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 Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 11:40 am
Adam T Nightclaw You are right, telling him at that moment probably wasn't the best Idea, but the look on his face was great. I am just glad my mom had enough common sense not to tell my dad. Next to my grandpa, he is the most homophobic person on the planet. Just my luck. *dry laugh* XD Yeah, but then I admit that I'd do something similar just for a laugh. :[ I'm sorry about your dad and grandfather. But hey, even if there isn't much you can do about them, you're out to your mom. It's really something to have told one of them, at least--that takes a lot of courage. You have my respect for it. smile
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 12:04 pm
kageling :[ I'm sorry about your dad and grandfather. But hey, even if there isn't much you can do about them, you're out to your mom. It's really something to have told one of them, at least--that takes a lot of courage. You have my respect for it. smile Thank you, it really took a lot to tell her, but I don't regret it for a second. While we are on the topic of baptism I guess I may as well share my story. I was baptized by a pastor, (actually a straight friends dad) who had given a sermon about the evils of homosexuality only the day before he baptized me. It is almost ironic in a way. Just think if he had really known what he was doing.
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:42 pm
kageling Seralunarin I was suprised as hell, my dad is from a super conservative family (my aunt baptized me in a sink). I think that he just completely gives up on trying to make me his asristocratic proper daughter and just has kinda acctepted the pansexual activist me that really exists. I'm sorry, this is totally random, but the phrase "baptized me in a sink" keeps giving me an image of just that...and then lifting the baby and accidentally banging its head on the faucet. x___X I'm so sorry! It just keeps playing in my head... DD: Okay anyway....hahaha, but you are very lucky to have a father like that. :] A lot of people don't have even half of that support. And I hope it makes you strong. <3 Lol.....it would explain the presents i still get. Guilt. lol jk. Yeah, i know how lucky i am. Honestly though, i have been working on him for years. Harrassing him about liberals issues all the time, shoviong his bigoted ideas back at him. But i'm really glad that he has loved me so much to deal with me over the years and work through his stuff. I really do know how special that is. And trust me, there is a reson i can win a debate with most adults ^_~ Years of practice. Its made me apreciate the phrase, "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger"
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:46 pm
kageling Adam T Nightclaw You are right, telling him at that moment probably wasn't the best Idea, but the look on his face was great. I am just glad my mom had enough common sense not to tell my dad. Next to my grandpa, he is the most homophobic person on the planet. Just my luck. *dry laugh* XD Yeah, but then I admit that I'd do something similar just for a laugh. :[ I'm sorry about your dad and grandfather. But hey, even if there isn't much you can do about them, you're out to your mom. It's really something to have told one of them, at least--that takes a lot of courage. You have my respect for it. smile PLus, you may end up suprised about your dad and grandpa. I basically assumened that too and was so glad to find out how wrong i was. A lot of time love can overcome predujuce and you can become an exception in their mind. It also happened to my friend. She came out to her mom and then eventually her dad. HEr dad is pretty homophobic so it suprised her as hell when he told her that from a mans point of view, they dont see why most girls arnt together more often. You might be suprised how many of their "morals" they will twist to keep you in their lives.
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Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 12:52 am
Adam T Nightclaw Thank you, it really took a lot to tell her, but I don't regret it for a second. While we are on the topic of baptism I guess I may as well share my story. I was baptized by a pastor, (actually a straight friends dad) who had given a sermon about the evils of homosexuality only the day before he baptized me. It is almost ironic in a way. Just think if he had really known what he was doing. XD Oh man, the things that clueless people do.
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Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 12:55 am
Seralunarin Lol.....it would explain the presents i still get. Guilt. lol jk. Yeah, i know how lucky i am. Honestly though, i have been working on him for years. Harrassing him about liberals issues all the time, shoviong his bigoted ideas back at him. But i'm really glad that he has loved me so much to deal with me over the years and work through his stuff. I really do know how special that is. And trust me, there is a reson i can win a debate with most adults ^_~ Years of practice. Its made me apreciate the phrase, "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger" Hahaha~ O: Indeed. That's pretty impressive! I'm sure you're quite the fighter for the things you believe in. :]
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 6:58 am
kageling Seralunarin Lol.....it would explain the presents i still get. Guilt. lol jk. Yeah, i know how lucky i am. Honestly though, i have been working on him for years. Harrassing him about liberals issues all the time, shoviong his bigoted ideas back at him. But i'm really glad that he has loved me so much to deal with me over the years and work through his stuff. I really do know how special that is. And trust me, there is a reson i can win a debate with most adults ^_~ Years of practice. Its made me apreciate the phrase, "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger" Hahaha~ O: Indeed. That's pretty impressive! I'm sure you're quite the fighter for the things you believe in. :] yeah.....though i think it often annoys people. O well, their loss.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 3:03 pm
Seralunarin yeah.....though i think it often annoys people. O well, their loss. It can be, but it's also impressive. I can admire people even if their beliefs don't align with mine--doesn't make me like them, but I can appreciate that.
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Posted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 11:59 am
kageling Seralunarin yeah.....though i think it often annoys people. O well, their loss. It can be, but it's also impressive. I can admire people even if their beliefs don't align with mine--doesn't make me like them, but I can appreciate that. Same.
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2006 2:14 pm
I guess you could say I'm 'out,' but only on a limited basis. Only about 5 of my friends know, and my parents... so far all of them are very supportive of who I am, which makes me happy.
Now my other friends, I don't know... xD;
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 12:42 am
insertwittynamehere I guess you could say I'm 'out,' but only on a limited basis. Only about 5 of my friends know, and my parents... so far all of them are very supportive of who I am, which makes me happy. Now my other friends, I don't know... xD; :3 That's why I ask everyone to define it for themselves. We all have different standards for it. :] You're really lucky, though. I'm glad for you. <3 p.s.-- I like your username. XD
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 6:01 am
Female. Out-ish. I mean, most of my friends know, and most people at school. I don't plan on telling my parents until I have my own house out of state, lol. It's not that bad, in my own opinion, telling your friends. I mean, I didn't have any problems at all with that. Because most all of them are bisexual, transexual, lesbians...that sort of thing. So it was more like a celebration than a bunch of questions and awkward silences. I guess I was blessed with that. But my parents, no. I mean, it would just be awkward for me wondering what they're thinking all the time. Like, when I go over to a friend's house or something. Would they think we're having intercource or going out? I just don't want to deal with that awkward feeling of them thinking those things about me, and thinking that way about me. So I'd wrather wait until I've matured and they've matured in the like.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 1:13 pm
Faint Residing Female. Out-ish. I mean, most of my friends know, and most people at school. I don't plan on telling my parents until I have my own house out of state, lol. It's not that bad, in my own opinion, telling your friends. I mean, I didn't have any problems at all with that. Because most all of them are bisexual, transexual, lesbians...that sort of thing. So it was more like a celebration than a bunch of questions and awkward silences. I guess I was blessed with that. But my parents, no. I mean, it would just be awkward for me wondering what they're thinking all the time. Like, when I go over to a friend's house or something. Would they think we're having intercource or going out? I just don't want to deal with that awkward feeling of them thinking those things about me, and thinking that way about me. So I'd wrather wait until I've matured and they've matured in the like. I know what you are talking about when it comes to telling parents, or even straight people in general. My mom seems to think that just because I am bi it means that I want to have sex with everyone on Earth. She is always all paranoid about who I hang out with, or If I make bodily contact with a person she assumes it means I am trying to make a move on them. I lack sexual preference, not sexual self-control; yet people are so blinded they fail to see it.
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Posted: Tue Jan 03, 2006 6:18 am
Childhood Dreams kageling Ouch, got them there. XD Yeah, but I'm sure you don't have to have a sexual encounter to know. Attraction is what defines your orientation--not actual sex. Otherwise, we'd all be orientationally neutral until we screwed with someone. =___= And you know, stupid idea. You shouldn't be embarassed about your sexuality, though--whatever you are, gay, straight, bi, etc.--you should be proud and appreciate yourself (and others, of course) for what they are. :3 Then you should talk to him and see what happens. If he seems to be open minded about it, then he probably will not shun you. And it might be fun to have him know.
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Posted: Tue Jan 03, 2006 6:20 am
insertwittynamehere I guess you could say I'm 'out,' but only on a limited basis. Only about 5 of my friends know, and my parents... so far all of them are very supportive of who I am, which makes me happy. Now my other friends, I don't know... xD; Not sure what else to say but good luck? They will take it as they will so don't stress too much. *huggles* good luck!
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