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 Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 1:02 pm
Hi AerynsMommy! I think several of us use Fertility Friend to chart our temperatures, etc. They also have a little email course you can sign up for that will email you each day for about a month and explain the whole process (temperatures, cervical fluids, the "feeling" of your cervix, etc.). And the ladies in here are very nice, so feel free to ask any specific questions you might have. I miscarried back in July, so I know how frustrating it can be to get pregnant easily, then lose it, and then have trouble getting pregnant again. So hang in there, and good luck! heart
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Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 4:17 pm
Tell me about it, Valkyrie. It seems like everyone's getting pregnant right now...but me! gonk My DH's sister is pregnant along with 8 of her friends!! about 6 of them don't want the baby and are either getting abortions or giving them up for adoption. And here am I WANTING to be pregnant >.< *Sigh* C'est la vie, n'est pas?
And I've just signed up for fertility friend and for the course. Hopefully I won't feel as stupid about the whole charting process and ask you guys too many questions! I did have like a few right now....
Like are there any natural herbs or remedies that are suppose to help with conceiving? Or any special foods or drinks?
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Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2008 1:27 pm
According to FertilityFriend.com I supposedly ovulated on Saturday. But today when I went to the bathroom when I wiped myself there was some blood on the tp. Could this mean anything either good or bad?
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Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 7:09 am
ok I just had a MAJOR drop of temp when I woke up this morning! Yesterday my BBT was 98.17 and today it was 96.06!!! I keep rechecking my temp eveyr hour and it keeps rising. Is that good or bad? AF isn't due till february 11th...
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 11:58 am
I haven't heard of any natural herbs or remedies that are supposed to increase your odds of getting pregnant.
Blood can be a sign that you were successful and the egg has latched on to your uterus, or it can mean nothing. You'll just have to wait a while and see.
BBT should only be measured when you first get up in the morning. It will rise and fall during the day, so the only dependable time to take your temperature is when you first wake up, while you're still lying in bed. The dip could mean that you ovulated or it could just be incidental. I usually have two or three big temperature dips each month. Charting will help you to see patterns after a few months.
It's important not to worry about it too much, though, because that can affect your ability to conceive.
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 12:46 pm
My sister is pregnant. Someone shoot me now.
I didn't chart this month. I think it's just becoming clearer that this is not happening. I wanted to have kids since I was a kid... and now.. well... it's not happening. I've been thinking about quitting the guild. I don't belong here and I'm not sure I ever will.
I can't afford fertility treatments. I'm not wanting to adopt, even if I could afford it, it's not want I want as selfish as that sounds.
For a year or so, everything in our family was about my sister's wedding. Now it's going to be about the baby. I'll be expected to attend showers, knit baby things and be happy. I can fake it, but right now I'm not happy. Does that make me selfish? Probably, but at least I'm honest about it. Even though I'm miserable, at least my mom is happy.. heh...
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 6:35 pm
Well, you don't have to be a parent to be part of this guild, so you're more then welcome to stay regardless of how things go TTC. biggrin If you do decide to leave, please remember you're always welcome to come back.
I'm sorry things aren't going the way you'd like. It's not selfish to be dissappointed that your sister is pregnant and you're not; it's perfectly normal. And I'm sure that your family should understand your initial feelings considering how long you've been TTC. I hope, however, that you can find it in yourself to be happy for your sister even when it reminds you of what you don't have right now. I'd imagine being an aunt is pretty sweet too. smile
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 7:19 pm
My family is odd. They all try to push the miscarriage under the rug, like it never happened.
Hell, my mom called me a few days after the miscarriage to ask me "you feel better yet? and when I said "No" she says "oh" and changes the subject.
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 12:12 pm
Darnit, I don't come in here often enough.
Sasha, please don't leave the guild. It's so nice having you around. You're a calming influence.
It's perfectly natural to be jealous and upset that your sister is pregnant. And I understand where you're coming from on adoption, because I don't want to adopt either. I want one that's mine.
Also, I heard at church a couple of weeks ago that a couple there just had a baby after 8 years of TTC. eek So I guess there's always hope.
*hugs* heart
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Posted: Wed Feb 20, 2008 10:40 am
Sasha - like lisa and dirge said - it's not selfish, its quite normal to feel that way...I felt that too about my coworkers <_<' And yes, fertility treatments are soooo expensive!! Although, I dont think Clomid costs too much, does it? its just pills... <.<' I've been at a forum where women concieve after trying for many years, but I know its painful to "wait" so may be trying not to think about it would help (if thats possible) and just continue not using "protection".
Oh and charting after awhile becomes kind of useless, I couldn't sleep at all on those "important" nights -_- so I stopped for the last two months, and just took a temp here and there to know if I need to bring pads to work that day...
And I am sorry that your family doesn't care that much <_< or may be they don't know how to approach you? -__-
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 10:05 am
Today is the 1 year anniversary of my miscarriage. I guess the fact that I haven't gotten pregnant again in a whole year is a bad thing.
I'd had a "lightbulb moment" a few weeks ago and felt the depression lift a bit, but this day is bring me new challenges and I think it would be easy to fall back into my negative pattern.
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 11:47 am
What was your enlightening moment? smile
While it can be easy to cling to things that cause us pain and heartache, it's rarely in our best interest to dwell on them. Living in the past and thinking about things you can't change only drags you down and makes it impossible to move on and live your life--it controls you and keeps you stagnant. There's nothing wrong with being sad today, it's to be expected. However, I hope you will remember what it was that lifted you up and you'll focus on that instead. The future is full of possibility while the past can only happen as it did.
"Keep moving forward." wink
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 6:38 pm
My lightbulb moment?
About 3 weeks ago, I was at brian's work. One of his employees is less than 2 weeks from having her baby. She is 4 years older than me, so I knew her from school and things when I was a teenager. We were talking. This was right around when I found about about my sister. I was talking about how upset I was about the whole thing, miscarriage, everything.
She had a miscarriage about 6 years prior and we were discussing that. She says "I know it's going to be hard, but she is your sister." I kinda thought "yeah.. whatever" to myself. She stops what she is doing, looks right at me and says "oh, it will all work out. I know it will" For some reason, it made me feel better. People have told me similar things for the last year and I always thought "pfft.. whatever.. I doubt it" It was just different this time.. I talked to her last week and I told her that her words made me feel so much better, as I think I've been suffering from depression for years. She was touched and she said "well, I mean it!" I've been decent since that first "it will all work out".
I had a blip on Thursday because we decided to throw her a baby shower. I had to go pick up the cake and then I was looking in the baby section to try to get gift ideas. I was thinking "hmm.. I would want this if I was pregnant.." but then I sorta went "bleh". I was sad but it was different. Instead of being "omg all sad" it was sorta "sad at the corners" Like.. I know it's there.. but it's not in the forefront. Very weird. Today is hard though too. Just thought maybe things would have worked out by now.
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 11:40 am
I had a rough time about a month ago, too, when my failed pregnancy due date came around. We just have to keep our heads up, I guess, and keep trying. I'm glad to hear about your lightbulb moment, Sasha. heart
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 3:08 pm
I was just thinking about a woman who lost her baby at 20 weeks. I don't know why I thought of it now, but I remember a quote she was really touched by, and for whatever reason, it really hit me too. Her story and struggle of her loss still sticks with me. Quote: Don't give power back to your grief on that day.....do your best to show Savannah how strong you have become in life because of her. She is the one who taught you about surviving the pain of loss....she is the one who taught you to live one day at a time. I'm glad you had a lightbulb moment. Sometimes it's from the people and times we least expect it. Hang in there.
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