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amen, im sick and tired of hearing that, one of my friends parents is like that and i just want to lecture her but i cant ya know, phh

My mother loved me. And she was having triplets. She also had no money, our family has always been at odds with one another, my father cared more about his music than paying child support or giving diapers. She was crippled to the point where she couldn't walk and her legs began to atrophy, and she even was told by the doctors she may want to consider aborting.


But she didn't.

My mother would've had me regardless of what was in her pocket, what was happening to her body, what could've happened to her life and has sacrificed a lot for me and my sisters. I wasn't born because it was convenient. I wasn't born to someone who was so self absorbed they couldn't consider the lives of others unless they "had the time". Everyone's selfish true. But then you have those that understand the value of helping and caring for others, and thus are self gratified by helping those in need.

Can you imagine a mother that could abort you? ... Look your mother in the face and imagine if when you were conceived she was studying to be a doctor. You wouldn't be here. Her love for you is far more conditional than my mother's love for me, if you can call it love at all.

My mom is pro-choice actually, funny thing is she was pushed along if she stayed at my grandmother's house (now deceased, bless her soul) to get an abortion. Luckly she said nope, moved to Cali and moved up along the coast, whille taking care of my big sis.

She was 14 - 15 when this happened. Heh, if that isn't inconvienence I don't know what is.

Wow. That is really an amazing story.

@Waters: I think that it's a difference in thought between Pro-Lifers and Pro-Choicers that Pro-Lifers typically think, "What if I'd been aborted? I would hate that. I never would have experienced life, never would have eaten ice cream, never would have had my first kiss" and so on and so forth. But Pro-Choicers say, "Pff, who cares? I wouldn't be around, end of story."

Pro-Choicers also frequently seem to look at it as, "I wouldn't feel anything about it because I wouldn't exist." But Pro-Lifers in general don't think of it as, "I'll be sitting in Heaven thinking these things," they think of it as, "I -do- exist, and I currently hate the thought of having -not- existed."

When you strip away religion, life's all there is. When you take that away... It's pretty tragic. confused And to exist and consider the possibility of your nonexistence? It only makes sense to me that that would be a worrysome thought. I can't comprehend how I have never met a single Pro-Choicer who has said, "Yeah, I would hate to have been aborted." But I don't know if it's because all Pro-Choicers -actually- see it as, "I wouldn't be around. So I feel nothing about it." or if it's because Pro-Choicers feel it would weaken their argument to admit that the idea of never having existed scares them.

Plus we all know that if I wind up in heaven I won't be thinking anything other than. "Could I have been MORE wrong about life".

Another heart !

I don't want a mom who "chose" me. I want one (and I have one, yay!) who'd let me live no matter what. That's unconditional love.

I don't really get how anyone would get upset by someone else choosing to have children. I do hope that your sister is happy with her three children, and also happy with her choice to get her tubes tied.

I also wish her and her husband the best of luck.