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 Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 2:39 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Fuzzy Necromancer Threaten to crush their skulls between your "thunder thighs". =D
It's even more effective when you have glowing eyes O_O
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Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 8:19 pm
Wow. I'm so glad I found a place where I can rant and rave about the "skinny and beautiful"! I come from a tiny town where most of the girls are super skinny and super popular. In fact, I've had tiny girls who haven't even hit puberty call me "fat". My response to those girls? "Just wait til you have your first menstraul cycle, chica..."
I'm sick of seeing little children running around in clothing fit for teenagers and adults. I'm tired of seeing little childrens' chests and stomachs. The reason they get away with this is because their "heros and role models" are putting out too much (appearance and social-wise). Media says that to be popular you've got to be skinny, on some sort of drug, have family problems, or put out often. Whatever happened to a child's innocence? Whatever happened to the term "baby fat"? There is none! Now you're either skinny or you're picked on at school, being called terrible names and as a child, that's terrible on their mental stability.
No more! We must stand up for the baby fat and the chubby chicks! We will have a slogan! "We are not fat! We are well fed!"
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Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 8:32 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty How old is everybody else here? Am I just the old woman of the group?
Honestly, this is nothing new... this has been going on for years. I actually notice more that the media is trying to show how hard it is to be an overweight person in our society.
Clothing stores have always been too small. I can't wear Victoria's Secret 'cause they don't make 40Ds except in one bra... I want the Pink bras, damnit! Not that they'd offer me enough support, anyways. I can't even dream of wearing Abercrombie or Holister or anything like that. More and more companies are putting out larger sizes for juniors, or having whole sections devoted to plus-sized juniors.
Elementary through Highschool are just generally more unpleasant times for fat people, although I noticed when I was in Highschool it wasn't so bad for me anymore... But it's when I realized I'm actually attractive (circa around college... year 2004) that I started getting boyfriends, nobody insults me for my weight anymore, nobody says I'm ugly unless they're jealous.
So yeah, I don't really see it getting worse, only better.
Also, yeah... stores make larger sizes for guys because it's more acceptable to be an overweight male than it is to be an overweight female... Darling... I'm with you on the Victoria Secret issue. I have a barrel sized chest. Not cup wise, but size wise. I'm a 42B. I live in a world of huge straps and no push up wiring. I'm not quite into the extra-sized department, but gosh darn it! I want cute clothing still! I'm only 24 and I demand clothing that doesn't remind me of my grandma! As for school, I was teased from middle school all the way through my junior year in high school. It was at my senior year that I just learned to turn off the insults and stop caring what people said about me. I told myself that these people wouldn't even come to affect me once I left school and their opinions are allowed to be voiced, whether they are correct or not. As for me nowadays, I've got myself a husband who is smaller than I am but he loves me for my mind, not my body. My friends could care less if I gained another few pounds or not. I'm currently at 215lbs and I've been here for about 3 years now. I'm proud to look like I eat at least 2 meals a day. I look healthy. I refuse to cheat like most of the girls in my town and do drugs to suppress my appetite. I leave with one other quote, given to me by one of my other "big" girlfriends: "God made people in all shapes and sizes. Round is a shape. If I'm wrong, tell God he was wrong too."
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Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 8:35 pm
Animal Games Wow. I'm so glad I found a place where I can rant and rave about the "skinny and beautiful"! I come from a tiny town where most of the girls are super skinny and super popular. In fact, I've had tiny girls who haven't even hit puberty call me "fat". My response to those girls? "Just wait til you have your first menstraul cycle, chica..." I'm sick of seeing little children running around in clothing fit for teenagers and adults. I'm tired of seeing little childrens' chests and stomachs. The reason they get away with this is because their "heros and role models" are putting out too much (appearance and social-wise). Media says that to be popular you've got to be skinny, on some sort of drug, have family problems, or put out often. Whatever happened to a child's innocence? Whatever happened to the term "baby fat"? There is none! Now you're either skinny or you're picked on at school, being called terrible names and as a child, that's terrible on their mental stability. No more! We must stand up for the baby fat and the chubby chicks! We will have a slogan! "We are not fat! We are well fed!" true about the baby fat. Babies are born chubby...so why can't people be chubby as well? I mean, babies look so cute with their chub...and women with chub definitly look so cute sweatdrop ...well....shmexy...but still. Society is telling people to be "in" you have to be skinny...kinda reminds me of that movie "Silent Hill"...with the society saying that the girl is a witch. Just like that...casting down the big and beautiful!!!
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 12:34 am
Not really seeing much of anything new here. I think I've posted the poem in the forum before but I see my chance! I am a piece of everything beautiful in the world that is why I am larger than you
I am everything in my past My childhood house rests on my shoulders The neighbors' yards, no boundaries I am a Chinese maple tree, with stairs in its boughs I am those first stars
I am the water fountain outside that I made a wish in thirty minutes ago I am the portrait artist who tries to catch twinkles inside your eyes
I am the wings of all the last breaths of flight I am the child skipping without reason I am a gentle newborn sigh
I am the Virtuous Lion outside The New York Library I am the angel who pushes shadows out of harm's way
I am the moon shimmering on the pond The stick the dog laps into its happy mouth I am the moment before two hands join
So as for your comments: "Look at the Fat Girl," "You have such a pretty face, if only you would lose weight", "Such a face, gone to waste"...
They reflect back to you... for I am a mirror among precious other things
Yes, I am the fat girl and... "I am".
I am
By Allie I've always gotten comments such as "You've got such a pretty face" which, really does translate into how can you be beautiful when you're so large? You just can't let it bother you too much. There's always going to be some amount of teasing, and I think people who go through any sort of teasing develop a slightly thicker skin as well as better understanding in the importance of being a decent human being to others. With that said, one thing strikes me as funny. I wear dresses and heels and makeup and am very feminine in my size. I'm pear shaped, bottom heavy, size 26 in USA women's clothing, 44 C and I think my hips measure right around 58 or 60 inches. I pack much junk in my trunk. I've always thought of myself as being at least somewhat attractive, even when in middle school and high school I was taunted for being the size I am. So when a guy turns around and nearly falls off his bike trying to check me out and says "hey pretty thing, whatcha doin out here all alone?" I have to chuckle a little bit. When I have the problem of having a fiance and a friend who is very interested in me, I have to giggle a little. I have to laugh a little harder when my size 2 friend says she doesn't understand how I get nice guys interested in me. Or how another large friend of ours gets boyfriends no problem. She's fixated on size = Attractiveness. It doesn't work that way, I don't care what the media or anyone else says. People will be attracted to different physical characteristics. However, things most people are attracted to are confidence and intelligence. A lot of turn offs for people are neediness and self loathing/self pity/low self esteem. It's very easy to see.
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 8:54 am
Well, actually I tend to disagree with you when it comes to the media right now. There are many more commercials now with larger women, like the Dove commercials(which I love their slogan: "Campaign for real beauty") and things like that. People are actually focusing more on natural beauty as opposed to airbrushed models. Although I know the modeling industry is still very strict with having very thin models, but whatever....it's expected.
Anyhoo, like I have said in other threads, who gives a rat's a** what these girls say? If you think about it, they must have such pain within themselves to reflect that behavior to others. I would just pity them for being so negative and dealing with such inner misery.
Don't let them get to you, luv. You're beautiful. <3
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 4:19 pm
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who didn't think any of this sounded new, and that society is still pretty much the same/at least trying to pretend to be more accepting.
It probably just feels like you're the only one to ever go through this stuff, and the first one to ever go through this stuff.... but I went through it and so did my older friends and family. I guess that makes it seem new, but it's really not.
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 4:57 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty I'm so glad I'm not the only one who didn't think any of this sounded new, and that society is still pretty much the same/at least trying to pretend to be more accepting.
It probably just feels like you're the only one to ever go through this stuff, and the first one to ever go through this stuff.... but I went through it and so did my older friends and family. I guess that makes it seem new, but it's really not.
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 7:11 pm
Oh no dear thats not thunder. Thats my fat a** sitting on your belimac face.
Yes I've had to say that before. But that was a whlie back. I mostly ignore people when they make fun of me because worrieing about it is below me. It makes them so angry when I just walk off.
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2007 8:12 pm
Masqurade Marie I don't think it's really new, what I think it that it seems to have gotten worse. It's not new people with extra weight have been teased or such. It's new how society goes around accepting fat people and then behind your back screaming how thin is in. I find that a lot newer, and I honestly can say, I prefer them saying I'm ugly to my face then acting like they're accepting and hypocritically saying thin is in.
But I dunno, I think a lot of these people that bother to claim it do honestly accept larger people.
I mean, I'm not gonna lie... if I see an overweight person out somewhere I do one of three things, think they're hot for their weight, ignore them because they're just average or think they're completely disgusting and look down on them for allowing themselves to be so fat. I'm working on it, but when people are obviously unhealthy and it's affecting their lifestyle I look down on it because I'd rather kill myself than let that happen. I feel guilty about it 'cause I'm fat too, even if I'm not that fat, and I'm trying to work on it... but I really do care about fat people and I still look down on some of them because it's my nature, and I'm working to fix it.
Nobody can be perfect 100% of the time. Yeah, I wouldn't say it to their face or even whisper it to my friends most likely, but that's because I know what it's like to be the one ridiculed for no real reason.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 4:50 am
You'd rather kill yourself than have an unhealthy lifestyle? o.0 That seems kinda warped.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 9:29 am
Fuzzy Necromancer You'd rather kill yourself than have an unhealthy lifestyle? o.0 That seems kinda warped.
I would hate to care so little about my well being, and have so little self-control that I managed to get to any weight that actually affected my health.
I would hate to be depressed due to being that unhealthy, and to feel physically ill all the time.
I had a friend who had to have me drive her to the doctor all the time last spring, she had so many health problems and it was obvious most of them were due to her weight (and she had lost a ton of weight by this point to where she was more healthy, she had to have gastric bypass, though). I had another friend who was overweight and she was unhealthy a lot of the time. They weren't happy at all...
Add that to other observations I've had about obease people (as opposed to just chubby or fat) and I would hate myself for allowing myself to get like that. It's more a "If I'm pathetic enough to let myself get to that point, I don't want to live because it's only going to get worse" The closest I can compare it to is cancer patients wanting to go ahead and die, instead of living out the disease to the point where they feel ill... although there's is less personal choice in their lifestyle, whereas if I got that big it would be entirely my fault.
I don't know if I can explain it right, and I'm not saying that I think everybody who is that big necessarly allowed themselves to get there... or that they should be exterminated and that they're bad people. I don't think that, I just know I would have to be living a miserable life on many levels to get to that point, let alone living that miserably... with the way I am, I couldn't take that, so I'd rather die... Being active and being healthy are major things in my life, I would die inside if those were taken away from me.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 1:47 pm
See the funny thing with me being teased was, it was horrible, up until high school.
Once I hit highschool, no one even mentioned it, actually that's not true. No one at school has mentioned it. That didn't stop my Grandmother.
Which plays into the myth that "Big cannot be beautiful". She told me "You would be so pretty if you weren't so big." Which makes me wonder, why?
I consider myself to be very pretty. So why is it that if I'm big, I can't be beautiful?
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 2:39 pm
Dread Pirate Ghosty: I just see death as the ultimate lack of health, the antithesis to healthy lifestyle. The whole point of "good health" is to extend and improve life. The only cases where death is a medical alternative is to end unedurable pain or total inability to do things that make life worth living.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 9:47 pm
Today we had a cultural assembly at our school, and two girls did a kind of middle-eastern kind of toned-down bellydancing (it had to be school appropriate, ja? So they had to wear dresses with no tummies exposed.), and one of the girls wasn't necessairly fat, just rather...plump? Either way, I think she's very pretty, and I was impressed that she chose to perform something seen as highly sexual in front of the entire school when most of the people at our school are pretty superficial and judgemental.
When I got back to classes, I hear a bunch of people insulting it because she was fat. (and she's not even fat, I swear! She's big, yes, but not fat.) I was really pissed. I thought she looked great and she did a wonderful job (plus it was sexy....I mean come on, it was belly dancing.).
Graw@stupid people. I hate it when people can't see and accept the beauty in someone even MILDLY different.
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