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The bickering back and forth about Vegas doesn't belong here- you two should get married or take it to the PM's. C:

Back on topic-



In my time I have ran across so many creeps, who like this guy first day- "Bewbs plox- pix- asl?" I agree with whoever mentioned the redflag comment. If something doesn't feel right- it isn't right. Learn to trust your gut-

You said, "... if they continue to be all awkward and lovey-dovey I'll break up with him..."


You've also said-
- about a day now I've been talking to this kid I met on YouTube
- asked me out and asked for my Facebook and phone number
- I told him I wanted to take it slow and just start off with Skype
- he started calling and texting me
- telling me I'm cute and that he loves me
- mentioned how big my boobs are and later he asked if he could have a picture of them
- reassured me how sexy I am and stuff
- He told me to say "I love you" back when he says it to me
- I'm only 15

Serious Question: WHAT IS NOT AWKWARD ABOUT THIS IF IT HAS ONLY BEEN ONE DAY? I don't even care if it has been Three weeks- we're past awkward- we're on to creep. This guy is demanding you tell him you love him after he says it? Excuse me- nobody, and I mean nobody tells me what the fck to say. I'll tell you I love you- when I fcking love you. Not when they tell me to. scream This person knows what you look like, has your facebook, your phone number- if they are willing to spend money on a site that does a background, they have all the information they need to find you. And they can find you with just your phone number. This isn't me trying to scare you, but I am scared for you.

Please tell me what is smart about a 15 year old- male or female giving out their number to a total stranger online? I understand in this fast paced world it's all about staying connected but hot damn- that is a little too connected to strangers imo.

On to answering your questions:

Is this worth it to change my Facebook relationship status? NO. How many times did you just say you felt he was rushing things and now you want to change your relationship. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you want to take it slow- damn it take it slow. If the bonehead doesn't get it and doesn't like it he can move on to the next dumb person.

How can I tell my parents? I'm pretty sure they wouldn't like it if they knew I was texting a guy I met online. I am shocked only one person touched this question and then told you not to tell. By not telling them- you admit guilt and you feel you're doing something wrong. Have you done anything wrong besides giving your number to a random guy online? If not- then this shouldn't be so bad. Even if you have done something worse, this shouldn't stop you from telling. I suggest going to them and being honest. God forbid something bad happens and they have no idea what was really going on. You do not have to tell them everything, but you could start by saying you're talking to somebody online. If you feel worried about giving out your number- Tell them you've made a mistake- you gave out the number, but now you realize how that could be a really bad thing. You want to be honest with them in everything you're doing because you do not want to break their trust. Keep in mind there could be consequences- but do not let that stop you from telling them because it could be a whole lot worse if you do not tell them at all. Remember- you're 15- what they give you- they can take away just as easily.

Yes, they most likely are going to be angry. My parents were... mainly because I didn't tell them and they found out by looking at my computer files and asking the phone company for a record of my texts. Yeaaah- that didn't go so well. Tell Them.


I'm kind of happy, but kind of overwhelmed. It feels good when a total stranger tells us everything we want to hear. At the same time- if that person is pushing you to do things you'd rather not do... when does enough become enough? How long are you going to stick around ignoring the flags? Somehow this reminds me of the people that are abused but don't leave for whatever excuse they can come up with. It's stupid to put yourself in danger. Your gut is telling you to run for the hills and that could be why you're feeling overwhelmed.


Does anyone know if online relationships are worthwhile? Please help! The only reason I am posting is because my husband and I met online in 2001 (8th/9th grade) playing Starcraft and Diablo II on Battle.net. We had an online relationship/started dating in 2003. When June of 2004 rolled around I graduated HS and two weeks later he drove up to Minnesota from New Mexico in 19 hours. (It's normally a two day drive and that is with two people.) My husband, boyfriend at the time stayed a week at my parent's house and when it was time for him to leave- I packed my bag for a week and went to visit for a week. Well, that week turned into six months because I just fell in love. I moved back up to MN because life down in the Burque is mean- a year later he moved up with me and has been here ever since. Blah, blah, blah, years later- we've just celebrated our 1 year wedding anni this past May.

So, there is a VERY CONDENSED story of online dating/relationships that turned out really well. It was work- hard work- but worth it IF it is the right person.

While dating my husband he never once asked me for anything like a nude shot. Never.

Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk more indepth. Be smart, stay safe.