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 Posted: Mon Oct 09, 2006 12:25 pm
I've only had 4 boyfrinds in my whole life, i just turned 19.
I love the boyfriend I'm with right now and I have a beautiful baby boy (it isn't my boyfriends)
But I can't help still thinking about my ex, Eli. We loved each other very much and after a year together we decied to have sex, we were each other's first. The first time we didn't use a condom, after that we wanted to tell our parents so they can help us get the proper birth control. My mother was fine with it and wanted to take me to get "the pill". Well when we told his mother, she freaked and demanded that we never see each other again. After that we spent one more day together, of course behind her back. And had sex one last time, I gave my heart to him and i sometimes feel like I would do anything to at least have his friendship.
The good thing is that his best friend is my cousin so that's how I can kind of see how's he's doing. I've told my cousin to tell him to call me or some how get into contact with me. Nothing so far, But I have heard my cousin tell my sister that even if he mentions my name Eli gets upset. Their are times when he'll ask my cousin how i'm doing, and he still tells my cousin to tell me happy birthday.
I'm sure I still care for him and I think he does too.
I'm just not sure why he dosen't want to talk to me, I mean he knows I have a boyfriend and a baby and I know he has a girlfriend.
But I still would want to know what I should do.
-call him
-wait for him
-or just try to forget everything
PM opinions are welcomed
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Posted: Wed Nov 08, 2006 9:56 am
i've had two boyfriends as well, im currently single however, (relationships were interferring too much with school) i was sort of sexual with the first, but the second one, my previous ex, we were very sexual. i dont feel sorry because i loved and still do love him very much. i did have a few pregnancy scares and places like this helped me through it because i could find people who were in the same situation. Mostly it was just my birth control throwing my cycle off......ive never been pregnant....but it is scary so thats why i joined this guild so i can help people who go through the same things i have.
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Posted: Fri Nov 17, 2006 2:23 am
Since my last post I've gone through a couple of relationships...
I broke up with that guy in October '05, deciding that since I was meeting new people and I didn't know when I'd see him again it was too difficult to maintain the relationship. I developed a head over heels crush on my friend Matt, which lead to nothing but heartache for about six months. In May I met Laurence and thought I had feelings for him but soon realised I didn't, so we broke up a week later. We're still really great friends though. He introduced me to Loz in June, and I came to be really good friends with him too. We'd even gone to school together, although he was in the year above me.
In July Laurence introduced me to another of his friends called Phil. Phil invited me out one night and we ended up kissing. I fell so fast for him but after three days he dumped me for another girl. I've since learned that he is extremely fickle but we've stayed friends for the most part.
After me and Phil broke up I started seeing Loz a lot more. It didn't mean anything at the time, because he was seeing one of my friends. He'd talk to me about her and I'd talk to him about Phil, who it took me a few weeks to get over. Not long after this I realised I had feelings for Loz, but couldn't act on them. So I didn't say anything.
On August 4th him and his girlfriend broke up because she cheated on him. I thought he was devastated but me and Laurence refused to leave him by himself to be depressed. He spent the whole next day with me and I want him to leave, but he had to go home. I saw him on Sunday evening at the pub and didn't want to go home, but I had to anyway. I came out that night and we went to Laurence's house for a couple of hours, where we both got slightly tipsy. He walked me home and then he said...
"It might be too soon after Katie, but I think I like you." He hadn't said it straight away, I kinda had to prompt him because he was being shy. We'd sobered up by this time and hearing him say that made me so happy. I shyly replied that I liked him too, and there we shared our awkward first kiss.
I've seen him absolutely every day that I could since then, which only leaves two weeks in which I didn't see him out of the three months we've been together now. We say we got together August 7th because it was 4:30 Monday morning that we finally got together.
I've honestly never been happier and though we know that our odds aren't statistically likely we want to stay together. I've also since discovered that he didn't have many feelings for Katie and that being with me is what he always expected a relationship to be like. <3
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Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 3:05 pm
Hm...My first miscarriage was sometime last year. I noticed it happened early in the morning around 7:30, maybe. After that I called my (ex)boyfriend right away and told him what was up. I was too shocked at first to actually feel the whole "Omg I lost what could have been my child", so I was okay. Later on when it finally sank in, my (ex)boyfriend would hold me and tell me its okay and would comfort me about it.
Right now I'm okay again. I don't really regret the sex or anything, because it just felt like it made me closer to him, but I do wish that the child could have been born. I've always wanted a child of my own and so far miscarriages are the closest I've been.
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Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 3:34 am
My name's Ali.
I have a simple history.
I'm in my very first relationship and I've very happy with it.
I've been dating my boyfriend for two days past a year and one month.
He's 17 and I'm 15.
I gave my virginity to him when I was 14.
...I wasn't ready back then, but because I'm still with him, and I know now that I love him, I don't regret it.
...He was also a virgin up until that night.
He got me pregnant once, but I ended up miscarrying. (Luckilly for me, it was before any signs of pregnancy were visible to my mother.) If I didn't miscarry, I would have aborted it because;
1: I don't have enough money for a kid.
2: I plan on going to college and not having a child to weigh me down.
3: I'm not even physically equipt to have a kid. I have a very weak and frail body.
Anyway...
We don't often have sex; It's reserved as a rare and beautiful thing.
And I plan to move in with him next year when he's old enough to get his own appartment. ^_^
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 3:29 am
-Seing the kraken:I'm happy for that blaugh
-Toasti:Miscarriage=abortion? (I'm sorry, I'm from PR...main language is spanish.)
-Ali, in a year you'll be just 16. Take things easy, altought you love him, take things calmed and easy, love waits, theres never a hurry. And if you don't want to end up pregnant use protection always.
As for me:
I have 17, my boyfriend has 21. We have been together for 6 1/2 months. We've been trough a lot of stuff, but we fight, because we do know that we are ment for each other. Hopefully, things will be the same or better and we'll marry after he finishes his studies...or after we both do. :D
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Posted: Fri May 18, 2007 2:32 pm
I hope my story sheds a little bit of light on the whole teenage sex thing. ._. I think it's okay for me, as long as I'm responsible.
My first boyfriend ever, Adrian, and I started going out in September of 2005. I had just turned 13 and he was 14. We moved quickly because it was intense. We were in love from nearly the moment it began. We first had sex when I was 13 and we were both virgins, but I've since realized it was too early. But since our relationship worked out, it became okay. I now feel fully mature and not pressured into it, like when I was 13. (He wasn't pressuring me, I was pressuring myself.) A year into our relationship, I had gradually become more and more depressed due to an eating disorder, and since he was gone without even a phone for half the summer, I'd tried to replace him. When he came back, there was no place for him, and I was clingier than I normally am. We broke up for four months, but in those months, we both grew and matured. We both realized how wonderful the relationship could be if we were more honest to each other. Now, we're together again, and every second with him is wonderful. We haven't had a serious fight since the very beginning of the second try at our relationship, and that was because we were still hiding things from each other. I've made a decision to not have sex with him until I get on the pill, but I've had sex with him since we got back together, and it's been great. I fully believe I'm going to marry him.
We've been together a year and 9 months June 5th.
He'll be 16 in a few days, and I'm 14 now.
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Posted: Sat Aug 04, 2007 9:37 pm
AloneAngel This is more the "other side" I suppose. I dunno, I started babbling in another thread before I thought, oops, maybe this belongs in the Life Experiences" section. So, here it goes: By choice I wanted to wait until I was 18 to date. I didn't want to waste my time with casual dating since I was pretty sure anyone I met in middle school wouldn't be with me all of my life. Even in high school, that left a huge period of time where one goes through all sorts of changes in life. (Note: my best friend is a guy from middle school, and my fiance I met a couple months before we graduated high school. Not to contradict or undermine what I just wrote, but I'm acknowledging the facts. Although... doesn't mean it would have been easy.) Anyway, I adored the idea of having all my "firsts" with the man I married and having all these common experiences. It works well for me. I know not everyone would agree or prefer this, and that's fine. It's just that, in my little world, it made me joyful. heart I did wait until I was 18; after almost a year of friendship, praying, and dating he asked me out. I loved him dearly and passionately, and found thousands of ways to make love to him without having any form of sex. Although we did break up for a period of time... Sometimes I did momentarily regret not sharing such an important experience with him. Then again, I shared TONS of life experiences with him that no one could take away, and I was glad to save the most important to share with my husband (God willing). He was still my first boyfriend/kiss/love, etceteras. I accomplished many of my life goals as well. Fortunately for the both of us we got back together and are now engaged and I think this decision has worked out best for us. Sex is an intimate thing and for me, I value that greatly.
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Posted: Sat Aug 04, 2007 10:07 pm
I had my first boyfriend when I was 15, he wasn't the greatest guy. He never wanted to do anything with me and did anything that he could to stay away from me. Which has made my depression even more worse than it was before. We somehow stayed together for four months, but that's only because I couldn't get a hold of him and it would've only had been about two months long. So after about 8 months of being single I decided to go out with another guy, I wasn't too sure about this but I did choose to go out with him (because I had met several guys on the internet, and wanting to go out with a 23 year old guy), which I think he saved me from myself. I had my first kiss with him,he was very physical with me. But I told him that I'm waiting for marriage to have sex and he said he was too but now I don't believe him because he broke up with me to try to go out with another friend of ours to sleep with her. But know I'm with another guy who is four years younger than me. Only bad thing is that he's still in middle school and I'm in high school, so we'll only get to go to the same school together for one year.(P.S. I did edit this)
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Posted: Mon Sep 03, 2007 1:18 am
i just turned 17 and i am very much in love with my boyfriend but i'm not here to talk about him as much as would like to i am not. i am here to talk about another boy whome i have known since kindergarden. we met in kindergarden and have been very very good friends since then he was my best guy friend. we always hung out during recess and in class.
As we got older going through puberty things bewteen us changed as they tend to do for young teens. i didn't see him as my best friend who played power rangers with me but as a crush. so in 7th grade we began our two year flirtation. some time during 8th grade he asked me out over an IM of course i said yes, really it seemed so perfect the whole fairy tail picture. best friends growing up dating, how could it not work right? Oh was i ever wrong, that is when life went down from there.
he asked me out i said yes, he told me he wasn't aloud to date till he was 16,(he is younger than me like most of the guys in my grade) so i told him i would wait for him till he was 16. that summer was good we talked and keeped in tough while on vacations. than in the 9th grade he got a girl friend, he was 15, a year younger than what he told me. i confronted him telling him that i was happy when i really wanted to punch his sorry a**. he led me on thinking i would be his first girlfriend when he was going behind mine and his parents backs.
i eventually got over it and was moveing on when later in the year he tells me that she broke up with him of course i'm happy that he's single. so he askes me out again i say yes and i though this was the real deal. but was i oh so wrong. a few days after he askes me out he starts to ignore me, i have no idea why. i ask him and he just walks off with out a single word to me. so then i aks my friends to talk to him becase i know he would. they tell me that he and his ex got back to gether... WHAT!!! i thought we were going out?! my best friend said that he appoligized to every one of my friends but what good does that do him right i'm the one he hurt. what happend to my fairy tail?
Now i'm a junior in high school madly in love with my boyfriend and and couldn't be any happier with my situation now. So you may be asking what is the point of this little story i'm telling you? well, the point is it's not always going to be a fairy tail. and don't wait for him/her. if they say that they can't date than find some one else don't spend all of your time waiting for them when they may find someone else. you will be the one hurt in the end.Some times you have to make your own fairy tails happen and can't just sit by and wait for it. but don't worrie it's not all bad you may even find some one even better who will change your life, i have and i'm never going to let him go.
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Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 11:28 am
About 3 years ago I was in my first relationship because I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 (I'm 19 now) He was really nice.. but he wasn't the one for me yet.. went out for 2 months but didn't even kiss. ^^'
It was about my 4th bf at age 17 that I lost my virginity to. We had been going out for 5 months and it sorta seemed right at the moment. I DID want to wait til marriage... but that didn't happen. We went out for a total of 9 months 'cause I found out he was subtly controlling and I couldn't handle that. It was a bad breakup.
Then I sorta hit a bad stage where I fooled around with a LOT of guys, not sex, but it got damn near close a few times. Including an almost one-night stand with one of my classmates... -_- Not too long after, I found out that my first bf had broken up with his gf of two years months ago, and it was a bad breakup.
So I started talking to him more, especially after I saw him when I was at work and he was there. So we started hanging out a LOT and I was able to help him through that hard stage.. and we're going out again. It seems that my first bf will be my last. He's absolutely wonderful. ^_^
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Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 8:24 pm
I'm 16 and have never been in any relationships, although I came close to having a boyfriend two times. The first was in seventh grade, when one of my guy friends asked me out, then became a total jerk and broke up with me two days later (many of you might consider that somewhat of a relationship, but I don't). The second was during this past school year when another guy I'm friends with asked me out the day before our school's homecoming dance. I said no, because he was not the type of guy I would go out with. He is really nice, and we still talk, but we are not going out. A lot of you may think this whole story is really lame, which is ok, but please don't make fun of me.
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 4:42 pm
mitchelmussosgirl I'm 16 and have never been in any relationships, although I came close to having a boyfriend two times. The first was in seventh grade, when one of my guy friends asked me out, then became a total jerk and broke up with me two days later (many of you might consider that somewhat of a relationship, but I don't). The second was during this past school year when another guy I'm friends with asked me out the day before our school's homecoming dance. I said no, because he was not the type of guy I would go out with. He is really nice, and we still talk, but we are not going out. A lot of you may think this whole story is really lame, which is ok, but please don't make fun of me. Nothing wrong with it. smile
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Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:41 am
Hey my name is Laura, and here's my life experience. Alright so here's a little back story, I'm 17 and half, my best friend is 18 and we've been friends for 13 years, her name's Beatrice. And before this guy (the story I'm about to tell you) I've only made out with 4 people and never had a serious relationship.
So it all started this summer, near the end of the summer we started to hang out with Beatrice's ex Logan, he just started hanging out with us so he could start dating her (they dated a few years ago and he never really got over her). Well Beatrice decided that she didn't like him, but didn't want to tell him that because he buys her stuff. So Logan (btw he's 20) came over to my house one night and he brought over alcohol. It was only me, him, and 2 other people.I got drunk really fast and I ended up giving him a handjob. I felt terrible about it because I thought Beatrice was going to find out, and then after about a week I gave him a b*****b.
This went on for a couple of months until Oct 3. I was giving him a b*****b on my bed and I heard someone go in the bathroom. I came out to yell at our friends and I found out Beatrice was in the bathroom. I got Logan dressed and we were out of my room in a couple of seconds. 3 weeks had gone by and we hadn't done anything since that friday. Well that night we got drunk Me, Logan, Beatrice, and a couple of our other friends. Well me and Logan went to my back room to talk and we had a really deep talk, and then I ended up giving him head, and we decided that the next day we were going to have sex. The next day he came over to my house we got drunk again and we had sex. I had never had anything inside me before except for 2 of his fingers and tampons. It was painful and I cried. I actually bled. Then a couple of weeks later we got high and had sex again. Since then I have been trying to have sex with him sober.
So this weekend I went to my moms and I was basically out of contact with everyone, but I texted Logan the first night and he wanted to read a blog that I wrote on my myspace and set to private, basically the entire blog was about how I liked him, and I didn't why he still liked Beatrice, and how Beatice had told a ton of people that she didn't like him anyway. After he read it he texted me back the next day and told me I was a whore and I acted like I wanted to f*ck every guy I hang out with or meet. Also he through in the fact that his life is sh*t because he had sex with me. So on Friday him and Beatrice got drunk together and started dating, this is probably the most depressed I've ever been in my entire life, and theres not any good reason for me not to invite him over anymore. Which means every weekend him and Beatrice (along with some other people) will be spending the night at my house and cuddling on my couch. which they already do.
I want to be friends with both of them but I want Beatrice to find out about us. I don't really know what to do or think or say anymore. I'm waiting for Logan to be back in town so I can talk to him.
So there's my Life Experiences all with a man who wants nothing to do with me.
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