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 Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:01 am
Sounds like fun, Kosi. rolleyes
I am tripping right now on the fact that my son isn't even a preteen yet, and he is asking what "Rape" is because one of the kids in his class threatened to "Rape your sister"... We have already went into some pretty detailed explanations with him about the nature and mechanics of sex because our stance with him is, 'If you are old enough to ask an honest question, you are old enough to get an honest answer.'
The problem with the whole rape conversation was that it seemed to open a whole new train of realizations and questions that he had never even considered before. I could see innocence and childhood naivete draining out of him as he asked each question, and received each answer... but what could we do? Let him learn an incomplete and glorified version from people who could care less about him as a person?
I think I have just realized the hardest part of being a mom, and what it truly means to 'let go'...
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:18 am
Chieftain Twilight ah, man... Foxy, if it means anything else, there are alot of us here. sweatdrop so, support is never realy far away. sweatdrop and we're global, too, so your pretty much covered wherever you go! 3nodding Thanks. I need it. Especially now... On a new subject... my laptop decided that the aircard isn't going to work again. I'm gonna try to get it fixed but until then I might not be able to get online that often.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 11:21 am
Can you guys do me a very important favor?
Never back out onto the road, and watch extremely closely for motorcycles.
I lost my uncle that way at 24 years old just last month.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 3:38 pm
Sapphirianna Can you guys do me a very important favor? Never back out onto the road, and watch extremely closely for motorcycles. I lost my uncle that way at 24 years old just last month. Done and done. My highschool band director was also a motorcyclist and one of my best friends is also a biker, so I'm always careful. I love too many people on bikes. ^_^
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 5:30 pm
I'm totally freaking out. My husband is freaking out and that makes me freak out. Never thought I would be such a pansy, but I'm wishing for a dark closet in which to hide from the world. sad
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Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 6:10 pm
I am NOT in the mood to be messed with right now. I have been working since 10:00 AM, no, 6:00 AM, to basically right now.
My back is killing me, I'm exhausted, I'm sick, I'm ready to shred that vacuum to pieces, and I have a Zeldathon meeting across the internet at 10 pm tonight (ending at who knows when) because I have to be there instead of my brother, who's working tonight.
I STILL have yet to fill out what food we have for the 48 hr marathon into the excel sheet I began putting together, and I have to be up at 8 am tomorrow because of another day of cheer camp stuff.
And the lawn needs mowed, but the weather is not cooperating.
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Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 7:50 pm
I need to mow tomorrow too, but I don't know if I will get to. confused
I also haven't got to go to the gym this week, because of being available for others... Not complaining, but if I have to choose between mowing and gym, I'm choosing gym. smile
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 5:21 am
:pulls everyone into a big, tight hug.:
@ Elta: it's pretty crazy, ah? I have been seeing ghosts of people I know (mostly the younger ones) 5 years ago whenever I look at them. my sister, Radha, is already twice as tall as I keep thinking she is. my other sister, Shanti, just graduated highschool, and as it hit me I realized "wow... has it realy already been half a decade since I dropped out?"
but ya know, as sad as it is, and as painful as it is, leastways you know you are bringing him up right and preparing him. after all, it's better to know than to understand. you don't want him to have to have the familiarity with rape that I have, or even familiarity with any single one end of it. teaching is the best way to protect a loved one from something; not sheltering. it's along the lines of "give a man a fish, feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime".
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@ Foxy: we're all gonna miss you while your away. here's hoping you get everything figured out, but don't overwork yourself, dear. if you find yourself needing a break, don't hesitate. we'll all unerstand. smile
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@ Sapph: girl, I'm sorry. sad work can be miserable sometimes. care to hear about last Friday at the Salvation Army? xp I'm beginning to hate clothes... damn Great Wall of Fabric! crying
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@ Scarlet: what are you and your husband freaking out about!? gonk is it serious? any way I can help? oh wait, is it that mold situation? sad
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 6:12 pm
I think we're all PMSing together right now XP All these rough spots that just keep getting worse...
My mom told me that therapy isn't going to fix anything about my relationship... Yea, okay. She makes it sounds like it
s not going to help at all... Then she tells me to let someone foster the new baby and her keep Elena so I can go back to school... Because she doesn't think I want to be a mom at 22. Guess what, I was a mom at 17 so this isn't really anything new. What we need is to move out and for my husband to get a job. I'll eventually get back to school, but it's more important for him to be the provider right now.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 6:55 pm
eek Mold ! sad
We dealt with mold last year, ended up having to tear a whole room out of the house and redo the insulation, drywall, and even some of the studs... HORRIBLE stuff!... If that's what the freak is about, I totally sympathize.
... and Kosi, it sounds like your mom isn't very encouraging, although she thinks she is. I know how hard that is too. My husband and I lived with my parents for a year ('05 to '06) and it really stressed my husband and my relationship. It's really hard for your man to feel provider when he doesn't have his own castle to come home to, and when there are other people in a house who become a more intimate part of a relationship than they really have right to be... the fostering idea would make me want to straight up attack anyone who proposed it to me, I bet that was really hard to hear. I do hope things work out rather quickly for you guys to get your own place. neutral
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 8:52 pm
It's the mold. It's father's day. It's my husbands inability to loose weight. It's money trouble because my job is retarded and no one else is hiring. It's school being stupid and slow and not getting me a book loan so I can get my books in time to write my essays. It's staying up for 28 hours at a time and sleeping on a lumpy futon because the bedroom is out of commission. IT'S EVERYTHING.
:pant:pant:pant:
Nah, I'm fine.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 9:48 pm
So I had two wisdom teeth taken out on Thursday.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 3:03 am
Aww Scarlet... I wish there was a way for me to make you feel better... I have been having issues with finding a place to work as well. I thought I had something lined out, but it seems to have fell through, and since I have been a stay-at-home mom for 4 years now, no one seems to want me...
As for weight-loss, I have plateaued. I am not losing pounds anymore. I am losing inches, but I want to see the scale go down more. I am starting the Ducan Diet with my mom today, and maybe that will reset my dieting side of losing tonnage. I'll keep you posted on if it works for me, maybe it is something your husband could try.
... as for books, maybe you could find PDF. torrents of them to use until you buy them? I know it's shady, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta.
@Manguusu- be sure to keep them clean and packed. I had 3 pulled out at once, and ended up with dry-socket in 2 of the holes my teeth left. I thought my head was going to spontaneously combust/explode/implode all at once. The pain was every bit as bad as a kidney stone or giving birth, it was just a matter of the type of pain it was really.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 7:18 am
Eltanin Sadachbia ... and Kosi, it sounds like your mom isn't very encouraging, although she thinks she is. I know how hard that is too. My husband and I lived with my parents for a year ('05 to '06) and it really stressed my husband and my relationship. It's really hard for your man to feel provider when he doesn't have his own castle to come home to, and when there are other people in a house who become a more intimate part of a relationship than they really have right to be... the fostering idea would make me want to straight up attack anyone who proposed it to me, I bet that was really hard to hear. I do hope things work out rather quickly for you guys to get your own place. neutral
It feels like my husband has regressed... He was kind of taking care of us when we lived together, but now he's just reverted back to that 12 year old who just wants to play games. He hung out with a drug addict, and two losers the other day (the night that I had to babysit him)... So the day after I had to put it in to perspective that they were not good company to keep... Everything is getting really hard now.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 6:53 pm
Eltanin Sadachbia @Manguusu- be sure to keep them clean and packed. I had 3 pulled out at once, and ended up with dry-socket in 2 of the holes my teeth left. I thought my head was going to spontaneously combust/explode/implode all at once. The pain was every bit as bad as a kidney stone or giving birth, it was just a matter of the type of pain it was really. Yikes. Good thing is they've almost completely healed... rather, they're not gaping, oozing holes any more, and there's just a small dent where the one had begun to surface.
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