Deegrading
You should probably stop posting in the OOC if you don't like how people
react to what you say, because that will not change.
Choose to perceive, and then respond.
Responsible. Able to respond.
Each person is responsible for their comments and actions.
I am accountable for things I've written, and comments that I've made.
But every person in here has agreed to uphold ToS, which means refraining from flaming.
No where in Darth's post is he insulting me, simply challenging each point I've tried to make, and expanding on his logic or reasoning behind it.
I actually enjoy when he challenges me, because he's thoughtful and thorough in it.
Crawley and Fox? They take every opportunity to insult me personally inside or outside of an argument, or any comments that I make.
I've asked them to stop countless times, but it seems that it's accepted and semi-justified by people like yourself, if and when those type of comments are directed at yourself or other senior members of Leviathan, those individuals end up banned out of the guild.
The fact that Fox mentions being banned or getting banned after everything that he says to me shows that he is aware that what he is doing is wrong.
But because none of you specifically or generally will hold them responsible, and choose to instead justify it by saying that I deserve it because you choose to find my opinions insulting is a contributing factor to this continuance of harassing me and consequently breaking ToS.
I am a negative person, I see things in that light more often than not, and it's not personal. It's how I see things, and the patterns of behavior in the tone of the writing, and comments that are made.
As for my participation in roleplays, nothing really holds my interest right now. People I've tried to engage in some sort of interaction go on and on about how great their group in and so forth.... but from my perspective, it's only great for the people involved.
So from my position, the person being excluded and ostrasized, it sucks.
Passively aggression is acting or speaking indirectly upon a subject, or the object of conflict. That isn't me. I am straight forward and direct. If I'm asked something, I answer, if I have an opinion, then I share it as a thought that comes out as I type. Making a statement that also applies to myself, is projecting. It's a coping mechanism.
An example would be my asking Darth to roleplay a scene from a story with me in a particular thread. To Darth, it's an Rp, but if that roleplay is intended to indirectly address a particular person for the purpose of hurting them, then that is passively aggravating.
I have not said "This only applies to you guys and not me"... so their is no hypocrisy in my statements.
Darth's statements, while he is not responsible for anyone other than himself, he provided the fodder for Fox and Crawley to act on. The same thing happened in Leviathan over this whole banning of a Cupcake player, when no less than five or six different members of the guild jumped into his argument with a person to interject their own observations into an interaction that had nothing to do with them.
He had asked them to allow himself to deal with an individual or the argument at hand himself instead of everyone jumping on the band wagon. That is what I was referring to.
The question of Darth's statements bearing validity wasn't what was stated.
The observation that certain people use his statements to springboard their campaign of hate was the point that was being made.
If you know that people are going to use what you say as an opportunity to harass the ******** out of me, then why make the response in such a fashion as to provide that opportunity?
My pessimistic demeanor attachments a motivation outside of the actual argument to the actions of providing that opportunity.
You say implication of an insult, I say personal preference of style of Rp and who I enjoy and contrast that to the experience that I've had here... and you choose to find that insulting. *shrugs*
No one has to justify their personal preferences for anything in this guild or in my opinion anywhere else.
I think that people have a choice when they read my opinions. They can choose to find my preferences and observations insulting, or they can choose to take it for what it is. My opinion, which in the grand scheme of things doesn't mean ******** all.
My nose isn't turned up in the air. I've made an effort to talk to whomever is around in the threads that I've posted in, and tried not to exclude anyone. I've Pm'd most people I've seen in the thread to chat about whatever, or ask for Rping. The exception being for those that go out of their way to attempt to bait me, or flame me outright.
Actions which NONE of you would tolerate toward yourselves, but somehow it's alright to do it to me. Because I'm a negative person, and don't agree with what you might have to say and decide to speak on it.
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