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 Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 6:14 pm
Chalda That is what we are here for! It's always easier to ask total stranger who don't know you and can't affect you at all. You are more then welcome to ask us anything you wish and we will try our best to help. Thank you. I'm just really trying to find out as much as possible. Becasue, while I'm not going to have sex yet, I think I am dating the guy that I will eventually have sex with. So I want to make sure that I have all of my bases covered. For instince, if he and I are both tested for STDs and come out clean, then I start birth control, should I still use a condom too, since BC is only like 95% accurate? Or am I being over paronoid? And how long does BC take to start working? And what kind of things do I need to talk to him about first, and AHHHH *Is going insane*
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 8:02 pm
Isthene Chalda That is what we are here for! It's always easier to ask total stranger who don't know you and can't affect you at all. You are more then welcome to ask us anything you wish and we will try our best to help. Thank you. I'm just really trying to find out as much as possible. Becasue, while I'm not going to have sex yet, I think I am dating the guy that I will eventually have sex with. So I want to make sure that I have all of my bases covered. For instince, if he and I are both tested for STDs and come out clean, then I start birth control, should I still use a condom too, since BC is only like 95% accurate? Or am I being over paronoid? And how long does BC take to start working? And what kind of things do I need to talk to him about first, and AHHHH *Is going insane*
Different birth controls take different amounts of time to start working so once you choose one you will have to read the packaging and talk to your doctor and that should get cleared up.
There are a lot of things to talk about before having sex for the first time. Planned or spontanious? When, where, how? What kinds of birth control and who will pay? If you do get pregnant what is your plan? All of those 'What if...' situations.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 8:46 pm
Isthene Chalda That is what we are here for! It's always easier to ask total stranger who don't know you and can't affect you at all. You are more then welcome to ask us anything you wish and we will try our best to help. Thank you. I'm just really trying to find out as much as possible. Becasue, while I'm not going to have sex yet, I think I am dating the guy that I will eventually have sex with. So I want to make sure that I have all of my bases covered. For instince, if he and I are both tested for STDs and come out clean, then I start birth control, should I still use a condom too, since BC is only like 95% accurate? Or am I being over paronoid? And how long does BC take to start working? And what kind of things do I need to talk to him about first, and AHHHH *Is going insane* Yes, you should still use condoms. The Pill and the patch are both only 99% effective against pregnancy when used perfectly. Norplant, which I hear is no longer offered in the US (or in parts of it) is 99.5% effective against pregnancy. Depo is 99.7% effective. None of them are effective against HIV or STD's or STI's - only condoms are. You run the risk of getting pregnant regardless of what birth control you're on, but it's best to use at least 2 methods, so as to lower the chances of you getting pregnant. As for how long they take, the Pill and the patch both take at least one month's worth of prescription to be fully effective. I'm not sure how long Norplant takes, since it's an implant under the skin, but Depo is effective after 24 hours. However make sure you research the side effects for all the methods, because some of the birth control methods like Depo have more serious side effects than the other methods. Talk to your boyfriend and make sure you two have a plan in case things go wrong - you get pregnant, you need an abortion, etc. All of those "what if?" situations Chalda mentioned.
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Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 8:02 pm
Okay, I had my first time yesterday, and it kinda caught me off guard. First of all, I usually let guys finger me and do the oral thing which is what this guy did. But then he started putting his p***s on my clitoris and I was trying to push him back and he said that he wasn't going to penertrate. So I let him continue because it felt good, but he slipped it in anyway, even though he said he wouldn't. I didn't stop him though because at the moment I was like "oh well, might as well go ahead, since thanks to that I'm not a virgin anymore" I know it's a terrible way to lose your viriginty, especially when you don't know the guy much.
When he was rubbing his p***s on me at first, he did not have any protection on and I told him that he had better put on a condom atleast if he was going to do that. (I guess that is what might have made him feel that it was alright to go inside me) He did eventually put the condom on though. I am on the pill as well, so I was wondering what my chances of pregancy were.
Also, I just got back home and I examined my sheets and there are all these white spots everwhere. How could that be if he used a condom? I'm confused.
Thirdly, my last question is, how would you know if a condom broke?
Other comments: I was in pain--like from an intense friction. After he finished I went to wash myself immediatley with this femnine wash I have, and it burned. What sort of procedures like that should you follow immidatley after having sex to avoid things like nasty yeast infections?
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Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 9:24 pm
Caramel Panda Okay, I had my first time yesterday, and it kinda caught me off guard. First of all, I usually let guys finger me and do the oral thing which is what this guy did. But then he started putting his p***s on my clitoris and I was trying to push him back and he said that he wasn't going to penertrate. So I let him continue because it felt good, but he slipped it in anyway, even though he said he wouldn't. I didn't stop him though because at the moment I was like "oh well, might as well go ahead, since thanks to that I'm not a virgin anymore" I know it's a terrible way to lose your viriginty, especially when you don't know the guy much. When he was rubbing his p***s on me at first, he did not have any protection on and I told him that he had better put on a condom atleast if he was going to do that. (I guess that is what might have made him feel that it was alright to go inside me) He did eventually put the condom on though. I am on the pill as well, so I was wondering what my chances of pregancy were. Also, I just got back home and I examined my sheets and there are all these white spots everwhere. How could that be if he used a condom? I'm confused. Thirdly, my last question is, how would you know if a condom broke? Other comments: I was in pain--like from an intense friction. After he finished I went to wash myself immediatley with this femnine wash I have, and it burned. What sort of procedures like that should you follow immidatley after having sex to avoid things like nasty yeast infections? If you didn't know him that well, I don't see why you went and had sex with him, but that's just me. 1) I don't know what your chances are. None of us are psychic, and can look into your body to see if you're pregnant. If you're worried, take a pregnancy test on the day you'd normally get your period, and/or see a doctor. smile They'd know for sure. 2) It could be semen that leaked out, it could be vaginal discharge from you, etc. Nothing else comes to mind at the moment about what it could be. 3) Burning is probably from the friction, and it's a good sign that you weren't lubricated enough. I was like that with my ex too, and figured out by the time I started dating my current boyfriend that it shouldn't have been that way afterwards. The burning will go away in time on its own, from a few hours to a day maybe. Depends on the person. I don't know anything about what you could use to make it stop burning, but if you get a yeast infection, it won't be from sex. I mean you can, but it would be from holding in your urine and not going to the bathroom before you had sex, not from the sex itself.
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2005 1:47 pm
Useful... Very useful. I'm thinking if having sex with my boyfriend next summer when I go see him in England (Long distance relatioships suck! gonk ). I'm going to talk to the doctor about birthcontrol next week and thank god for doctor's confi... whatever the word is... I dont want my mother knowing what I'm going to do, heck, she doesnt even know I love the guy!
And yes, I will be seeing him before that. I'm going to see him in Februrary. I know the drill about that stuff, I'm even having my mother tagging along and we're meeting him at one of the most crowded subways in London. I know my stuff.
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Posted: Sat Oct 29, 2005 6:28 pm
 I know what you mean, I'm in a long distance relationship, but anyways on to my question. Okay, well, I know that I'm only 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and that I don't want to have sex for quite a while yet but you never know what is going to happen. Anyway, I feel really embarrased talking to my step-mother (yes, my father and mother are out of the question) about these things. She's told me that she wants me to talk or at least tell her first before I have lose my virginity ... I just feel embarrased talking to her, a doctor or even my school counsiler. Is their any way I can get over this? Oh, and I can get free condoms and birth control, even without my parents knowing, so thats not a problem.
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Posted: Sun Oct 30, 2005 2:48 pm
I'd probably agree that if you're thinking of having sex, tell your step-mother beforehand. You don't even have to tell her you're going to have sex, just that you're considering it, and would like to be protected in case anything happens.
Then she can get you on the Pill, and can pay for it, etc.
Though if you don't want to have sex, then tell that to your boyfriend. End of story. There's no such excuse as "it just happened". If you're thinking of having sex, be mature and responsible and protect yourselves properly. That goes for both people in any relationship, not just the female.
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Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2005 4:15 pm
Interesting.. this guild speaks for itself... 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2005 4:17 am
About three weeks ago on thursday I had sex with a guy which he is now the stalker I wish I never had he calls me and uses excuses for me to come over and have sex I tell him lies to keep him away because I am in love with another guy " matt " and well I want to marry him as well. I did tell him what happened and he barely wanted to hear anything I had to tell him. I was a virgin before this all happened and well when I was in bed with this guy I barely knew I thought of nothing I didn't tell him no I didn't tell him to stop but I know I didn't want it to happen cause I was saving myself for my husband " matt " I do remember I kept scooting away from him when he was trying to 'stuff or shove' his d**k into my p***y it hurt a lot. I told him it hurt yet he didn't stop normally I think a guy would stop and try to make me feel better if he knew it hurt . So I have a question would it still be considered rape ?. Also I have this other thing where I slid my finger into my p***y and on the top at least two inches in I can feel this round bump kinda like a bump in the road nonthing crazy like an std I've always had it I was wondering if it was the begining of my cervix but I'm not too sure. Is anyone able to tell me what it is?, also matt's c**k is eight inches so I kinda worry about how far he will be able to go in when we have sex. Or will my p***y walls stretch to where he can fit without anything inside getting broken or hurt?. This is where I turn to my friend brenda and make fun of the moment talking about broken pelvises from sex which I know is impossible its just funny to think of, and yes I know you can break or shatter your pelvis.
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Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2005 8:04 am
1) It's rape if you didn't want it to happen, but you might have a hard time getting him convicted on that because unless you actually verbally told him "No" or "No I don't want to have sex with you", then it would be hard to prove.
2) Why did you have sex with him if you didn't want to? That's why you say "NO", stick to it, and call the police if necessary. If he's stalking you still, even after you've had sex with him, call the cops. At the very least, you might be able to get a restraining order.
3) That bump is, to my knowledge, your G-spot. Check out the "Sex Education 101" sticky for more information on the G-spot, and on female anatomy. It'll also show you where your cervix is.
4) His p***s should fit. Once you're aroused enough, most penises will fit in a v****a. Use lots of lubrication, don't be nervous, and wait until you're ready for sex. If you're nervous enough that it won't go in your v****a, or it's hurting a lot, it might be a sign you're not ready yet.
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Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2005 3:42 pm
Nikolita 1) It's rape if you didn't want it to happen, but you might have a hard time getting him convicted on that because unless you actually verbally told him "No" or "No I don't want to have sex with you", then it would be hard to prove. 2) Why did you have sex with him if you didn't want to? That's why you say "NO", stick to it, and call the police if necessary. If he's stalking you still, even after you've had sex with him, call the cops. At the very least, you might be able to get a restraining order. 3) That bump is, to my knowledge, your G-spot. Check out the "Sex Education 101" sticky for more information on the G-spot, and on female anatomy. It'll also show you where your cervix is. 4) His p***s should fit. Once you're aroused enough, most penises will fit in a v****a. Use lots of lubrication, don't be nervous, and wait until you're ready for sex. If you're nervous enough that it won't go in your v****a, or it's hurting a lot, it might be a sign you're not ready yet.
I wasn't thinking like I could tell what was going on I did say no once but my voice is so tiny I don't think he heard me, I'll take a look at that sticky so I don't get confused. I love matt more than god should allow if I am nervious he will do is best to relax me. Thank you for the help though.
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Posted: Mon Nov 14, 2005 9:59 am
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 9:56 am
yeah um what is oral sex?
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Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 10:26 am
mikomihino_25 Nikolita 1) It's rape if you didn't want it to happen, but you might have a hard time getting him convicted on that because unless you actually verbally told him "No" or "No I don't want to have sex with you", then it would be hard to prove. 2) Why did you have sex with him if you didn't want to? That's why you say "NO", stick to it, and call the police if necessary. If he's stalking you still, even after you've had sex with him, call the cops. At the very least, you might be able to get a restraining order. 3) That bump is, to my knowledge, your G-spot. Check out the "Sex Education 101" sticky for more information on the G-spot, and on female anatomy. It'll also show you where your cervix is. 4) His p***s should fit. Once you're aroused enough, most penises will fit in a v****a. Use lots of lubrication, don't be nervous, and wait until you're ready for sex. If you're nervous enough that it won't go in your v****a, or it's hurting a lot, it might be a sign you're not ready yet.
I wasn't thinking like I could tell what was going on I did say no once but my voice is so tiny I don't think he heard me, I'll take a look at that sticky so I don't get confused. I love matt more than god should allow if I am nervious he will do is best to relax me. Thank you for the help though.Ah my apologies then, I misunderstood you. I'm glad to hear you at least said "no", even if he didn't hear you. My bad. whee
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