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I don't see any problem in eloping. I probably wouldn't do it, but I see no issue with it.

im not sure what age i want to get married but i want it to be at a younger age. im hoping that my husband and i will travel adn do some fun stuff before having kids. and i want to have then earlier too so that they don't have a parent that gets mistaken for there grandparents. hopfully ill be a fun mom that their not embarassed to me around.

The only flames you'll get is for that one spelling mistake and jealousy. You sound like you found true love. Good for you. And I'm sure that mistake was an accident.

Well, the subject of marriage is something I think about before I even ask someone out. I date to look for people I could marry. Some people find that odd, but I find it easier to think of it that way.

What do I want? I want a wife who is a Christian and has a majority of the same beliefs I do. I want a spouse who is smart and perceptive, and who I can hold long conversations with. I have no idea about kids. I've thought about it, and I think I want them, but I'd rather cross that bridge when I get there. And I need a wife who supports my career choice of military service, because the job I am going to have will require me to be away for long periods of time, and I would have to make many sacrifices in order to serve my country.

Age? I don't know. I think I'd rather see some more of the world before I get tied down in one place. I don't really see myself getting married before I turn 25, but that's not an absolute. That's not to say I wouldn't get married if I felt I'd met the right person, because that's not so. However, it'd be hard to make a relationship work for 5,000 miles away, I suppose...

Well, that doesn't necessarily mean you have to elope. I mean, eloping is escaping to secretly get married. It doesn't sound like anything but finances are stopping you, so I wouldn't technically call any wedding of yours eloping. But there are other ways to tie the knot without having the traditional big wedding in church and all. Try going and getting married at the local courthouse. My friend's parents couldn't afford it, either, and so that's what they did. Of course, it might vary from state to state, and they lived in a different state before so I couldn't even tell you if they do it where I live, much less where you are. But it's worth looking in to. You could also try a small ceremony at one of your houses with only a few key relatives and friends. That way you don't have to pay for some fancy schmansy place for the reception and all kinds of other stuff.

I was reading in a book, though I forget the name, but it said that there were five requirements that a future spouse had to meet.

1) You must be atleast somewhat attracted to the other physically. There is no point in marrying someone if you dont even like to look at them.

2) They must be of the same relidgeon, otherwise they will drag you down faster than you can pull them up.

3) They must support you, pysically, mentally, and spiritually.

4) You shouldn't be clones, or complete opposites. Variety is good, but sharing opinions and likings are good as well.

5) They will never force you into something you arent ready for.

( I'm just remembering this from last year... I may be a little off though I do believe that these are qualities that a life partner should fulfil.)

i totally agree with most of you: I don't believe in love at first sight. love takes time...you can't just look at someone and be in love...that's such an exaggeration. I would want to marry someone who was my best friend, because when your in mid thirties and you've got kids...you may not always feel 'in love' with your spouse,so your friendship has to pull you through in those times. It should be someone you trust, have a lot of fun with, and just love to be around. oh yeah, you gotta be attracted to him/her! redface I would love to get married when I turn twenty-three, or fresh out of college. I'd like to have a big family, but I'd like to wait a couple of years and get financially stable and emotionally stable. I'd want twins, a boy and a girl, and three girls or boys. I smile thinking about my future! biggrin

You know, I am going to take whoever God gives me, it's his standards, not mine. But if he were to ask me what the woman of my dreams is ( He wouldn't need to, he's onmiscient) I would tell him this.

1) First, I want her to love God more than she loves me. I don't want to be an obstacle to her walk with the Lord.

2) I want her to have common sense and a ' Does this give God glory?' attitude. I don't have any common sense so she would fill in that catergory. biggrin

3) I would want her to be pure, compassionate, gentle, kind, serious, sincere and an endearing soul. Someone who shares parts of my personality, but counterfeits some aswell. I'm outgoing and humorous, but sometimes I cross the line.

4) I want to be able to support her, I want her to be honest with me, half the time in marriages, dishonesty breaks them up.

5) Believe it or not, I want her to know me so well, that she knows how I think and act. I want her to know my weaknesses, and strengths, so she can help me be the human spiritual/emotional/physical mate. I want it vice versa aswell.

6) I don't care about physical looks, if it's a beauty and the beast situation, then let it be. God is sovereign.

7) Finally, I want her, if asked, did your husband fulfill the wish list for a partner? I want her to be able to say yes. I can't have a checklist for her, and not have it be vice versa.

I don't believe in love at first sight. I DO, although, believe in LUST at first sight.

If I am 77 when I get married, then I am 77 when I am married. I don't care when I do. God is sovereign, he would be merciful just to give me a wife.