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 Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2006 12:46 pm
Well, I'm by far the biggest person in my circle of friends, but if there's one thing I know it's that it's never easy for a man or a woman to find a good partner. What society considers pretty people might have a larger 'base' to chose from, but that seems to have more to do with lust than a genuine appreciated of their character. (I have some very pretty friends, so I'm not talking of the top of my head here.)
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Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2006 1:57 pm
Northawke_rs Well, I'm by far the biggest person in my circle of friends, but if there's one thing I know it's that it's never easy for a man or a woman to find a good partner. What society considers pretty people might have a larger 'base' to chose from, but that seems to have more to do with lust than a genuine appreciated of their character. (I have some very pretty friends, so I'm not talking of the top of my head here.) There are people who can appreciate every aspect of the person...they especially appreciate someone's personality and focus on that rather than the 'imperfections' that person may have, based on what society deems as 'imperfections'. Those people rock my socks <3 My personality has always been bigger than life *no pun intended, hehe sweatdrop * and at first it was forced, cause I figured "If I can't be noticed because I'm attractive, then I'll find other ways of getting their attention!" So I made up for my weight by being loud and hyper. It was annoying >_<;; Thankfully I've wised up since then 3nodding Either people are going to accept you as is or they're not. And if they can't appreciate everything about you, they're not worth associating with.
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Posted: Thu Dec 07, 2006 5:52 pm
Jandar kissingfategoodbye I don't think weight has anything to do with it, your friend is quite wrong. Personality and confidence can go along way. The mind precieves things through suggestion so if you stand their proud saying "This is me. I am gorgeous" Others minds will precieve you as such. I'm a lot bigger than all my friends and obviously I have and/or fake confidence well(on those low days) because girls and boys alike tell me they love my confidence. I don't mean to brag but I really do have guys eating out of my palm....and I'm a size 22! I have all guys, even guys who normally date skinny chicks...it's all how you carry yourself. Don't feel bad about shrinking and ignore your friend. Remember you are a woman who is beautiful and strong. Even if you don't feel confident...fake it. Pull back your shoulders, sway those hips and lift up that head. Make people see the goddess you are. *steps off soapbox* whee :'D I can never figure out what guys see in those girls that always put on the "woe is me for i am weak and helpless act ;_;" I agree. I don't see why a guy wants a girl who can't at least somewhat stand up for herself, why feel sorry for yourself all the time? It just makes life more miserable. But I guess sorta like Ghosty said, sometimes guys are those dominant types who want someone easy to control, hell I'm not overly confident like I know I should be, but I'm not wallowing in my size either. Gotta make the best of what you have x3;;;.
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 6:23 pm
no, nahrully. I'm the biggest of my friends, at least bigger than the ones who have weight issues. And the ones who are bigger than I am have the most purdiest faces ya ever did see!
I gained weight since I was "the ugly fat girl" but it all went to flattering places like boobs, butt, and hips. Lips too, but I dunno. I've always been a big girl, since birth. (10 lbs, baby!!!) And I'm a little bit fat, little bit muscled, and seriously big-boned. I like to think of myself as an amazon; thick bodied, thick haired, and a thick enough head to try and tackle a wild elk!! scream xd twisted
Meh, kindasortanahrully. I was seriously depressed for about....3-4 years? I was pretty much suicidal from 10 years old to 8th grade because I was picked on so much and my so-called friends constantly abandoned me. D,: Teh meg was unloved. But I finally got some good solid friendships established with people and I love the dewdettes for it!
My Derek is awershume! heart 4laugh
He loves me, makes me feel special, beautiful, funny, talented, and just giggly all over! He also makes me feel more feminine, and that's kindofa stretch because I like rough-housing, my 3 pet snails, spiders(he's scared of them, oddly enough.), watching wrestling, and gynormous breeds of dogs like Great Pyrrenese(sp?) and Wiemerieners.
I don't want no little rat-dogs that my cats could beat up!! But he was hard to find, good part is that he's willing to get real serious real fast which WAS a problem until I found someone who could match my pace (and challenge it too!!)
I try to tell them that no matter what size they are, they're never gonna stop being pretty. :3 Cuz they is. 9-10 creepy old guys who hit on us can't be wrong!
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 7:13 pm
Ugh, Jeeze. All of my friends are skinny chicks and I love 'em to death. But they have the audacity to call themselves fat. I would do so much to have their bodies. They're gorgeous! But I guess it all boils down to the point where most people will always find SOMETHING to criticize in themselves. It's like ... you're 130 lbs! I was that in like... the friggin 5th grade? It just sucks to see them think that way when I am a total fatty. Esh.
I've been able to keep my weight stabelized for the last couple of months thank God. For a couple years I was yo-yo-ing with my weight. At one point I lost eleven pounds in a week. It was a nice diet but I just wasn't ready to go through with it! I felt pressured into it. By whom? mother dearest of course. She sees my fat-nes as a total let down and sometimes gross. This..is my mother. I can't really have a good amount of self esteem living with someone like that. When there's moments that I think I look pretty or whatever she automatically shoots me down and I feel guilty and foolish for ever thinking I could be pretty. It just sucks. xP
At this point in time I'm not dating but like a normal teen chick I'm crushing every other day. Hehe. But if the guy is willing to approach me and whatnot I sort of get into it because he obviously didn't think I was hideous so I'm willing to give him a chance. :]
Like I said before, my friends criticize themselves for being fat. It's just not.. agh nevamind.
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 11:48 pm
Lady_Valentine Ugh, Jeeze. All of my friends are skinny chicks and I love 'em to death. But they have the audacity to call themselves fat. I would do so much to have their bodies. I used to feel offended when they did that in my presence because I'd be like "Then what the hell do you think of me?!?" But then I realized they don't even think I'm fat, to them I'm the friggin gorgeous Laura who can always put a smile on someone's face. It was like my friend bought me a MEDIUM shirt from the junior's department...wth. But she thought I was that size so I thanked her and took it as a really great compliment. Oh and guys/girls don't like people who wallow in their weight. People want to be around happy people. I know I will leave my friend's dorm going "I love her, she's so happy" without even realizing that's what I'm saying.
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 11:52 pm
Jandar kissingfategoodbye I don't think weight has anything to do with it, your friend is quite wrong. Personality and confidence can go along way. The mind precieves things through suggestion so if you stand their proud saying "This is me. I am gorgeous" Others minds will precieve you as such. I'm a lot bigger than all my friends and obviously I have and/or fake confidence well(on those low days) because girls and boys alike tell me they love my confidence. I don't mean to brag but I really do have guys eating out of my palm....and I'm a size 22! I have all guys, even guys who normally date skinny chicks...it's all how you carry yourself. Don't feel bad about shrinking and ignore your friend. Remember you are a woman who is beautiful and strong. Even if you don't feel confident...fake it. Pull back your shoulders, sway those hips and lift up that head. Make people see the goddess you are. *steps off soapbox* whee :'D I can never figure out what guys see in those girls that always put on the "woe is me for i am weak and helpless act ;_;" Those are men you probably don't want in the first place. ninja
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Posted: Thu Dec 14, 2006 6:30 am
kissingfategoodbye Lady_Valentine Ugh, Jeeze. All of my friends are skinny chicks and I love 'em to death. But they have the audacity to call themselves fat. I would do so much to have their bodies. I used to feel offended when they did that in my presence because I'd be like "Then what the hell do you think of me?!?" But then I realized they don't even think I'm fat, to them I'm the friggin gorgeous Laura who can always put a smile on someone's face. It was like my friend bought me a MEDIUM shirt from the junior's department...wth. But she thought I was that size so I thanked her and took it as a really great compliment. Oh and guys/girls don't like people who wallow in their weight. People want to be around happy people. I know I will leave my friend's dorm going "I love her, she's so happy" without even realizing that's what I'm saying. lol Odd. I still have that 'Then what the hell do they think of me' mentality. It's like you weigh ... 13o lbs and I weigh 205 [range]... and you think you're fat. Now tell me what am I? It's just my insecurity/low self esteem talking. I think. lol They say I'm gorgeous and sexy and god knows what but sometimes I get into the kind of thinking that questions their reasons and all that junk. It's just not nice. But I can't help it! ! !
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Posted: Thu Dec 14, 2006 7:53 am
Lady_Valentine lol Odd. I still have that 'Then what the hell do they think of me' mentality. It's like you weigh ... 13o lbs and I weigh 205 [range]... and you think you're fat. Now tell me what am I? It's just my insecurity/low self esteem talking. I think. lol They say I'm gorgeous and sexy and god knows what but sometimes I get into the kind of thinking that questions their reasons and all that junk. It's just not nice. But I can't help it! ! !
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Posted: Thu Dec 14, 2006 9:54 am
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Lady_Valentine lol Odd. I still have that 'Then what the hell do they think of me' mentality. It's like you weigh ... 13o lbs and I weigh 205 [range]... and you think you're fat. Now tell me what am I? It's just my insecurity/low self esteem talking. I think. lol They say I'm gorgeous and sexy and god knows what but sometimes I get into the kind of thinking that questions their reasons and all that junk. It's just not nice. But I can't help it! ! ! I swear they have no idea how big you think you are. If you have confidence and a great personality it's like it's like your rolls aren't even there...hahaha. Trust me, just take it as a compliment that they say it in front of you and go on.
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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 12:04 am
Tessiebean Northawke_rs Well, I'm by far the biggest person in my circle of friends, but if there's one thing I know it's that it's never easy for a man or a woman to find a good partner. What society considers pretty people might have a larger 'base' to chose from, but that seems to have more to do with lust than a genuine appreciated of their character. (I have some very pretty friends, so I'm not talking of the top of my head here.) There are people who can appreciate every aspect of the person...they especially appreciate someone's personality and focus on that rather than the 'imperfections' that person may have, based on what society deems as 'imperfections'. Those people rock my socks <3 My personality has always been bigger than life *no pun intended, hehe sweatdrop * and at first it was forced, cause I figured "If I can't be noticed because I'm attractive, then I'll find other ways of getting their attention!" So I made up for my weight by being loud and hyper. It was annoying >_<;; Thankfully I've wised up since then 3nodding Either people are going to accept you as is or they're not. And if they can't appreciate everything about you, they're not worth associating with. I know what you mean there. I did that for years as well and then a lot of stuff happened and the fake personality just... imploded. And now I'm having a hard time being noticed by people outside my circle of friends. They all love me, but outside of their influence I seem to have gotten invisible or something. A problem quite new to me. You wouldn't think fat people could get invisible, would you? xd
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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 2:41 pm
Northawke_rs Tessiebean Northawke_rs Well, I'm by far the biggest person in my circle of friends, but if there's one thing I know it's that it's never easy for a man or a woman to find a good partner. What society considers pretty people might have a larger 'base' to chose from, but that seems to have more to do with lust than a genuine appreciated of their character. (I have some very pretty friends, so I'm not talking of the top of my head here.) There are people who can appreciate every aspect of the person...they especially appreciate someone's personality and focus on that rather than the 'imperfections' that person may have, based on what society deems as 'imperfections'. Those people rock my socks <3 My personality has always been bigger than life *no pun intended, hehe sweatdrop * and at first it was forced, cause I figured "If I can't be noticed because I'm attractive, then I'll find other ways of getting their attention!" So I made up for my weight by being loud and hyper. It was annoying >_<;; Thankfully I've wised up since then 3nodding Either people are going to accept you as is or they're not. And if they can't appreciate everything about you, they're not worth associating with. I know what you mean there. I did that for years as well and then a lot of stuff happened and the fake personality just... imploded. And now I'm having a hard time being noticed by people outside my circle of friends. They all love me, but outside of their influence I seem to have gotten invisible or something. A problem quite new to me. You wouldn't think fat people could get invisible, would you? xd I went through all those stages: loud, obnoxious then invisible for quite sometime unless I was with my friends, and now I'm noticed by all...and in a good way. The thing I learned is you really can't rely on other people to give you attention until you give attention to yourself. Start complimenting yourself, NEVER put yourself down...ever. And soon you will get the whole new confidence that will def not go unnoticed...and it does take time so don't get frustrated, just keep at it and you'll be fine.
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Posted: Sun Dec 17, 2006 12:08 am
Thanks for the encouraging words. 3nodding I sometimes find it hard, but I do try to stay positive about it. It's growth that's apparently necessary, but I don't have that many people I can get feedback off in this particular matter.
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Posted: Sun Dec 17, 2006 5:03 pm
Lets just I'm a mess..lol My friends think I have it harder then them. My one friend is bigger then me, but she gets boyfriends all the time. Yet, my parents tell me I should lose weight, cause then someone will like me. My friends get boyfriends all the time, but I'm so awkward I freeze around guys.
My self-esteem is pretty crappy. If you really know me, then you know. I don't think I'm cute, I think I'm really fat that everyone stares at me, and when people say, "Oh god..she's so ugly or gay." I think they are always talking about me. I've been having problems looking in the mirror and going, "I like me." even if I do lose weight. It's a problem I'm facing and sometimes it's getting better or worse. It's hard to bring your self-esteem back if you lose it. So for a tip..don't lose your self-esteem.
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Posted: Sun Dec 17, 2006 9:05 pm
I'm definitely one of the biggest of my friends, and I have very little self esteem. I think that it might be those two things in combination that keep me perpetually alone. I have friends that tell me I'm not fat... even though it is very obvious that I am.
I know how you feel, Shampoo, about the self esteem thing. I'm afraid of what people will think about me. It's dificult. I'm trying to be more comfortable with myself, but I think it would be easier if I were skinnier. Oh well. Que será, será, right? (I have a spanish exam tomorrow. Hee. whee )
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