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 Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 1:35 pm
well i guess i will post in the sub forum then
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Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2005 5:24 pm
Today Derek and I held hands. It was so sweet! He's so shy, his hands were kinda sweaty, but I didn't mind. I'm such a dork. xp
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Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2005 5:47 pm
trippy hippy Today Derek and I held hands. It was so sweet! He's so shy, his hands were kinda sweaty, but I didn't mind. I'm such a dork. xp
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Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2005 10:04 pm
trippy hippy Today Derek and I held hands. It was so sweet! He's so shy, his hands were kinda sweaty, but I didn't mind. I'm such a dork. xp Awwww, congrats! biggrin
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 10:26 am
Derek and I went out for the first time last night. (we had only seen each other in school before then) Anyway, I had a lot of fun. We basicly just walked around, and hung out with friends. At the end of the night though, we were sitting on the bench waiting for my dad. My dad called, and said that he was there to pick me up. We got up, and Derek hugged me. It was the perfect moment for him to kiss me, but he didn't. Should I have kissed him first or should I just wait till he kisses me. I don't want to scare him ff, but I can tell that he sorta wants to kiss me. Also, I don't really like making the first move, I guess I'm old fashoined, but I like it when the guys do it.
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 2:25 pm
trippy hippy Derek and I went out for the first time last night. (we had only seen each other in school before then) Anyway, I had a lot of fun. We basicly just walked around, and hung out with friends. At the end of the night though, we were sitting on the bench waiting for my dad. My dad called, and said that he was there to pick me up. We got up, and Derek hugged me. It was the perfect moment for him to kiss me, but he didn't. Should I have kissed him first or should I just wait till he kisses me. I don't want to scare him ff, but I can tell that he sorta wants to kiss me. Also, I don't really like making the first move, I guess I'm old fashoined, but I like it when the guys do it. Do whatever you're comfortable with. If you want to try kissing him, then go ahead. If you want to wait for him to kiss you first, then you can do that instead. It might be that he's just as nervous as you when it comes to kissing, and isn't sure what to do. You could try asking him about it? Congrats on the date though! biggrin
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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 8:02 pm
Nikolita trippy hippy Derek and I went out for the first time last night. (we had only seen each other in school before then) Anyway, I had a lot of fun. We basicly just walked around, and hung out with friends. At the end of the night though, we were sitting on the bench waiting for my dad. My dad called, and said that he was there to pick me up. We got up, and Derek hugged me. It was the perfect moment for him to kiss me, but he didn't. Should I have kissed him first or should I just wait till he kisses me. I don't want to scare him ff, but I can tell that he sorta wants to kiss me. Also, I don't really like making the first move, I guess I'm old fashoined, but I like it when the guys do it. Do whatever you're comfortable with. If you want to try kissing him, then go ahead. If you want to wait for him to kiss you first, then you can do that instead. It might be that he's just as nervous as you when it comes to kissing, and isn't sure what to do. You could try asking him about it? Congrats on the date though! biggrin Thanks. I really had fun just talking to him. I love it when I really conect with people, and can just talk to them for hours. heart
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 7:04 pm
Okay, I read over the tips on how to get over your current break up but then I think about it and some things i just cant bring myself to do... actually most things stare
Some of the things he gave me or that I have of him are just too precious to leave behind. Like a wristband he gave me... I promised that I'd never take it off, and it's glow-in-the dark too! 3nodding And my pajamas are the shirt that he asked me out with (that sounds wierd but it was really sweet), his overesize jacket and some pants... I just cant do it... I tried but I just can't... and I told him that I'd brong his stuff back and he told me he didn't want it and to keep it. I just really can't part from it. There's a few other things as well but yeah...
Another thing... if I seriously had to have no-contact from him for 60 days, I think I might die. I mean I love him, and after like half a day I'm ready to just UGH! I dont know but it's bad. But even if we got in a fight that made us break apart, I still love him more than life and I'd do anything for last night to have just like... not happened.
And frankly, I don't want to get over him. I never want to forget him, I never want to move on. All I want is him back in my arms... I really need him.
I guess I don't need help getting over him, because that's not even what I want. Is there something here about fixing a fight? We've been through the worst before... like when we were just friends he got mad at me and I wasn't his friend at all for a while... the feeling now is like 10x worse, but I really, honestly think we can work this thing out... if only he would talk to me sweatdrop
On a side note, my big sister's coming in tonight for a visit (she was off at college) and she was looking forward to being here for out first kiss... (well we already kissed but it was just uh... practice! sweatdrop ) How do I tell her that she wont be able to be here for it because he dumped me last night...? Do you know how much that'd hurt her? And ultimately me?
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 9:49 pm
It just takes some time hun. I held onto the poems that my first boy friend wrote me until 2 or 3 years into my current relationship. You don't have to give up everything either. The longer you are apart you will get over him but there is nothing wrong with holding on to items you love. It's him you have to let go, not them.
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 9:57 pm
That's just how things go sometimes. I bet your sister might be a little disappointed, but it's not like you had any control over him breaking up with him.
Even if you want to talk to him, and try to work things out, it might be best for you to give him some time to himself. That way both of you can settle down a bit, calm your emotions, and then maybe talk more sensibly later on.
I still haven't had the big talk with my ex (I have some questions for him), and it's been almost 8 months since he broke up with me. At the time all I wanted was him back, but it took my current boyfriend to show me how flawed my relationship with him really was.
I still have a lot of things from my ex. I've put away all my pictures of him/us, including group pictures from grad I had in frames until a week or two ago. I still have some old clothing he gave me, though I don't think I'll wear it again. I have jewellery from him I'll sell sooner or later. I have artwork he drew for me, etc etc. I just put it away and I don't look at any of it. I remind myself that even though he said he loved me, he treated me like crap for the last 6 months of our relationship, and he did it to himself. It's his loss, and my boyfriend's gain. I'm with someone now who loves me the way I should've been loved the first time around, and we are both very committed to each other, and we love each other very much. So I am not sad anymore. heart
It will take time, but you will move on eventually.
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Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:05 pm
i just found out that the guy i like has just gotten a gf.. wat a downer
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 5:07 pm
Nikolita trippy hippy Derek and I went out for the first time last night. (we had only seen each other in school before then) Anyway, I had a lot of fun. We basicly just walked around, and hung out with friends. At the end of the night though, we were sitting on the bench waiting for my dad. My dad called, and said that he was there to pick me up. We got up, and Derek hugged me. It was the perfect moment for him to kiss me, but he didn't. Should I have kissed him first or should I just wait till he kisses me. I don't want to scare him ff, but I can tell that he sorta wants to kiss me. Also, I don't really like making the first move, I guess I'm old fashoined, but I like it when the guys do it. Do whatever you're comfortable with. If you want to try kissing him, then go ahead. If you want to wait for him to kiss you first, then you can do that instead. It might be that he's just as nervous as you when it comes to kissing, and isn't sure what to do. You could try asking him about it? Congrats on the date though! biggrin ...I'm kinda the same way with my Gf. You see, we have been going out for about 2 weeks and yeah I have some chances on kissing her, but I mean I want to make it real special so I'm waiting for the perfect time. THough, at times it's seems that I should of done it then and there, but I mean I'm thinkin it would be better if I did it somewhere else. Am I tryin to hard? Cuz I think so. ... xd could to give me some feed on that?
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 7:16 pm
Kiss her wherever and whenever feels comfortable with you. If you want to make it special, maybe wait until you're alone, or on a date together, etc.
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 5:36 pm
very useful information...
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 10:22 am
my two cents on online dating: i met my boyfriend at a messageboard about three years ago. we started talking on AIM and quickly became close friends--despite the fact that i was 16 and he was 21. sweatdrop about five months into being friends, he admitted that he was into me, and i told him the same. we did nothing but chat and talk on the phone for the next two years. we sent each other some packages as well (we had exchanged pictures long before this). last summer, i finally saved up enough money to buy a ticket and fly out to see him (i'm from the US, he lives in Stockholm). obviously i wasn't raped or murdered or anything, so everything went just fine. so...what did we do right? first of all, i knew i would have to wait to visit him until i was of age. not only would the time be a sort of "relationship test," but it also avoided legal complications. we were always absolutely honest with each other. being supportive and making time for the other person also goes without saying. i didn't tell my mom until she was already comfortable with me meeting other online friends. when i decided she was, i was completely honest and told her that i was flying out to see this person beause we were in a relationship. she wasn't exactly overwhelmingly supportive, but she trusted me to take care of myself. i made alternative arrangements with a real life friend of mine in England in case staying with my boyfriend suddenly became an issue. he made sure to save up enough money to buy extra food and entertainment while i was there. pros for 'net dating for me: first of all, i find it hard to meet people in real life just in general. finding a partner struck me as a million times more daunting, because not only am i awkward but i'm a rather unattractive, too. i know you can meet people in real life without being a supermodel, but not being the 36-24-36 "standard" really did a number on my self-esteem. i didn't know how to present myself to people, and i still don't. if i were single right now, i would have no idea how to go about finding someone on my campus to date. second of all, if you're meeting someone online (barring 'net dating services), you've probably met them at a place to share a mutual interest. i met my boyfriend at an Invader Zim/Jhonen Vasquez messageboard, for example. and with something as huge as Gaia, you're bound to meet people within your Gaia "circles," ie people who post in the same interests forum as you. that already gives you a lot to talk about as well as the chance for other potential mutual interests. if you have a good long distance plan (like my boyfriend) then calling can be quite affordable, even cheap. if you don't, there are voice chats on AIM or things like Skype. i also didn't find his real life self significantly different than his 'net "persona," or at least not in any bad way. there is nothing that can compare to hugging a person and watching how they move and react and express themselves in realtime, to be sure, but that doesn't mean you're necessarily in for a nasty shock. being away from him for so long made all of the nuances of his behaviour and movement that much more endearing to me. also, you can meet people on the 'net that you would never meet in real life. given our different high school "crowds" and our age difference, it's highly unlikely that my boyfriend and i would have met in real life if we had grown up near each other. the only real cons i've found are other people. they tend to react negatively (or at best, neutrally) if you mention that your significant other is someone you've met online. many people still think the 'net is populated by little more than ***** stalkers and their prey, so just beware the stigma. distance is a b***h, to be sure, but i'm rather used to it. edit: cheap date ideas: a picnic outside somewhere, followed by an easily manageable outdoorsy thing: throwing a frisbee, playing catch, etc. i prefer playing bocce ball. gaming together is fun, if you have any sort of system. biggrin even just watching a movie you own or borrowed from a friend is nice. my boyfriend and i also read to each other. it's silly, but it's fun.
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