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 Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 12:47 am
Shiori Miko A question to you all. Is there a difference between a relationship with a different religion and a friendship with a different religion? No. Trouble ensues when kids are involved and wedding plans are made...and where we'll spend holidays... although Shiori, if you're single mrgreen j/k
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 12:51 am
Shiori Miko A question to you all. Is there a difference between a relationship with a different religion and a friendship with a different religion? Oh, I totally think so. For me, (and literally, just for me) a relationship is going to end either in a breakup or marriage. I am not one to just casually date. Furthermore, I have a strong desire to be a mother. If my husband didn't love Jesus or even believe in him, and I did, and we had kids... that could get tricky. Furthermore, religion, beliefs, morals, all those good stuff are kind of foundational in a relationship, right? If not foundational, then they at least have to be brought up? With my friends, though, religion isn't foundational since a lot of my friends are non-believers. It doesn't get in the way, because I do not crave the same kind of connection with them as I would with a spouse. Also, the raising of kids are not involved. I love my Christian friends, and I love my non-Christian friends.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 6:28 am
Shiori Miko Is there a difference between a relationship with a different religion and a friendship with a different religion? Yes. Friends don't have nearly as much influence over me as girlfriends do. Plus, there is no commitment when you're friends with someone, but in a relationship, there is. I mean, I never start a relationship if I think it'll end any way other than marriage. That sounds kind of creepy, but I can't think of anything worse than going into a relationship knowing it will end. I know that friendships that don't end won't end up as marriage, and the Bible says not to be equally yoked with unbelievers (presumably talking about marriage), so marriage with a non-Christian = completely no, for me. And because of that, I'd never date a non-Christian, but I'm friends with them.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 11:32 am
Shiori Miko A question to you all. Is there a difference between a relationship with a different religion and a friendship with a different religion?
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 3:35 pm
In Medias Res IV I'm finding myself a beautiful kosher wife.
Me, too.
Though if she's willing to have the kids converted, then maybe, just maybe....
We'll find out in time how that works out for both of us...
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 3:37 pm
Shiori Miko A question to you all. Is there a difference between a relationship with a different religion and a friendship with a different religion?
Obviously.
But is it substantial? That is the question.
An'd I'll say yes, a relationship is a similar level of bonding but a different level of commitment.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 4:30 pm
A friendship is totally different from a marriage, just as living with a friend is different from going to a movie with one every so often. When I got married, I was shocked (and so was he) by my new and impressive issue with the amount of time he spent on video games. When you're dating, and friends, you don't notice the four or five hours a day someone can spend on this stuff, but when you have all these married people expectations, that gets in the way.
When we were in the friends stage, and our very short courtship stage, I didn't notice it or have a problem with it- lots of my friends had some sort of soul sucking hobby. My best friend paints, for goodness sake.
I guess what I might be trying to illustrate, is that when dating a guy who was outside of my expectations, I made do. I saw past that stuff, saw past anything that bothered me much.
In the religion department, these things can be pretty big. For the video games thing, I played more and he played less and we comprimised. For religion, though, you don't do that unless it wasn't that big of a thing to begin with.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 3:58 am
Marriage in itself is obviously very different from a friendship, but you would all not allow a marriage to happen just because the person you love doesn't have the same beliefs as you?
Maybe it doesn't matter to me 'cause I'm Atheist I guess.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 5:48 am
Quote: Would you date/marry outside your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever? I married someone who has a different faith than me. For short term dating, I don't see a issue with it, though if you think it may turn into a long term relationship I would caution people to make sure that the person you are dating knows your religions preferences and are completely comfortable with them. Quote: If so, is there a line you won't cross when it comes to getting involved outside your whatever? Depends, but if two religions are so completely different that it causes constant tension, then I'm not sure that it would be worth it, no matter how much you liked someone. Quote: Have you dated outside your religious path, and how well/poorly did it go? At one point hubby had serious issues with mine. We were married long before I realized that I was pagan, and though I was never devoutly Christian either, he didn't take it so well. Which caused a lot of grief for several years. Now he has pagan leanings himself though of a different path, but at least it's better than it was.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 6:25 am
I wouldn't date or marry outside of my religion. The Bible says not to be unequally yoked.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 6:34 am
IT IS BIG SIN FOR A GIRL ..
for men ..it would be okey ..but for women ..it isnt right ..
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 8:47 am
Would you date/marry outside your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever?
Absolutely. I respect that everyone has different beliefs/non-beliefs, and anyone I date must be able to understand that I probably will never have the same beliefs as them. That being said, as long as we respect each other we are fine.
If so, is there a line you won't cross when it comes to getting involved outside your whatever?
If my chosen significant other turns out to mock my religion or call me in idiot if I celebrate festivals, for example, then it's off. That's just not cool.
Have you dated outside your religious path, and how well/poorly did it go?
Nine months in about a week, and I've never been happier. :3 We respect each other's beliefs, and as we're both intensely religious and spiritual, we've had no problems at all in that area, even though he's agnostic and I'm neo-pagan.
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Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 8:19 pm
TikiRocket This is something I used to think about a lot. I dated a Mormon once, fell completely in love with him -- it was the only time I dated someone I seriously considered a lifetime commitment to -- but we broke up because he was very serious about his beliefs and wanted a temple marriage. You can get a temple marriage to someone who isn't of the faith. I was kind of a mess after the breakup, and for a long time was very sure I wouldn't date outside the Wiccan/pagan circles (I was pretty involved with that community for a while). Since then I've lightened up, but I still automatically balk at the idea of dating anyone of the Christian faith. So: Would you date/marry outside your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever?If so, is there a line you won't cross when it comes to getting involved outside your whatever?And a bonus question: Have you dated outside your religious path, and how well/poorly did it go?I have dated outside of my spiritual path( religious path) and of course had a few episodes like yours, but I am now married to someone who doesnt have the same beliefs as me, and so far we work out just fine lol. and he is mormon! (well kinda) and I am eclectic witch
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Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 10:42 pm
pirate tsuinu-san IT IS BIG SIN FOR A GIRL .. for men ..it would be okey ..but for women ..it isnt right .. What religion? this sounds like seeexism
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Posted: Thu Aug 27, 2009 12:36 am
In Medias Res IV pirate tsuinu-san IT IS BIG SIN FOR A GIRL .. for men ..it would be okey ..but for women ..it isnt right .. What religion? this sounds like seeexism It sounds like he's a Trollite to me... wink
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