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 Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2004 7:58 am
um... id have to say... the coming out part. *rolls eyes*
seriously, it was just fear... fear that my friends would hate me, which my male friends did after, and fear of not being accepted. but it's cool now that I'm out... but I do have to take alot of s**t from others...
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 8:45 pm
Surprisingly, it wasnt the actual coming out. It was easy to say it to my friends, and it was easy to get the words out- compared to after. My family didnt disown me; they just didnt take me seriousy, saying that its just a phase, that lots of gay people turn straight, and that I dont have enough 'experience'. Then that it wasnt 'appropriate' to discuss my sex life with them (mind you it was just fine when i had a boyfirend- thats ALL they wanted to talk about!). My mum went on *lovely* chat about how shell never get to be a grandmother. I tried to point out that theres adoption and artificial insemination- she said that kids need to be raised with fathers.
Let me point out that shes a SINGLE mother- celibate in fact- and divorced my dad. She had a fiancee and broke up with him because he 'didnt love her enough'.
My grandmother made a face like I had said a filthy word.
Finding out that my family was so shallow- that was hard. Theyve always been so poloitically correct.
Im not entirely out yet.
I am afraid taht everyone who thought I was cute and sweet and -conservative!- will hate me.
(sorry about the spelling, im having coordination problems.... really....)
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Posted: Thu Aug 19, 2004 9:40 am
My fingers are going to get carpal tunnel, one day form all this zipping around the board. But the real reason for this post is a big hug for psi-vamp. *HUG* Did you point out the little flaw in her explanation? It might just point out how hypocritical she's being about the whole thing.
Political stance doesn't neccessarily depend on who you are. And anyone that thinks you are a great person because you are in a specific political camp isn't looking at you as a whole. It doesn't matter if you can "convince" your family that you're gay, it matters that you can come to accept it yourself because you'll be the one that has to live with it.
Good luck, and sorry about the ranting. I think you just gave me the motivation to tell some extended family where to put their little snide comments about me next time I visit.
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Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2004 12:14 am
sweatdrop stressed Actually, I haven't come out yet. Nobody that's really close to me knows.
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Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2004 4:56 pm
Hmm, my best friend Jen and knows about me. But she's gay too. I told a few of my friends but not many. My friend I have known since 3rd grade hung up on me when I told him. So I had to call him back and tell him I was kidding. I don't really look gay. I'm 14 and will be 15 in November 16. I kinda look like im 12 but atleast I'm not all hairy and bulky like other kids. ^_^; I'll take a fast pic and add it on this post. And yes it's in black & white. I luve that combo. I dress kinda preppy I guess. Not too good at sports and stuff like that. I'm great at art and computers. I've have girl friends like most other guys. But I always knew something was up when I kept liking my best friends. (at a younger age, i dont like every guy i see) They have to be nice, funny, well built and good looking. I listen to Jpop and Jrock so I can't say I'm the most normal uke there is but hey. ^^' Who is? I haven't told my parents and I don't ever plan to. I always think about what I'll be like in the future and I always picture a pretty asian wife then reality comes back in and a guy appears. Oops, I forgot... I'm gay. -_-' I don't feel bad bout being gay. I'd much rather be gay than strait. If I think about having sex with a girl I get kinda sick. Not because of the fact they are a girl and trust me butt sex hits me hard too but I dunno I'm just attacted to guys. I'm not girly like alotta gay guys but I am kinda shy in the sense that I'm not so blunt as to run around giving out hand-outs on what I'm feeling but I am true to who I am. I plan on living with my best friend Jen when I'm out of High School and going to college with her too. After that we plan on moving together. If she moves from Florida so will I. She means alot to me and friends like that are to rare to lose over a simple move. Sorry bout completly telling my whole freekin story. I think I went way off-topic... To answer the question I should have answered I always ask the person who I may of want to tell if they are a homophob or hate gays. If they do I'll say really, ok. If not I may tell them. Depending on their reaction. Try it before you tell friends. It's good to see how they feel before you blow your load. ^^'
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Posted: Sat Aug 21, 2004 1:29 am
Quote: I plan on living with my best friend Jen when I'm out of High School and going to college with her too. After that we plan on moving together. sounds like will and grace. hehehe.my mom took that away from me wen i told her. the hardest part about telling friends is the antisipation, but with the parents...it depends.my parents are hard core christians and wen i told em that i was bi ( i thought i was bi 4 a while, im gay) my mom whipped out the christian parent's handbook and turned to the gay kids section and read it to me. she also asked all these questions that are hard to tell ur parents, for example,"you want to stick your p***s in a man's butt?" yeah...that was hard to respond to. she said it was just a phase, so i humored her because i hated the reation. i really wanna tell em, i really do. my dad has told me many times that mom thinks i am questioning my sexual preference and says that it is ok to him if i am gay. That rules so much 4 me, but mom would just try to change me...*grumble* and he would tell her.gah. this is no fun. but it needs to be done.
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