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 Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2005 9:55 pm
My story is long and will not post it all here...
I have been a single parent since day one...he walked when he knew I was preggers... came back six years later with wife #5 trying for custody...seven years of court and then he walks away again... anyway, like I said, very long story.
Being a parent is the hardest job i have ever had. They sent me home with a two day old infant and I had never even changed a diaper before (Pathetic for a 33 year old, i know!) Through colic and teething and 1000's of diapers later, I have a beautiful, talented and great kid I take full credit for! smile Because he did come back, she was at first enamored, but slowly began to see for herself what he was like. When she started to stand up for herself, he was gone again.
Although he was making about 45k a year, he quit his job (wifey supports him 100%, or so they say) so no CS either... great guy...NOT!!!
No day is easy, but every one is worth it. I have found, probably for the first time in my life, unconditional love in my child's eyes. I fell head over heels in love the first time she smiled at me and I KNEW it was just for me (till then I had been pretty scared!)
We take one day as it comes, and some are pretty hard. Having kids later in life can be good in that you have more experience and have done many of the things you may have wanted already. However, the downside is that your body may not bounce back like a younger mom sad and puberty and menopause do not mix well! twisted
I don't just love my daughter because she is my daughter, but I really like who she is and enjoy her company. I admire her sense of loyalty to friends and her courage. No matter how hard things can be, I would never trade it for anything in the world!
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Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2005 10:15 pm
Misty, that was beautiful. You are such a strong woman, what an awesome example for you daughter! heart
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Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2005 10:34 pm
Legally I am a singal parent, but emotionally I really dont think I am, he dosent live with us but he is allways over here when possible and when i cant handle things he comes over and takes her and she spends the night at his house twice a week
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 12:28 am
lunashock Misty, that was beautiful. You are such a strong woman, what an awesome example for you daughter! heart
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 10:10 am
Yay D is going through a stage where he kicks my knees when he's in his highchair. stare Great.
I'd also like to ask why it's so hard to find a decent day care that doesn't charge an arm and a leg? What's up with that?
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Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 8:11 am
Yeah daycare is way too expensive, especially if it's a good facility. Im having a hard time finding a good one that isn't too harsh on my wallet.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 9:30 pm
Hi
I've been a single mum for ..... well on and off scince i was pregnat with my first, then full time when for about 4 yrs now.
I got married when I found out I was pregnat at 18. When i was 8mnths he left me for the first time. We tryed to work it out for a while after she was born but he left on several occasions. He left permantly when I was 2mnth preggers with my boy.
The relationship was a very abusive one, and I had a lot of trouble with him for about 2yrs after that. I finally got the courage up to put a Domestic Violence Order on him, and I didn't hear from him for years.
Then he turned up again about a year ago... and I've been trying to work out papers on visitations etc .... This is all in his hands now ... so if he wants to see the kids, he has to sort everything out.
The kids seem to be well ajustered considering everything they've been through.
I am currently studying Multimedia and working as a Graphic Designer during the holidays.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:08 pm
Yeah, no offense or anything, but that's why I don't believe in marrying the father of your child just because you're having his child. I don't think I could have put myself or my son through that. sweatdrop I'm glad you got out of it though. It's hard to get out of an abusive relationship.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 10:21 pm
No offence taken .... its hard when u don't think you have any choice. I had a very sheltered upbringing, and I thought i was doing what was best.
I would never recomend anyone follow the same road as me.
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2005 8:33 pm
Ah...after watching my friend's parents and having my parents drill the concept that you don't marry a guy just because you're having a child. I decided to not marry him.
Life is all about learning from your mistakes though. At least you can warn other people away from that road now.
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 2:44 pm
Blah...nothing new. Just bought D some new shoes. Thank you for Payless. He grew out of his shoes overnight. Difficulties... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 9:11 pm
I have been a single parent for nearly 12 years now. My husband left when my daughter was 5 months old and although he's very active in her life, he's still doing the weekend dad thing... taking her expensive places, buying her expensive toys and such (that do not come home) and then giving me grief over CS. lol.. gotta love guys, right?
anyway, she is now 11... happy, healthy, and way too damned smart for her mom smile
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 9:52 pm
Sounds about right. How is your daughter handling the whole divorce thing?
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Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 9:58 pm
she's never known anything different. She still has those fantasies that her father and i will get back together, but other than that, it doesn't seem to phase her at all since he's been out of the house since she was tiny.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 8:05 pm
I'm not sure how my son will react yet. sweatdrop
In a way I think he seems to think my dad is his dad.
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