. I'm far from being open about it.
There is a gal I once knew that came out to her mom about being gay. Her mom didn't like it. So to get under her mom's skin about her being gay, she thought she'd remind her mom about it.
"...I'd like some cereal, oreos, I'm gay, we need milk, snacks, I'm gay, probably some chips, i'm gay..."
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 11:15 am
I just sort of did it. I was in high school at the time and I told one friend, and he said, "Okay, what was the important thing you had to tell me?" And then we kind of just laughed. I then told all my friends over the next couple of days when I saw them.
As for my family. My coming out got spread around my high school like herpes. My cousin heard, he told my entire family and I just confirmed it. No one but my dad really cared, and I am not allowed to bring my boyfriends over when I visit him. Which has caused a bit of a riff between me and him. My grandfather though, is angry at him for that and constantly trying to get me to bring my boyfriends over for family gatherings. He's so funny, he's like "Piss on what your dad says, I'm his dad and therefore I win. My word is more powerful."
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 4:55 pm
I just told my pan-curious friend on Facebook chat.
How weird.
It just happened.
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 5:48 pm
My father always knew...I grew up traveling with him and he just noticed that I liked being around men more....I never really had to come out...I was always out...
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Posted: Thu Sep 30, 2010 5:23 pm
I had a smart idea to tell my mom when she was drunk...i walked out of my room cause i was on the phone with a guuy who said he told his family and didnt wanna talk to me if i didnt, so i went to my moms room she was drinking and he was on the phone i told her"Mom i'm gay" she looked at me and said go to my room... she ignored me for 2 months but now were best friends. and come to find out the guy was still in the closet...but meh, at least i came out i was 13 at the time. so i have been out for 6 years now! <3
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Posted: Thu Sep 30, 2010 5:34 pm
I came out to my friends first, since they are all Gay, Bi, Lesbian. I knew that I wasen't going to lose them.Then I came out to my sisters who pretty much knew already.. they knew when I was 7 that I was going to be gay. Then my mommy was next we were actually fighting over school clothes, and she was like "that cardigan will make you look like a f*****t", and I just came out to her right there. At first she thought I was lying to get the cardigan I wanted, but I told her that I was coming out to her and she started to cry, sayying stuff like, "its hard life", and, "I never wanted this for you". But she accepted it she loves her baby boy a lot and she doesn't care. My dad was next, I couldn't do it so I told my mom to tell him because I was scared of what his reaction would be... But I was worried for nothing, he came to me as soon as he found out and gave me a hug and a kiss and told that he loved me no matter what.. As for new friends, all they have to do is ask the question I am not afraid to answer honestly.
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Posted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:05 pm
i am not sure what i am just yet but i am 100% positive my mom thinks i am a lesbian heart (dose that makes sense?) heart
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Posted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:53 pm
Was always gay (since I was a little kid...Just didn't really accept it or view it as being gay...) I found that i was actually attracted to girls, and in that period I didn't let anyone touch me (strange sort of denial lol). Then it wasnt until 6 grade that i really started to accept it (had a crush>\>... but didnt even know it was a crush until two years later XD ) My friend first kinda came out to me, an so i just went "Okay. I kinda figured." Then I started to openly show it more last year.
My convo with my mom went like this "Haha...that was funny....hey mom, what if i was bi/gay?" "Oh. Well, I realy don't care who you bring home, as long as you love them..." And my friends? I just told them. Theyw ere cool with it biggrin
It's not surprising since we all seem to enjoy slapping each other's asses for amusement and make really um..."strange" jokes XD
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 4:07 am
I'm still coming to terms with it and in many ways still in the closet.
I told my parents separately. I thought my dad would take it the easiest so I told him; unfortunately he didn't take it as chill as I thought he would, but we've come to an understanding. My mother was better than I expected. She's very religious and I thought I was going to have to pack a bag, but instead she was alright. Though I feel I can never bring any of my boyfriends home to meet them, it's a lot better than I thought it was going to be and am thankful for at least that much.
As for my friends, they've all been very accepting. I told my one friend first and she was quite excited that she then came out to me as a lesbian. XD!!!
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Posted: Fri Oct 15, 2010 6:40 pm
Okay, I haven't come out yet, and I tend to have a mini-heart attack every time think about doing, but I think I might've finally figured out how to do it.
To my mom and brothers and sisters, at least.
I have a great-aunt who's gay and has a partner.
My mom's always talking about how much I'm like her, usually referring to my love for reading.
I think I might just tell her I'm more like Aunt Janet than she thought.
The only problem I can see with it is that she's gay, not bi.
And usually when she compares me to her she says something about being like her 'in the good ways.'
I imagine my sisters will take it better than she will.
Now, actually doing is a whole other matter. . .
I think I'll wait til after college.
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Posted: Sun Oct 17, 2010 10:17 am
 I had a ******** up way of doing it. My mom just asked me "are you thinking of becoming gay?" and so therefore, I just answered yeah on impulse. Then she started to cry because she thought I'd never have grandkids (ADOPT GODDAMMIT) then she says I have to marry a dude to raise them, then my dad tells me when I get home that it's just a phase and I should date guys and never tell anyone. DAMMIT I'M GAY!! Why should I hide myself? @_@ srsly sometimes I want to cry from all this idiocy. I can't tell my mom that I have a crush on a girl and I have to date guys. I thought dad would be happy considering that I won't be preggy at all!! And also, always been, in fact when I was about seven I started thinking about nekkid girls (hey, I'd just gotten back from Vegas!) and by nine I'd accidentally thought about kissing my bff and it just got progressively worse. But the whole time I thought EVERY girl got this. They didn't. So at twelve I went "holy ******** I'm bi" (I said bi at first because I'd had a bf, but it still felt like lying so I'm much more comfortable now with my gayness). I'm like a biromantic gay girl because if a guy is truly good to me I may develop a crush, but I still prefer girls. And the one time I had a bf it was because I have a really weird habit of needing to impress someone, kinda like attention whoring. So here I am, doing that, but by day 2 he was a playmate that said nice things and at day 3 I wanted to throw him off the ship (the relationship lasted 3 days and we met on a disney cruise.) Can someone help me about this?
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