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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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 Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 9:50 pm
Eltanin Sadachbia ScarletFrost Eltanin Sadachbia I don't know... I am one of our group who has stayed close to home, and I dislike it partly because so many of the old group isn't here anymore. After 13 years though several of the group have moved back to the area, which is cool, but now all I hear is, "We figured you would be the one who left and never looked back..." Sometimes, I wish that I didn't let us settle here, but my husband thought I wanted to stay close to my family, and I thought he wanted to stay close to his, so we never really discussed it until it was too late. Now i find myself hoping like hell he gets laid off so we won't have any other choice but move... I know it's bad, but there it is. He doesn't have to get laid off--if you can find another job and switch without much down time in-between, it's easier on the finances. I'm cheering for you to do whatever you want! Lift those roots and WALK! biggrin Ahhh... neutral ...But you don't know my husband... As long as he has a 'good' job, we won't be going anywhere... He is very resistant to change, even when he wants it... if that makes any sense... He is always worried that things might end up worse than they are, so when things are better for us some people around us, he would rather stay where we are than risk a worse position than we are in... ...and I really can't blame him. There are allot of people around here starting to feel the effects of our collapsing economy, and we at least are pretty much out of debt (except for the house, and general utilities, but all of our bills are current)... and we have been in worse situations... ...but the more I think about it, the less content I am, because the skills that we have between us are really useless around here. The schools in this area rate among some of the lowest in the state. Not just financially and what they have to offer, but also grade-wise. I want better for my kids. I don't want them to be stuck because they fell into the rut (more like a chasym) of this area... ..and yes, I am exaggerating some. The people around here are decent, and there are benefits to be had out the a** (for those who qualify)... but it just isn't a conducive environment for a family of techies to live in. This place is for farmers, mechanics, social workers, and health-workers. If you don't fall into one of those categories, then you're pretty much boned. The healthcare employment opportunities are endless, and promising, but I've been there done that; it's not for me. I couldn't see me lasting 2 days as a social worker, I know too many people who drain the system. I'm not a farmer. I could care less about engines and the like. So yeah... this is becoming way too long and turning into pure ranting of my deepening disappointment of life, and I really have no right to complain, because life isn't bad at all. I just really know we can do better than this, and I want to. BADLY... I can relate--while we're not quite as stable and rooted here, my husband and I are DYING to get out of L.A. (Sometimes literally, considering the pollution and insane heat of the area.) But we're still not going anywhere any time soon. OH--and I learned another piece of dismal news: After almost 2 years in school and the amazing way the student loan checks have repeatedly saved our butts, my husband is upset that I went back to school before we had paid off all the debt from his failed higher-education attempt!!! And now he's ragging on me because I 'suddenly changed my mind and don't want to be a teacher anymore, so why do I even bother with school?' Sorry, I didn't suddenly change my mind--I researched what teachers have to go through in Cali. And what a Cali teacher has to do to teach anywhere else in the U.S. And you know what? It's not worth it! Besides, I'd need my masters to teach anything anyway! The worst part is, the overall message I'm getting from him is: I should get a job with my Bachlor's degree, pay off all my debt, then work and put myself through school to get my vet med Ph.D. That's his grand plan. Oh, and he'll be sitting at home, waiting for me to bring home the bacon and taking care of our daughter. (But I had better get my Ph.D. before we have another kid, because he's not doing the toddler-years by himself twice.) scream scream scream **SIGH** Sorry. Rant sparked rant, I guess.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:05 pm
And August is coming...**shudder**
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 2:26 am
Oh gawd! rolleyes
The heat here is horrendous... and it is topped by almost tropical humidity at times... We had an 87 degree day last week, the night before when I saw the predicted high, I was like,'AWESOME! A break!'
But No... The humidity brought the frickin' index up to 103...
I figure any place we go is going to have weather issues though, so I don't really think that it matters much to our current situation.
My husband has some student loans to pay off, but we almost have them beat. He went to a business college that severely misrepresented themselves, and he got burned. They told him that he was going to learn to build computers, and set him up with a C+ cert. In the end, after we got the loans, and he started classes, he found himself in a class for learning secretarial and accounting skills. We looked into trying to fight the school to pay back the loans, and give us the money we spent back, but we didn't have the resources, or the support to win a case in court. At the time he just quit the school. but now he wishes he would have stayed in since we had to pay anyway. We have talked about using next year's tax refund to finish them off, but we might have them paid before if we can keep sending a little extra each month.
I went to real estate school in '09 which put a hurt on us at the time... after much research, I decided that that was what I wanted to be. We had a couple run ins with some real douchebag agents when we were looking at buying a house, and I knew I could do better than they did. I loved everything about the process of getting a house, so I thought, 'that's for me.'
...But by the time I learned what I needed about the real estate laws of our state, and the laws of agency, and how it pretty much ties a person's hands on what they can do for their clients, I realized that the douchiness of the agents we had encountered were probably not their fault. They just couldn't legally answer so many of the questions we had...
I spent 6 months in an office after that. I got to show some houses, but I only got 3 contracts to sell in that time, and 4 contract to buy, and every single one of those contracts fell through, or my client backed out...
So I said, "******** it." Dave went back to work at the job he has now, and I have done a few temp jobs and some other odds and ends sort of things... I really want to go back to work, and school. It ls starting to really look like that won't happen until we move to the city though.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 6:44 am
Why do career choices have to be so messed up? stressed
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 11:51 am
ScarletFrost Why do career choices have to be so messed up? stressed I haven't been able to answer that one yet. sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 7:53 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 10:17 pm
It's nice to know I'm not the only one whose husband had thoughts of stay-at-home behaviour when he heard the words "veterinary medicine" - Unfortunately for him there's only one vet school in this country and it's run by elitist jerks, so I have instead been forced to go for the next best thing...a glorified cleaner in a veterinary clinic wink
Apparently it un-nerves people to know the vet nurse who cleans out their dogs kennel when it shites, and syringe-feeds their cat because it wont eat has a BSc in biochemistry, and a GradDip in biotechnology xd
I think the hardest part of career choices is the part where you have to give up on a lifelong dream because someone else has decided that you're not good enough sad
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 3:34 am
Catharia It's nice to know I'm not the only one whose husband had thoughts of stay-at-home behaviour when he heard the words "veterinary medicine" - Unfortunately for him there's only one vet school in this country and it's run by elitist jerks, so I have instead been forced to go for the next best thing...a glorified cleaner in a veterinary clinic wink Apparently it un-nerves people to know the vet nurse who cleans out their dogs kennel when it shites, and syringe-feeds their cat because it wont eat has a BSc in biochemistry, and a GradDip in biotechnology xd I think the hardest part of career choices is the part where you have to give up on a lifelong dream because someone else has decided that you're not good enough sad There are 28 schools here, but it's like becoming a real doctor. There's aptitude tests, pre-vet programs, and you have to have references up the ying-yang. I have none of this. sweatdrop
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 10:32 pm
someone stole my walking stick. ._. I accidentally left it at the bus stop, and when I came back later it wasn't there. sweatdrop
luckily I have another one... unluckily it's a tall length of myrtle wood that there is no chance in hell I'll be allowed to take inside anywhere. xd
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 10:43 pm
Education is so fickle. I'm overwhelmed because after my first two years of school, I'm done. And while I have a direction of where I'd like to go, so many things demand education that I'm not willing to devote years of my life, or have to work toward funding, etc. I don't like the system and I don't like classrooms. I could only take so much of it.
And it's definitely insulting when someone denies you entry based on their pre-judgments on standards they've defined. But we don't live in a classist society, no way. It's for everyone.
I don't even want to live within our capitalist system, but I have to play the game so hard to get to where I want -- out. It's no good. I mean... I don't have the same commitments as most of you, but finding my way through this to a place that I want to be... is pretty tough.
@Chieftain, No good! I have a walking stick, but... it's pretty much a pimp cane
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2011 12:15 am
Figuren Education is so fickle. I'm overwhelmed because after my first two years of school, I'm done. And while I have a direction of where I'd like to go, so many things demand education that I'm not willing to devote years of my life, or have to work toward funding, etc. I don't like the system and I don't like classrooms. I could only take so much of it. And it's definitely insulting when someone denies you entry based on their pre-judgments on standards they've defined. But we don't live in a classist society, no way. It's for everyone. I don't even want to live within our capitalist system, but I have to play the game so hard to get to where I want -- out. It's no good. I mean... I don't have the same commitments as most of you, but finding my way through this to a place that I want to be... is pretty tough. @Chieftain, No good! I have a walking stick, but... it's pretty much a pimp cane WOW! rofl I'd look less like a criminal with the myrtlewood!
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2011 1:54 am
@ Scarlet - It's pretty much the same here, except here you do Vet med as a bachelors degree (as you can do medicine here too). Unfortunately that means for entry I'm not only competing against fellow graduates, I'm also competing against people fresh out of high school that have a higher GPA than me because they've done well in the only four papers they had before selection. Do a whole degree and one C is a freaking death knell gonk
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2011 3:54 pm
Miso soup and veggie California rolls--could there possibly be a better breakfast? ^_^
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2011 5:16 pm
Took it really slow today since last night was terrible. I got sick. =.='' As in puke and all that crap. I'm feeling slightly better, and I should be 100% better after a good night's rest.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 9:59 pm
I spent last night on a small island close to me. It was really beautiful though the mosquitoes kept me up most of the night. Also I'm a little sick. Bad combination. I woke up this morning to see that the tide had gone out far enough to leave me thinking I was stranded. Ended up heaving the canoe down to the water and being absolutely exhausted.
Neat island though. I hadn't been there in too long. I saw lots of neat plants that I haven't seen elsewhere. The sunrise was pretty spectacular, and as I was getting up I saw an otter getting its breakfast. Cute little carnivore nommin on a fish.
It was a good experience minus the poor planning.
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