You shouldn't feel put down whatsoever because of being a virgin~ I'm proud to be one. I'm almost 16 myself, but I'm saving myself for the person I'm sure I'll spend my life with. I've been dating my boyfriend of mine for about a year actually and he respects my decision and agrees to wait until marriage if we go that far. I am quite a nerd in the genre of anime though, as tons of my classmates know. I have tons of anime merchandise and love talking about it and watching anime.
I remember after reading this poem I felt so comfortable being a virgin and enjoying it, treasuring it;
Too often it is referred to as Something to take. And it is something that you Can never remake. For women, it is sacred, To men, a disease. And for some people, not to be taken Before he gets down on his knee. Some guard it Some treasure it Some hide it away Some even abandon it To keep monsters at bay. And I say this now Because you must understand: You take nothing from me, You never do Because this is My gift to you.
By HysteriaInRouge @ deviantART.com
Posted: Mon Jul 30, 2012 6:24 pm
chesiregirl
Trust me, being a virgin is no big deal! I'll be turning 18 in a month and a half, and I have no interest in having sex anytime soon, even though I've been in a relationship for nine months- it's just not something I want, and my girlfriend is accepting of that.
A lot of people view intercourse as something special and meaningful- like you do, so you in no way need to throw away that view just to "fit in". Besides, people your age oft say they've lost their virginity in an attempt to seem cool, but they most likely haven't. I'm proud of you for not giving into the peer pressure and sticking to your beliefs, because if you decided to give into pressure, you may have ended up really regretting it.
I lost my virginity a month before I turned 18 and I look back on it now and regret it. I wasn't ready and I wasn't with the right guy but I was pressured. You have to wait until it's the right time for you and make sure you do it with the right guy rather than regretting it later.
You should definitely be proud that you are still a virgin. Cherish it while you have it. Just know that you're making much wiser decisions than the girls your age who gave away their virginity to a boy they probably don't even talk to anymore or won't after a few months or so.
Posted: Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:12 pm
supposedly it is, but they do exist. i'm 20 right now and STILL haven't had sex and haven't dated yet either. after about halfway through my sophomore year i was the only virgin in my group of friends and on top of it was having major struggles with anxiety and depression. my best friend at the time actually told me that i should go and get laid because it would make me feel better, and a lot of them constantly told me to go have sex as well, even after explaing that i didn't want to. unfortunately some people are like that and assume that everyone else will feel the same way they do about it if they sleep with people as well. but now i'm going into my junior year of college and have heard a mix. some people think i should go have sex so "i know what i like for later on" and others tell me that they wish they'd have waited to have sex.
so there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, even if some people think there is one. if you're comfortable with it than don't have sex yet. it should be something done only when you're ready for it anyways, no sooner than that.
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Posted: Fri Aug 10, 2012 4:05 am
It's not something you do on other peoples time table so screw them! If it's tonight or tomorrow you have sex or years before you do it doesn't matter it's your life and your time will come and it's not on someones schedule it's on yours :3 The when and where and who with has yet to happen for you but that part of your life has yet to come. Just keep on doing what you want and make your own decisions biggrin
Posted: Fri Aug 10, 2012 5:00 pm
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So, once in my math class, I was on the subject of some old cartoon with some kids at my table. Aside from myself and my two friends, the table entirely consisted of males. Someone pointed out something about the cartoon (doesn't really matter) and I was like, "OMG THIS CRUSHED MY CHILDHOOD!" Then...one of my female friends said something that really pissed me off. She said, "Girl, you really need to have sex." I was so offended, and she said in what was apparently supposed to be a consoling tone, "No, no, I get it, I used to be like you. I used to nerd out about everything, but then I had sex and now I think about sex all the time." I tried to explain to her that I was waiting until I was in a serious relationship with a boy I really cared about, and that I just wasn't ready until then, and that sleeping with someone that I had only dated a handful of months wasn't alright with me. To me, sex is something intimate and special, especially if it's your first time. She said, "It's okay to date a guy a couple of months and then have sex." and said she was going to set me and my friend up with two guys for us to date for a couple months before having sex with. I was disgusted. She even said she found a boyfriend by asking some random guy, "Hey wanna have sex?" Everything she said horrified me. Now, I usually do not use the term "whore", and she is my friend, but everything she said about sex made me perceive her as MY definition of a "whore" - a female who has many different sexual partners, and does not value the intimacy of sex, and has sex ONLY for the pleasure, and NOT as a way of showing love or affection to someone you care about. Not only was I not ready and I didn't think practically anyone in High School is ready for that step emotionally, but I really don't think I should be worrying about sex and unplanned pregnancy and protection and whatnot at this point in my life. The worst part was when the guy who sat across from me offered to be my "first time". Sure, I can read about people having sex and think about it and stuff. I mean, I know what sex is like, but thinking about having sex with a specific person makes me blush. I don't even like the guy. I think he's ignorant, stupid, and foolish. I think he's a redneck who isn't really going to go anywhere, and I think it's disgusting that he does drugs. I definitely would NOT want to sleep with, kiss, or even DATE him! sad Anyway, is it really so unusual to be a virgin in High School? The only people my age who I KNOW are virgins are nerdy like me.
im not nerdy im actually somewhat popular im a huge social butterfly to be honest. im also 16 like you are and a virgin. alot of ppl are like oh blah blah u need to have sex when i make comments and make me feel like its weird or wrong that im a virgin but in all actuality thats how it should be. 16 year girls should be feeling butterflies in their stomaches not babys kicking biggrin i use to get rlly upset and wonder if they were right but their wrong. one day when u find the guy u want to spend your life with it will mean so much to him that your his one and only thats what i want however to be honest i know alot of people and maybe only like 2 guys i can think of who are virgins one because hes shy and one because the chance hasnt come up yet. it makes me feel like virginity is so important and i want to save it for that one guy and blah blah be with him forever but i feel like im going to give him what i value most and he might not have that anymore and it sorta hurts me to feel like i wouldnt be as special to him as he would to me you know?
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Posted: Fri Aug 10, 2012 6:50 pm
♥My friends pressured me all throughout school and I stuck by my decision to wait until I had found the one. So I watched them with their pregnancy scares and hurt from being used for sex and I was proud of myself for waiting. After all, good things come to those who wait and I raked in the rewards, unlike my now ex-friends. I was eighteen when I lost my virginity, he was also a virgin and he was twenty-seven. It was a special, beautiful, meaningful moment like it should be and I didn't and still don't regret it. We both waited for the right person and now we're pre-engaged to one another and we plan on buying a house and getting married. It's your life, you make the decisions and you live with the consquences, not your friends.
Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2012 10:47 am
I was 23 before i had sex dont feel bad friends a whore. Even after i dont think about it 24/7
♬♫♩♪ஐӍῗȿȿӍѻѻȵӱ⑬ஐ♪♩♫♬ ≎≎≎≎≎≎≎≎ ⒨Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ⒨≎≎≎≎≎≎≎≎ ❝I absolutely agree with you! I want my first time to be special. It is a gift, once you give it, you don't get it back. Ya' know what? I'M 18 AND A VIRGIN!!! I'M IN COLLEGE AND A VIRGIN! I'M PROUD TO BE A VIRGIN!❞ ≎≎≎≎≎≎≎≎ ⒨Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ⒨≎≎≎≎≎≎≎≎
Posted: Thu Sep 27, 2012 10:40 pm
Don't worry about it, I know a guy who is 21 and has never had a first kiss.
There is nothing to feel bad about. It seems to me that you're making a very mature, very wise decision to wait. You hang on to your values and don't let anyone try and change you. biggrin
As for your friend, I actually feel bad for her. It seems to me that she has very low self-esteem and needs to feel validated in some way. I think she's trying to push you to have sex so that she doesn't feel so bad about herself and her choices.
Just stick to your guns and you'll be fine. mrgreen
Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 8:07 am
Do not feel bad be proud your a virgin I gave mine up when I was not ready and I regret it all the time I can not go back and change it sad but I can tell you not to make the same mistake. I was lucky I did not have a baby but I have many regrets about it. You are making the right choice smile
Don't even listen to her. I'm 16 and pregnant, don't make the same mistake I did. I dated my boyfriend for a few months, then we both lost our virginity to each other. We had a regular [protected] sex life until one day, it broke and I happened to be that 1% out of 99% that got pregnant. I'm still with him, and he has been quite a blessing. Unfortunately, that doesn't always happen to girls our age. Cherish your virginity, you're a much stronger person than everyone else that pressures you into it.
Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2012 2:04 pm
Don't feel bad. I'm 24 and I still wear the chastity ring that I've had since I was 13. It's not a bad thing. I get teased all the time and I've learned to not let it get to me. People will try to make you feel bad to make themselves feel better. As long as you're happy with yourself then that's all that matters. biggrin I'm glad that I'm waiting until I get married because most of the guys that I've dated that wanted me to have sex with them, that's all they wanted. I told them no and they left. Now I have the most awesome fiancee and I couldn't be happier. To me, he's the best thing in the world. I know you'll find someone who is perfect for you and respects you! Just remember, good things come to those who wait.
I'm so sorry you have a friend like that and i'm sorry to say this...but i feel like your friend is a whore. But don't listen to her. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin.
