I really want to hear a good arguement from some of the die-hards that think a relationship starting over the internet is an idiotic catastrophe. Not a rant, mind you. I'm not asking for people to parade around with vague retorts like, "Meeting over the internet is stupid!" or "People who do that are just desperate!" I want to hear good, solid reasoning.
My name is Slim, and I'm in a long-distance relationship that started over the internet. ("[insert monotone] Hiiiiiiiii, Sliiiiiiiiim.....")
No, I'm not the least bit desperate. I could make a phone call right now (well, not RIGHT now, because school's in) and get a date with a nice, funny, attractive guy. To be frank, I've dodged past numerous lovely boys my age who live nearby to be with one man halfway across the globe who I met in this very guild, and I don't think I could be happier with my decision. (And no, none of what I said just now was meant in a bragging way......)
Right now, my relationship isn't plagued with any problems your average close-distance relationship is, the inability to touch aside.
"But Slim! What if he's not who he says he is?" As far as gender goes, webcam has confirmed that he is, indeed, male. As far as age goes, I never cared for it. Doesn't matter to me. I went without knowing his age for almost two years. Besides, once you've started dating people out of high school..... age is such an easy thing to fake, no matter the distance of your relationship. (Take, for example, my father's new girlfriend. Every time I ask him how old she is, her age changes.) As far as personality goes........ Let me ask you this. Who do you think I know more:
A) Somebody I speak to avidly for an hour every weekday, and have been speaking to for a month.
B) Somebody I speak to avidly for a minimum of three hours a weekday, up to six hours every weekend, for over a year.
The answer seems pretty obvious to me. I find it absolutely ridiculous how some would suggest Person A (a boy who I met in one of my classes this year) is a better boyfriend candidate when I so whole-heartedly feel I don't know him...... Concealing your personality, you might suggest, is so much easier to do over the internet. My retort is that it really does depend on the person, not the means of communication. I find it much more easy to be open about who I really am over the internet, because I'm a writer. I communicate best with my pen to paper, my fingers to a keyboard. Though I am not, by any stretch of the imagination, socially inadequate offline. As an opposite example, I know a guy at school who lies and charms like crazy to get women in the sack. He's very, very capable of concealing who he really is in person......
My boyfriend and I have webcams as well, allowing us to see how the other speaks vocally, our body mannerisms, etc. And guess what? I'm still as smitten with him as I've always been~.
whee Even though I now see him when he's at his "worst" physically (I.E. when he's just rolled out of bed, or is just about to roll into bed), between you and I, I find his "worst" to be absolutely adorable......
So, nay-sayers, hit me with your best shot. (No, not a reference to Pat Benatar, you silly goose)
razz I'm willing to answer, if I can.
Long-distance relationships are, admittedly, tougher to maintain. There's almost always that underlying ache for physical contact.... But if you're willing to suffer through it, then why not give it a shot?
Omochii
...And the latter applies for online friendships too.
*high-fives*
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