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...I fee so incredibly lost about all of this....... crying

When i go see my doctor this upcoming appt on the 22nd, I will talk to her about.....all of this.....

So far, I like my doctor. She is always very concerned about my needs.

But how do you know what to reserach or what is significant or what isn't? Lie what would be surprised if I didn't ask about it, or what really wouldn't matter if I did ask about it?

Everything is just so overwhelming. I don't even know what to talk or ask about anymore.

It's because parents were using it for everything but it has Salilycates in it (Asprin) so if the child has the flu it can Cause Reyes Syndrome.

NOW onto what is important.

Knowing EVERYTHING is not what's really important it's just knowing generally what you'd want if given an option. And really, having a doctor who would give you the option.

Do you want little medical intervention? Lots?
Do you want to be able to move around? (Some hospitals make it policy that you stay in bed)
Do you think you'd want to be able to sip juice or milk or tea instead of just ice chips?
Do you want to be offered drugs straight out?
WHAT ARE your feelings on drugs, epidural, spinal block?
Basically if you could have an IDEAL PERFECT birth what would happen?


If you can lay that out as goal while keeping in mind that sometimes there are medical impediments such as meconium staining, difficult to monitor babies, etc. then you should do just fine.

You just need to make sure that you get what you ask for within reason. I mean you're not stupid, I'm not stupid, no one here is stupid, we all know that a birth plan and our ideals go right out the window if something is medically wrong.

But we shouldn't be treated like something is wrong if our pregnancy and labor is going just fine. I went through 36 hours of labor with them telling me that my baby was doing BEAUTIFULLY, her heart rate was FANTASTIC, my BP, my heart rate everything was GORGEOUS WONDERFUL PERFECT! oh but stay in that bed.

It's the difference between feeling like you've "GIVEN BIRTH" and someone "Delivered your baby." The difference between doing something or having something DONE to you. Birth should feel like you've DONE something. I am still in awe about how perfect and amazing my second birth experience was. And I didn't even get to do all the things I "Wanted" to. But I was listened to.

Been a few days, how is everyone doing?

Found out I won some gift basket when I did some thing at BRU. The downside is they're coming out to my house to talk about schools, which is something my husband I kinda need to do anyways, but I HATE having strangers over to the house.

I feel like I have this weird look of pregnancy. I don't really feel like I have a big pop towards the bottom of my gut, but it's like all the pushed guts all went to the top so I feel bloated or something. I know it only gets worse, right? For some reason though it's weird to me, lol.

My fundal height has been consistently measuring over as well, but a half-inch is only about a CM higher, so it's not anything to be worried about.

It's good you got out and found out now that they were not going to be a good fit for you and not when they had you already strapped to the bed. Some place's C-section and epi. rates ARE terrifying when you look at what the national average is compared to them. Because I personally do not like a hospital or doctor that resorts to those more often then I feel they should and they weren't necessary. They provided us with a stat sheet for the CNMs at our hospital vs. even the CNM national average so I feel better knowing they have comparable or even slightly lower then average rates.

Will be 31 weeks on Sunday, it's getting close.

how exciting 4laugh yay for babies =P

Not much on this preggo front. My 16 week checkup is Tuesday, so I'm excited because then they'll put the order in for my u/s.

I ended up not getting that gift basket because the lady lied and was using shady practices to sell her services. So, after some complaints, I was surprised with a $25 gift card from BRU. I'm not sure what to get just yet, lol.

baby update..had my checkup today ..babys due date is officially aug 8th now and they say its final but he is still measuring too big they say 21 weeks 1 day he's measuring 23 wks 5 or 6 days eek so i have to go in for a special ultrasound and fetal testing i just hope everything is ok. My morning sickness is back with vengence but im steadily gaining 1lb a wk like they want so its no biggie. How's everyone else?