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 Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 2:18 pm
I feel a wee bit left out and/or embarrassed...*mumbles*....I've never watched porn before...
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 2:46 pm
XxcloudedsightxX I feel a wee bit left out and/or embarrassed...*mumbles*....I've never watched porn before... Don't worry about it... Some things you see, and you wish the rest of your life you could unsee it, but the damage has been done... You have your whole life to get around to seeing some, but once you have watched it, it's there, and there's no going back to the simple innocence you had before the viewing. LOL Besides, I don't know about the rest of the guildies here, but I have stumbled across more disturbing things than I like to think about, which aren't funny, and that no person in their right mind would consider pleasing on any level. I think I was 19/20ish when I saw my first glimpse of hard-core smut, and to be honest, I felt it was a waste of the minutes that my curiosity lead me to waste while I inspected it. That is probably a large part of my issues with it at first when I discovered a cache of it on my husband's computer right after we first married.
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 3:02 pm
Talking some more about porn... Twi? You got another virus? Is your computer at high risk for STD's? 'Cause you know 3/4 of computer viruses are caught from porn sites... You need to use protection if you are going near those. LOL Oh, and just so you know, the other 1/4 can be found in quizzes (like you find on Facebook). O.o .... But actually, in all seriousness, if you don't have an up-to-date anti-virus, you should go to Avast.com and get their free home edition. It's what I use, and it is awesome. You need to be sure to register, which is basically just giving them your e-mail address, and then typing in the registry code they give you. It updates everyday, and my computer is clean as a whistle.
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 3:27 pm
Eltanin Sadachbia Talking some more about porn... Twi? You got another virus? Is your computer at high risk for STD's? 'Cause you know 3/4 of computer viruses are caught from porn sites... You need to use protection if you are going near those. LOL Oh, and just so you know, the other 1/4 can be found in quizzes (like you find on Facebook). O.o .... But actually, in all seriousness, if you don't have an up-to-date anti-virus, you should go to Avast.com and get their free home edition. It's what I use, and it is awesome. You need to be sure to register, which is basically just giving them your e-mail address, and then typing in the registry code they give you. It updates everyday, and my computer is clean as a whistle. he's on a family computer, where his mother will not use any antivirus except for the one she has, and someone on it opens ALL their e-mail apparently.... also google has been giving him viruses too. lol
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 5:57 pm
Norton sucks...
I don't like McAfee either...
Really, out of several I have tried, Avast is my favorite. It seems to stay on top of the virus definitions, it has relatively low drag on the resources, and I don't have to pay a subscription fee. They only send me an e-mail when it's time to renew. When I had the pay anti-viruses, I was always getting e-mails from them wanting me to buy something else from them. they made me mad...
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 6:43 pm
erinnightwalker Have you told him, gently, that those actions hurt you? If he is forgetful in general, it may take quite a few gentle reminders (because big ones hurt more than they help) to get him to actually change behaviors. Yelling at him puts him on the defensive and triggers unhappy thoughts at you. You want him to see that the behavior hurts you and that a change on his part would be the best solution, but one must be careful when one leads a scorpion. It takes a careful balance of "this is important to me so you better damn well listen" and "I love you baby, but I feel this way..." to get us to actually listen. Save the big blow ups for when he hasn't been listening or is actively disregarding what you are trying to say. Remember, its normal to think of past relationships when this one starts feeling wrong. Humans look for patterns, even when there aren't any, or when they aren't truly a pattern. Bodies change every moment, but it is the mind that holds a relationship together. A body is just something squishy to play with wink How does he react to you appreciating other men (physically or mentally)? Craving the reassurance that the person you love loves you so much that he won't even look at another woman is an understandable desire, but still an unhealthy one. Do you expect the same from yourself? Do you even deny yourself Hollywood eyecandy for fear of upsetting your husband or making him jealous? If he watches tapes rather than ogling women closer to home, I'm happy. If he fantasizes about Angelina Jolie rather than my best friend, I'm happy. I know I am overly paranoid and I have told him this. It still hits me some times and I make sure to let him know it is a problem with me, not him, because I know that he hasn't done anything. My head says trust him, but my heart says that he will do something worse than the last boyfriend. I am slowly retraining the heart. Its unfair for me to ask him to blind himself and demand slavish devotion only to me just to satisfy my scarred little heart. That would change the man I fell in love with into someone else I don't love.
Yes, I have after I calmed down. I even walk away a few times and come back almost in tears. Then I ask him if he understood me the day after.
I do not say anything about guys anymore. I love Jason Statham, but I don't make sounds of approval or say anything anymore because I do not want him to think things. And I do not watch movies unless I am with him. That is our bonding time so I wouldn't want to ruin it.
I totally understand the part about looking at someone who he will never even meet face to face rather than a friend, but I do not have any friends. Seriously, they stabbed me in the back and the few friends I have are states away. I have not made any friends since the move. They're all bitches anyways...
And the trust issues... I know I trust him, but I do not trust other people... I seriously do not. He's told me about the people "Oh, you're a Marine?! biggrin " because they want to get with a Marine... types who have approached him... I hate it.
And lastly, he was not like this when we were not married. I don't know if it was because we rarely saw each other and I did not see this side or if it was always there and he just hid it to "reel me in"... I really do not know...
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 6:47 pm
Chieftain Twilight Micarst Eltanin Sadachbia So, now when there happens to be porn on the computer, we are usually both looking at it (which still feels kinda weird, but eh, it's amusing). I'm a weirdo. I like gay porn best, but my husband doesn't like any porn. So he claims, and I've never seen a hint otherwise. He makes all kinds of hilarious innuendo-laden comments about the girls in movies though. that's different though. innuendos are funny. if only women knew what men do when they are alone without females. =w= seriously, nothing but self-detrimental gay jokes about ourselves and eachother. xd any group of all guys. that's what happens.
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 8:23 pm
XxcloudedsightxX I feel a wee bit left out and/or embarrassed...*mumbles*....I've never watched porn before...
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 8:53 pm
Aakosir XxcloudedsightxX I feel a wee bit left out and/or embarrassed...*mumbles*....I've never watched porn before... To me, porn is like watching one of the worst movies ever made and in it everybody is naked. There you go, that about sums it up.
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 8:56 pm
Eltanin Sadachbia Norton sucks... I don't like McAfee either... Really, out of several I have tried, Avast is my favorite. It seems to stay on top of the virus definitions, it has relatively low drag on the resources, and I don't have to pay a subscription fee. They only send me an e-mail when it's time to renew. When I had the pay anti-viruses, I was always getting e-mails from them wanting me to buy something else from them. they made me mad... I must agree Avast is really good. It seems to be the highest recommended on all the tech geek sites.
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 10:47 pm
Well, happy new year to us. My husband's shift had a meeting tonight, and they were told that there will be massive layoffs between now and May... He hunted down a Union Rep and was told that he won't be one of the first to go, but they are laying off people according to how long they have been there... He has only been there just now a year, so he doesn't have enough time there to completely dodge the bullet. We are looking at about March it looks like, on a list of 500, Dave is somewhere in the mid 300's. now if 150 people quite that are on the frontside of his seniority, he might make it....GAH!!!
On the upside, I would be able to get back out of the house, he would be able to draw FULL unemployment, PLUS, the union will pay for him to go back to school if he so chooses... not pay a part, but PAY, so I am thinking this could actually be the break we need in disguise of something harsh...
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 12:08 pm
Eltanin Sadachbia Well, happy new year to us. My husband's shift had a meeting tonight, and they were told that there will be massive layoffs between now and May... He hunted down a Union Rep and was told that he won't be one of the first to go, but they are laying off people according to how long they have been there... He has only been there just now a year, so he doesn't have enough time there to completely dodge the bullet. We are looking at about March it looks like, on a list of 500, Dave is somewhere in the mid 300's. now if 150 people quite that are on the frontside of his seniority, he might make it....GAH!!! On the upside, I would be able to get back out of the house, he would be able to draw FULL unemployment, PLUS, the union will pay for him to go back to school if he so chooses... not pay a part, but PAY, so I am thinking this could actually be the break we need in disguise of something harsh... Good luck! *hugs*
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 6:10 pm
Aakosir I'm going to do some snippets here. Um... Gods help me this is a long post to remember. The first part made me laugh.
Yes, I have after I calmed down. I even walk away a few times and come back almost in tears. Then I ask him if he understood me the day after.
I do not say anything about guys anymore. I love Jason Statham, but I don't make sounds of approval or say anything anymore because I do not want him to think things. And I do not watch movies unless I am with him. That is our bonding time so I wouldn't want to ruin it.
I totally understand the part about looking at someone who he will never even meet face to face rather than a friend, but I do not have any friends. Seriously, they stabbed me in the back and the few friends I have are states away. I have not made any friends since the move. They're all bitches anyways...
And the trust issues... I know I trust him, but I do not trust other people... I seriously do not. He's told me about the people "Oh, you're a Marine?! biggrin " because they want to get with a Marine... types who have approached him... I hate it.
And lastly, he was not like this when we were not married. I don't know if it was because we rarely saw each other and I did not see this side or if it was always there and he just hid it to "reel me in"... I really do not know... Hmmm.... so he is the only person you know where you are now? You have no other people to talk to?
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 7:28 pm
erinnightwalker Aakosir I'm going to do some snippets here. Um... Gods help me this is a long post to remember. The first part made me laugh.
Yes, I have after I calmed down. I even walk away a few times and come back almost in tears. Then I ask him if he understood me the day after.
I do not say anything about guys anymore. I love Jason Statham, but I don't make sounds of approval or say anything anymore because I do not want him to think things. And I do not watch movies unless I am with him. That is our bonding time so I wouldn't want to ruin it.
I totally understand the part about looking at someone who he will never even meet face to face rather than a friend, but I do not have any friends. Seriously, they stabbed me in the back and the few friends I have are states away. I have not made any friends since the move. They're all bitches anyways...
And the trust issues... I know I trust him, but I do not trust other people... I seriously do not. He's told me about the people "Oh, you're a Marine?! biggrin " because they want to get with a Marine... types who have approached him... I hate it.
And lastly, he was not like this when we were not married. I don't know if it was because we rarely saw each other and I did not see this side or if it was always there and he just hid it to "reel me in"... I really do not know... Hmmm.... so he is the only person you know where you are now? You have no other people to talk to?
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Posted: Sat Jan 08, 2011 2:56 pm
...Okay then... moving on from Zeldathon.
I'm planning on trying to do a cosplay... I've never done that before... >.<
Do you guys think I should go on with it?
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