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Posted: Sun Jan 02, 2005 8:57 pm
Jahdeia I would also suggest a second opinion doctor's visit, and maybe fertility counseling... Ugh. Thats what I -didn't- want to hear. Oh, well. I guess it was inevitable. ^.^ we'll see what happens!
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2005 7:15 am
lunashock Well, the most accurate and best time to test to see if you're pg, is 10 days after the first day of your missed period. BUT there are tests out there that can detect the hormone the first day of your missed period, btu they are costly and not as effective. The first urine of the day is best as well. Welcome to your hubby! I hope you like it here and best of luck TTC! OH, I know Walmart's brand is cheaper BUT it does come with two pg tests instead of one, which really cements it in for me. Thanks. I like this place. Very welcoming.
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2005 7:19 am
BadLoki Auronsama Hi, my name's Auron, and I'm Kyoki's IRL husband. This is my first time in here, so be nice, ok? I'm just wondering if I can get some advice from other dads. Now that we're actively TTC, any advice would be... helpful. (You can imagine I'm a little nervous.) I'm still having trouble wrapping my head around the idea that I'm trying to be a daddy. I'm excited, but its nerve-wracking too. Kii says that there are a lot of dads here who'll help... so... help? I'm not a Dad, but welcome all the same! I am happy to have you post here in the guild! And don't worry, we're all nice ^__^. We do have some other dads here, just give 'em a day or so and they should be able to post up with their experiences as well. Good luck to y'all! I hope you are able to conceive as soon as you want to. The best advice I can offer is to just have fun with it! 3nodding smile Thanks. I'm excited and very nervous. Hopefully things will go well. I'm pretty sure they will.
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2005 6:04 pm
Hey Auro...Welcome!!! Try not to be nervous...just act like it s still when you guys were first dating, and get busy...and don't forget-Sex is supposed to be fun...so HAVE FUN!!! Hope to get to know you and your wife soon..Good luck!
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Posted: Tue Jan 04, 2005 7:03 am
Jahdeia Hey Auro...Welcome!!! Try not to be nervous...just act like it s still when you guys were first dating, and get busy...and don't forget-Sex is supposed to be fun...so HAVE FUN!!! Hope to get to know you and your wife soon..Good luck! Thanks, Jahdeia. You seem like a real nice person. How long did it take you? Don't worry, we are having fun! redface
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Posted: Tue Jan 04, 2005 9:23 am
Auronsama Hi, my name's Auron, and I'm Kyoki's IRL husband. This is my first time in here, so be nice, ok? I'm just wondering if I can get some advice from other dads. Now that we're actively TTC, any advice would be... helpful. (You can imagine I'm a little nervous.) I'm still having trouble wrapping my head around the idea that I'm trying to be a daddy. I'm excited, but its nerve-wracking too. Kii says that there are a lot of dads here who'll help... so... help? Ok, well I guess my post that I spent 20 minutes on got eaten last night. Anyway... I'm not a father yet. But I'll pass on stuff that I've found out from researching and observing. There are quite a few things that the male can do, even though I know quite a bit of advice is for the female. First, make sure that you eat healthy and get exercise. When your body is in good condition it performs better. You both feel like "do"ing more and can physically "do" it more as well. Make sure that your first session is at least 3-5 days before ovulation. This helps get rid of the sperm that your body has produced that is almost at their "useful shelf life." The reason why you want to do it so far before ovulation is that there are several different varieties of sperm (this is from TLC). Most of the varieties are "guardian sperm" which help prevent the natural passage of sperm that come along later. This is usually done by just swimming in circles or something like that. So if you get rid of your used up sperm early and let them die you can use your fresh ones when it counts without them being "guarded" against. If you can, try to switch to boxers. Some guys (and I'm included) think that they are uncomfortable. But consider this. Briefs keep the testes closer to the body and therefore keep the sperm at a higher temperature. The average increase in temperature is 2 degrees C. This is enough to shorten the "useful shelf life" of your sperm. Don't go overboard with trying to correct past bad habits. An example would be to switch to a freon-based underpants. Just a joke, I know, but not too far from other things that I've heard that some men do to help out. So just use your head. Try different things to keep you from getting bored. Positions, locations, role-play, etc. I know you may be doing this anyway, but include communication with all of this. Be sure that niether one of you feel uncomfortable, bored, embarrised or in pain from anything. That won't help anyone with getting relaxed. And this is the biggest thing I've learned. Be honest about things. If you feel like you are being forced into something like it is a job instead of something you want to do, then it will make you tense or less able to perform. Don't feel like you have to do something at exactly 6:32 pm on Tuesday. If you get to feeling that way, this is what I suggest. Take the rest of the month off. Start back the next month with just having fun and without monitoring. Things will come easier if you don't feel comfortable. Chalk it up to the male ego. We always want to be in control. Feeling like we are forced into something kind of makes us feel like we are not (even if you are wanting the outcome). Anyway, these are what I've learned. But then again (as I have aforementioned) I am not a father yet. Let me know anything that you come up with.
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Posted: Wed Jan 05, 2005 7:28 am
That's a lot of useful information, Tetravus. I'll try to remember that. We've been trying now once every few days. Of course we haven't tested yet. Variety works, right? Try one thing one night, do something different the next, and so on. Ok. We'll just see what happens. It's all fun.
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Posted: Wed Jan 05, 2005 8:39 am
Auronsama That's a lot of useful information, Tetravus. I'll try to remember that. We've been trying now once every few days. Of course we haven't tested yet. Variety works, right? Try one thing one night, do something different the next, and so on. Ok. We'll just see what happens. It's all fun. The main thing is not to get too stressed if it doesn't happen right away. There is only a 75-85% success rate within the first year for couples trying. So let the baby come in its own time. Just have fun. This is a time that you and your spouse can physically enjoy eachother more than you already have.
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Posted: Wed Jan 05, 2005 11:11 am
Jahdeia I am with Orophin...SEX SEX SEX...especially 1 week or so after your last menstral day...relax, and have fun trying...if that doesn't work, do what I did, ask your hubby on your birthday for a baby...you might just conceive that night (like we did) wink ninja .. .she means she agrees with me... not with me, with me... ya know?... hehe... ^^;
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Posted: Wed Jan 05, 2005 11:40 am
Orophin Jahdeia I am with Orophin...SEX SEX SEX...especially 1 week or so after your last menstral day...relax, and have fun trying...if that doesn't work, do what I did, ask your hubby on your birthday for a baby...you might just conceive that night (like we did) wink ninja .. .she means she agrees with me... not with me, with me... ya know?... hehe... ^^; Are you meaning she doesn't know you Biblically? xp
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2005 8:17 am
Tetravus Auronsama That's a lot of useful information, Tetravus. I'll try to remember that. We've been trying now once every few days. Of course we haven't tested yet. Variety works, right? Try one thing one night, do something different the next, and so on. Ok. We'll just see what happens. It's all fun. The main thing is not to get too stressed if it doesn't happen right away. There is only a 75-85% success rate within the first year for couples trying. So let the baby come in its own time. Just have fun. This is a time that you and your spouse can physically enjoy eachother more than you already have. Alright. I mean, I'm not that worried about it. I just know that when it's time, we will have a baby. biggrin We will enjoy it in the process.
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2005 2:43 pm
Auronsama Alright. I mean, I'm not that worried about it. I just know that when it's time, we will have a baby. biggrin We will enjoy it in the process. redface
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2005 11:15 pm
Orophin Jahdeia I am with Orophin...SEX SEX SEX...especially 1 week or so after your last menstral day...relax, and have fun trying...if that doesn't work, do what I did, ask your hubby on your birthday for a baby...you might just conceive that night (like we did) wink ninja .. .she means she agrees with me... not with me, with me... ya know?... hehe... ^^; Of course...we have never met... redface
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2005 11:19 pm
Auronsama Jahdeia Hey Auro...Welcome!!! Try not to be nervous...just act like it s still when you guys were first dating, and get busy...and don't forget-Sex is supposed to be fun...so HAVE FUN!!! Hope to get to know you and your wife soon..Good luck! Thanks, Jahdeia. You seem like a real nice person. How long did it take you? Don't worry, we are having fun! redface Well, to be technical...I had a miscarriage in January of 2003...Then from June 2003 we tried, and I got it in July 2003 *on my bday*
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2005 8:00 am
Jahdeia Well, to be technical...I had a miscarriage in January of 2003...Then from June 2003 we tried, and I got it in July 2003 *on my bday* Sorry to hear about the miscarriage, but you did eventually have a baby. Quite a birthday. I'm starting to get excited now. biggrin
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