Blade and Chalice
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George Washington bowed in public greetings to avoid shaking hands. I don't think he liked strangers/people getting too friendly with him, either. ^.^
Of all the sentiments I've seen expressed, I most agree with yours. I thought about having sex with the boyfriend I had because he seemed so miserable without it, and I wanted to make him happy. We never ended up having full-on sex though...and after awhile, I hated to see the look of lust in his eyes: like we couldn't just hang out until we got certain things "out of the way". But in truth, you guys...I think I might have sex one day. Maybe. o.o; But it will not be with just anyone....because, I think I would like to marry, and if I find and truly know "the right one" and he can prove to love me beyond needing the act, it might be an actually meaningful expression.
But I'm definately never for "Sex for just sex". Nope. Too old-fashioned and spiritual for that.
For now, I kind of like what I have going on with my best friend. We're affectionate towards each other, cuddle and whatnot, and I even sneak an occassional kiss. We can still joke around and do all the things friends should do, but the simple extra things are all I'd want from a "relationship" right now anyways. There's no pressure for anything more...It's good, and I'm content. 3nodding
'Sides, you should only be willing to deal with a partner's issues after you've gotten a hold on most of your own, heh heh...
George Washington bowed in public greetings to avoid shaking hands. I don't think he liked strangers/people getting too friendly with him, either. ^.^
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I've never had sex. I planned to, only to make my significant other happy. I'd feel bad depriving them of that, just because I don't enjoy it. However, the thought of it repulses me to no end. But.. I'm a giver, not a taker, and I like to put others before myself.. so I always figured I would put my boyfriend before myself and have sex with them to make them happy.
But I can't help feeling like my relationships are based on sex if I had sex with someone. And I really don't like that.
But I can't help feeling like my relationships are based on sex if I had sex with someone. And I really don't like that.
Of all the sentiments I've seen expressed, I most agree with yours. I thought about having sex with the boyfriend I had because he seemed so miserable without it, and I wanted to make him happy. We never ended up having full-on sex though...and after awhile, I hated to see the look of lust in his eyes: like we couldn't just hang out until we got certain things "out of the way". But in truth, you guys...I think I might have sex one day. Maybe. o.o; But it will not be with just anyone....because, I think I would like to marry, and if I find and truly know "the right one" and he can prove to love me beyond needing the act, it might be an actually meaningful expression.
But I'm definately never for "Sex for just sex". Nope. Too old-fashioned and spiritual for that.
For now, I kind of like what I have going on with my best friend. We're affectionate towards each other, cuddle and whatnot, and I even sneak an occassional kiss. We can still joke around and do all the things friends should do, but the simple extra things are all I'd want from a "relationship" right now anyways. There's no pressure for anything more...It's good, and I'm content. 3nodding
'Sides, you should only be willing to deal with a partner's issues after you've gotten a hold on most of your own, heh heh...
I wish I could have the sort of laid-back relationship type like yours, but I can't. On top of every other issue I have, I'm also insanely jealous. So without defining the relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend, I'd always be on my toes worrying about some other girl. BUT the boyfriend-girlfriend is also the part that scares me away. It's an endless cycle gonk
