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 Posted: Sun Nov 19, 2006 2:28 pm
I know what you are going through. No. That isn't just something to try and make you feel better. It is the truth.
My mom was dating this really evil guy named Brian. He was seriously evil. He did not harm me or my sister, or abuse us in any way, but his words were like poison even if he tried to be nice. It may sound to you like me and my sister just didn't want to like him; that was part of it; but after a while I tried my hardest to be on his good side and even then he ended up blowing up. He had a horrible temper, complained about everything imaginable while in return blamed me for complaining about everything imagineable. He loved to attack me with his words by trying to hint at it when he was talking to my mom and I was in the same room or near the room so I would hear him. He was just a jerk; I ran away even...and I remember crying almost every night until my mom was so tired of it she stopped caring to comfort me.
I was not suicidal of course, because I had God. And God truly did help me through all of it. One night I broke down and I prayed heavily to God to get me out of the situation. And look at me now. Brian is gone.
But I did get something out of it. For one, it made me a stronger person now because I know how to handle such situations. And for two it helps me to show you and myself the miracles that God hands to us. Sometimes his miracles are not handed to us on a silver platter, mind you, but rather he places it atop a mountain where we must retrieve it.
Just, keep pushing through, always try to be as pleasant to him as possible, and pray to the Lord; tell him how you are feeling. He listens. Always remember that the Lord is your True Father. This world is not your home.
In Christ,
stone angel4
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:03 am
*nods at stoneangel*
Prayer does wonders does it not? That is a bit scary when people are like that but I am glad to hear God helped you out and made you stronger. I have to say the same...I believe I am stronger now too because of the things I had to endure in my past.
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Posted: Tue Nov 21, 2006 3:49 pm
hi everyone! how r u? ive done a lot of prayer and taken your guy's advice, and you were right! were getting along a lot better, and hes gonna adopt me! WOOT!
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Posted: Thu Nov 23, 2006 2:24 am
glad to hear that!*breaks out some champaign* mrgreen
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Posted: Sat Dec 02, 2006 2:11 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 09, 2006 4:03 pm
x_Hikari_x In all honestly, love him. It's probably not what you wanted to hear, lol, but it is what needs to be done. It's stated all over in the Bible. I understand that it is hard, and I have to say that I don't really know what it's like to have a step-parent. But I really think that praying and asking God to just help you in loving him would really work. And not like 'okay, I prayed once and I don't feel different!' Love is a choice, and prayer isn't a band-aid that you can slap onto just anything. It's a tool to help...I use it all the time. I pray about everything...just like 'God, the situation I'm in sucks right now (be it mid terms or I'm having a bad day or something bigger) and I'm going to do something stupid if you don't help me." Yeah, that's about the extent of my on-going prayers...
I hope that says at least something...of course, I'm not saying that all will be well as soon as you start to do this (if you so choose to), it will take time. Things always do. I agree totally....
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 9:01 am
phantom912 ok... this is for those of you out there who have a step parent and you absolutely hate them. just last night i was joking around and accidentally wised off to my stepdad. then he whacked me over the head with his checkbook(long story, PLEASE dont ask) and then he said something like " i can do that because im your father. NO HE ISNT!!! i almost yelled at him all the way across the table NO UR NOT MY FATHER YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TOUCH ME SO SHUT UP! *sigh* i feel better now that i got that out... im 15 and i have to live with this guy for 3 MORE YEARS! any advice on how to handle it? im sorry but the answer can not be found in the bible why do you hate him? i know you know this in your heart of hearts just take a moment and listen to it it may be confusing but it doesn't lie and you can not decive it what could make you feel the way you do understanding why and what makes you so will be the key to your salvation
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 9:05 am
I hate my Step-Dad because he used to hurt me and my biological mother knew about it, and she knows, yet she still is married to him and she is still with him... I hate them both.
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 12:12 pm
Saint Angel 07 I hate my Step-Dad because he used to hurt me and my biological mother knew about it, and she knows, yet she still is married to him and she is still with him... I hate them both. not much else you can do but detach yourself from the things that don't serve you how you would like or rather the results of such learn to let go of hate for it will bind you to this earth or an eternity be carfull of your thoughts my friend you destiny is tied to them
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 12:49 pm
lordstar Saint Angel 07 I hate my Step-Dad because he used to hurt me and my biological mother knew about it, and she knows, yet she still is married to him and she is still with him... I hate them both. not much else you can do but detach yourself from the things that don't serve you how you would like or rather the results of such learn to let go of hate for it will bind you to this earth or an eternity be carfull of your thoughts my friend you destiny is tied to them Dont take away my hate, It is all I have left. Destiny is in the hands of God When the time comes I might be apathetic towards them
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Posted: Thu Dec 14, 2006 8:52 am
Saint Angel 07 Dont take away my hate, It is all I have left. Destiny is in the hands of God When the time comes I might be apathetic towards them You've got God left. God is more to you than hatred. Not to mention, eventually God will take it from you. Hatred poisons your soul, and God knows better than to leave it hanging around.
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Posted: Fri Dec 22, 2006 1:31 pm
phantom912 hi everyone! how r u? ive done a lot of prayer and taken your guy's advice, and you were right! were getting along a lot better, and hes gonna adopt me! WOOT! I am so happy for u!! crying That really made my day!
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Posted: Fri Dec 22, 2006 7:24 pm
Saint Angel 07 lordstar Saint Angel 07 I hate my Step-Dad because he used to hurt me and my biological mother knew about it, and she knows, yet she still is married to him and she is still with him... I hate them both. not much else you can do but detach yourself from the things that don't serve you how you would like or rather the results of such learn to let go of hate for it will bind you to this earth or an eternity be carfull of your thoughts my friend you destiny is tied to them Dont take away my hate, It is all I have left. Destiny is in the hands of God When the time comes I might be apathetic towards them watch your thoughts because they become words watch your words because they become actions watch your actions because they become habits watch your habits because they become your destiny i think i missed a few but you get the point take care my friend
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Posted: Fri Dec 22, 2006 10:31 pm
phantom912 hi everyone! how r u? ive done a lot of prayer and taken your guy's advice, and you were right! were getting along a lot better, and hes gonna adopt me! WOOT! if you ever have another problem with him in the future, you'd be suprised what a "calm" heart to heart chat can do. tell him you're feelings and if he's willing to listen, then he might be a good dad yet. also keep in mind that "words of anger build up strife" or something to that affect. a very good verse in the bible and its SO true. even recently ive had a couple of situations i KNEW beforehand that i should take it calmly first and discreetly, but i went upon impusle, got mad for probably no reason, and the entire situation exploded and almost couldn't be fixed. it wasnt pretty. also keep in mind, if you get in another heated argument with your step dad, you're two males, and i don't know about two females, but when guys get angry at each other i know it can get ugly. i dont know if he'll actually ever get physical with you, but whne someones mad they're likely to do anything if they're mad enough. so try to remember to keep cool....calm.....if either is raising your voice you'd be suprised how the other person will calm down a bit in vocal tone if the other lowers their voice. (ive actually done this with customers and she actively lowered her voice). any further advice i say, if he pulls the whole "im you're father blah blah" bit, he DOESNT have a right. it doesnt matter if hes married to your mom, i trully dont believe he has a right to do such and such just because of some marriage agreement. maybe you're real father. but thats personal opinion to me.
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Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 5:36 pm
I believe that you can hate what a person does and how they are, but I don't believe in hating people heart
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