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 Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 2:49 pm
Heh green cordial is a green coloured, green.... flavoured... sugary syrup that you add water to. Sugar levels rise and then SPIKE! lol Did I mention there's a lot of sugar in it?
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 4:06 pm
Urgh, having problems with Shy. She was in respite care over the weekend, and people usually treat her like a baby. Now, she's whiny and doesn't want to do anything by herself. I've been in respite with the kids once, the woman had a granddaughter who was Shy's age (3) and not Potty trained, couldn't talk very well at all. This woman yelled at her granddaughter, "Watch out for the baby!" They even put Shy in a highchair and gave her a sippy-cup! They treat her like she IS a baby, but there are alot of things she can do on her own. I've been making her walk to the bus in the mornings (I walk beside her, it's just across the street anyway) and climb the steps all by herself. I agree that there are some things she needs help with, but I wish respite providers and teachers would pay attention to what she CAN do, and make her do it herself!
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 4:45 pm
Yeah, I've noticed that a lot of people who volunteer for this kind of work seem to think it's their job to do the work for the kids.
Surprise! It's not!
If anyone goes through their childhood having everything done for them, there's no way that they'll want to do anything, or ever have the opportunity to actually learn anything new.
There aren't always going to be teachers aides or respite carers around to do things for them, so while it might be easier to do everything for them, you have to make the effort and get kids to do it for themselves. Yeah, they will stuff it up from time to time, but you can't help someone get better at something if you don't know where they're starting from.
BrokenWing, have you talked to the people running the respite at all and told them what you're doing with Shy at home adn what she does there? I'd imagine that they'd listen to you and back you up while she's there.
(BTW: Sorry If you've already talked about this, but I haven't been the most regular reader of this thread. sweatdrop )
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 5:29 pm
antonio_baka_guy Yeah, I've noticed that a lot of people who volunteer for this kind of work seem to think it's their job to do the work for the kids.
Surprise! It's not!
If anyone goes through their childhood having everything done for them, there's no way that they'll want to do anything, or ever have the opportunity to actually learn anything new.
There aren't always going to be teachers aides or respite carers around to do things for them, so while it might be easier to do everything for them, you have to make the effort and get kids to do it for themselves. Yeah, they will stuff it up from time to time, but you can't help someone get better at something if you don't know where they're starting from.
BrokenWing, have you talked to the people running the respite at all and told them what you're doing with Shy at home adn what she does there? I'd imagine that they'd listen to you and back you up while she's there.
(BTW: Sorry If you've already talked about this, but I haven't been the most regular reader of this thread. sweatdrop ) I have, but I'm only Shy's foster sister and they don't want to listen to me. I can't POSSIBLY know anything, despite my mother working in Special Ed at my school, and me being in parenting classes/around Shy on a daily basis. stare Urg, I don't miss having to be in respite at ALL! (I have weekend visits with my mom heart )
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 7:37 pm
Then perhaps you can team up with your mum to get the message through. 3nodding Hearing it from the "responsible adult" might make all the difference.
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2005 9:17 pm
i agree with you totally ant........though ben will have a tough time with things, i want him to grow up and be able to do certain things for himself, and not have people doing things for him all the time because he's disabled.....
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 10:12 pm
Angelique~Yuna i agree with you totally ant........though ben will have a tough time with things, i want him to grow up and be able to do certain things for himself, and not have people doing things for him all the time because he's disabled..... same here..eric screams and fights but we push him to do it anyways..sometimes i feel mean sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 10:31 pm
Liona Spryte Children can die as a result of stuff like this. (If anyone had bothered to take me for treatment when I was 8 I would not have tried suicide when I was 10, 13, 14, 16, etc.) Listen to your kids. Know your kids.
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 7:49 am
*gives you a huge hug* i know how it feels.........when i give ben a bath he screams so much, but i know he needs one.......
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 7:53 am
Thelana Darkstar as an example of what you just said, i first attempted suicide when i was 8 years old. i tried suffocating myself and i still don't know how the pillow got off my face after i blacked out. but either way i almost succeeded. I'm a clinical depressive and suicidal and whenever i mention anything death related or have any type of scratch on me my friends freak out. funny how my family doesn't, but i think they're in denial or sumthin. yeah my family was all clueless my major depression during highschool........i used to be bumlimic and all my friends would worry but my parents never noticed, but since i'm older and wiser, i think they never wanted to notice because they were so screwed up themselves they could never look outside of themselves to actually see what was happening to their own children.......
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 1:25 pm
i just wanted to share with everyone that ben is rolling more and i'm happy about that, and he's trying his hardest to sit himself up when i sit him in my lap or on one of his chairs.....so he's growing! whee
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 3:53 pm
Angelique~Yuna Thelana Darkstar as an example of what you just said, i first attempted suicide when i was 8 years old. i tried suffocating myself and i still don't know how the pillow got off my face after i blacked out. but either way i almost succeeded. I'm a clinical depressive and suicidal and whenever i mention anything death related or have any type of scratch on me my friends freak out. funny how my family doesn't, but i think they're in denial or sumthin. yeah my family was all clueless my major depression during highschool........i used to be bumlimic and all my friends would worry but my parents never noticed, but since i'm older and wiser, i think they never wanted to notice because they were so screwed up themselves they could never look outside of themselves to actually see what was happening to their own children.......
yea, i think that was my family's problem. we had and have a lotta problems. but i think part of it was that they had my sister to worry about so they couldn't worry about me or anything. and sometimes to make up for it would buy me stuff i wanted when we had a fight or somthing. i know that was their way of apology and a lotta times i was fine with it but yea.
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 4:17 pm
Thelena, you are a real survivor to me to have overcome all those things. I can't even imagine what it must have been like to go through all that. *hugs*
Go Ben!! I bet he is getting bigger everyday!
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Posted: Fri Mar 18, 2005 3:33 pm
yeah he is.........he's just growing too fast though.......... crying ..........Ant, what kind of respite care do you do? and what kind of people do you take care of, any with down syndrome? and if you do, what are some of the things that you do with them?
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Posted: Fri Mar 18, 2005 5:46 pm
Angelique~Yuna yeah he is.........he's just growing too fast though.......... crying ..........Ant, what kind of respite care do you do? and what kind of people do you take care of, any with down syndrome? and if you do, what are some of the things that you do with them?
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