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 Posted: Fri Aug 19, 2011 10:17 pm
I'm having similar issues, doubts, etc. about bisexuality right now. I think I may be bi, but as I've never dated or anything, I'm not 100% sure. And all these stereotypes aren't making it any easier. For instance, I worry that if I do come out, it will be seen as that same "Barsexual" thing that everyone talks about (I live in a college town filled with sororities, so this goes on all the time). And the only people I know who are bi are people who are naturally attention-seeking and kind of slutty, so that doesn't help. And in the end, even my parents, who both come from the theater world and are very tolerant, consider bisexuality to be "just a phase"--like something a teenager does for attention.
It's really frustrating, and I think it would actually be easier to come out as lesbian (not that that's easy in general, I'm sure). At least then, there's an accepted culture, community, and it's fairly easily defined.
But if people would stop saying that they're bisexual because they think it sounds cool, I think it would make life a lot easier.
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2011 6:20 pm
I was told that coming out as bi would be easier on my mom but she took it just as hard. So that's bull crap.
I actually had a therapist tell me that bisexuality wasn't real. You either a lesbian or your straight, there are no in betweens. I looked it up and it truly DOES exist. But that was years ago.
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Posted: Thu Aug 25, 2011 6:00 pm
I pretty much agree with the person on the first page saying that many bisexuals do prefer one gender over the other and tend to stick with one. Or that they usually end up picking men or women. Now I'm bisexual myself and I find myself equally attracted to men and woman I'm still a virgin (I'm only 1 cool but I know that I would be with both men and women.
I think the most common stereotype that I have noticed is that we want everyone we see. I remember when I first told a friend that I was bi she said she didn't care or anything but instantly she started pointing out every woman to me and told me, hey Allison I have a friend you should meet. Which bothers me because before I told her she never pointed out men to me before I told her.
If you ask me, bisexuals do exist! I think that one's sexuality can be extremely complex and hard to figure out. So to say that we're faking or looking for attention is silly. Although there are MANY people that are confused or are looking for attention.
Also just because we're bisexual does not mean we have both a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time. >.<
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Posted: Tue Aug 30, 2011 9:10 am
From childhood's hour I have not been
As others were; I have not seen
As others saw; I could not bring
My passions from a common spring.
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow; I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone;
And all I loved, I loved alone.
Then- in my childhood, in the dawn
Of a most stormy life- was drawn
From every depth of good and ill I denied myy being Bi for a little while till my older sister came out being a lesbian. So then I knew my parents would accept me. But none of my friends know I am Bi. I tried to tell them but they were like, "Remember when "He" said he was Bi. He's attention whore. I'm glad no one I know know is Bi, gay, or les." But I would be the last person you'd expect to be Bi. I'm really shy as in I can't speak near other people I don't know. I am not an attention whore, and I am very logical. Smart enough to know that homophobia is for those who are not able to believe we live in the 21st century. Anything is possible. The mystery which binds me still:
From the torrent, or the fountain,
From the red cliff of the mountain,
From the sun that round me rolled
In its autumn tint of gold,
From the lightning in the sky
As it passed me flying by,
From the thunder and the storm,
And the cloud that took the form
(When the rest of Heaven was blue)
Of a demon in my view.
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Posted: Tue Aug 30, 2011 11:40 am
I'm Bi and have never experienced such harsh words... and now that I have read what you posted for this topic I kind of want to throw up.
I deal with other stereotypes everyday, about the way I dress and other things...
Promiscuous? Hardly. The only reason I never have a meaningful relationship with a girl is because the only ones I ended up with were to shallow and heartless. I've done a little better with men for some odd reason.
I don't go out looking for Men or Women, both are awesome, I look for personality.
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Posted: Tue Aug 30, 2011 4:34 pm
I am a faithful person i don't like cheater's or to cheat. Saying that , i am a bi-sexual now do i prefer one sex to another i honestly can't say i go by my heart. I've been in a relationship with both a man and a women and both went well they just didn't last cause i like long - term and that's not what i get a lot of the time. I really do not like the people who go out and fake or pretend to be Bi for the attention cause of how people then perceive me, like all Bi's are one in the same and that's not it. The simple fact is where just like Gay and Lesbian and Straight people we want to be accepted , not looked down upon.
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Posted: Tue Aug 30, 2011 7:09 pm
Yes, bisexuals are more discriminated than gays. (Though transgendered people are even more discriminated than that, but not the point)
Personally, I think everyone is deep down bisexual. Physical touch feels nice if done right, regardless of the loins of the person. Its the mental preferences that really affect sexuallity the way I see it.
Ofcourse, no bisexual is going to get flak from me. As a trans person, Id rather date a bisexual person, since it removes certain issues.
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 6:50 am
The experiences I have been of Bisexuals in highschool so far has been pitiful girls seeking more attention for straight menfolk. I person don't think their is such a thing as bisexuality, because you'll lean to wither being more Lesbian/gay or straight depends on what you fancy. In the same token, what you do in your spare time has zero influence on my life so so you do what you need to and label yourself if you need to. :S
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 12:44 pm
I think its a growing problem...even now I was just in school not to long ago, and the whole thing is there's this group of girls hangin around saying they're bi...and then when an actually openly lesbian girl comes in. and calls them out on it saying she's never heard them be with anybody and it turns out, they wernt bi. they were just saying it. i think its because of THOSE people that bisexuals are being given a bad name and disliked in both communities... because whose to know until proven ?? straight people who find out someones bi, all ive seen is they try and stay away from you BOTH sexes because they always get the impression somebodys gonna just jump them because oooo they're bi, so scary. =/ and it needs to stop..being bi or homosexual isnt cool..its a lifestyle and people just turned it all wrong trying to fit in ):<
sorry if this is irrelevant ..i got sidetracked sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 6:31 pm
Anyone else receive the "Biseuals don't exist" card?
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Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2011 4:13 am
Its a growing problem for sure. I have experiences when i was younger when i use to be clingy type but not majorly clingy. I really wanted to date this one boy. Every time i ran into him i was to shy but one day I finial told him then he asked me if i was gay and i told him that i was bi then i quote his exact words "Get lost" after that i just broke down and cried in the hall in front of people but all the sudden someone hugged me. which it startled me at first but we ended up talking and become good friends.
I felt really heartbroken that day i didnt do anything after i got home beside lay in my bed crying with my stuffed kitty. Which i still currently have since i was six
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Posted: Mon Sep 12, 2011 3:45 pm
Okay, this is sort of tough. I am bisexual, and I currently have both a male and female partner. Of course, this is also because of my particular lifestyle, that even straight or gay people can be into, and it isn't only because I'm Bi. That's kind of all I have to say.. Just because I'm Bi doesn't mean that I'm totally promiscuous.. I am loyal to my two partners only.
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