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Oh hon i have the same problem, your going to end up settling down with one of the sexes, but in the meet time, your open to both, the gender of your signifigant other will not matter to you, its the love you have thats important. That is what being bi (or for me Pan) sexual to me is all about. Put that in her pipe in tell her to smoke it. ^^

~ HxC

Unfortunately, there are many people who believe that a) people who identify themselves as bisexual are merely too cowardly to admit that they're gay or lesbian, b) it's merely a transition stage between considering oneself straight, and considering oneself gay, c) it's just an experimental stage which many people go through, d) professing to be bisexual is just a way to justify sluttish behaviour, and all manner of other, highly untrue statements. What is even more unfortunate is that this belief is held not only by straight people, but by gays and lesbians as well.

Not to say that none of these statements are true, just that they do not apply to people who are in truth bisexually oriented. Many of my friends have gone through brief "test" stints where they "tried out" bisexuality, only to find that they were actually straight. I have a good friend who thought he was bi for quite a while, before coming out as actually being gay.

There also are people who are "pansexual" or "omnisexual", an orientation often mistaken for bisexuality. Pansexuals are attracted to anybody, including those who do not fit into the normal male/female gender spectrum, such as transexuals, hermaphrodites, and bigendered people. Pansexuals are often said to disregard the labels of gender, as they see them as meaningless.

I myself am bisexual, and I've identified myself as such for almost three years now. There is no question in my mind that I am definitely attracted to both men and women, sexually as well as emotionally. Anyone who says that bisexuality does not exist is terribly uninformed.

you mom said the same thing my dad said right before be called me a dissapointment for being the way i was. I acctually want to be asked questions, its making me more ticked off that we just left it at that and he doesnt really try to understand me.

Exactly!! I actually had this conversation with my father recently, when I came out to him as being bi. I was fairly sure he already knew, but I felt like I needed to get it out there. Anywho- he said something about how if I started going out with a guy, that that would make me straight, or how going out with a girl would make me a lesbian, and I had to re-route him dramatically. I mean, I'm bi- I'm attracted to birds and blokes, and just because I may date a member of one sex doesn't mean I'm only attracted to that sex. It's the same way a straight person can go out with someone and still be heterosexual, not just "boyfriend-sexual."

There are some bizarre ideas about bisexual people floating around out there, but that one- the switching orientations- is one of the weirder one's I've heard.

Eh... my dad did that to me.
"Oh, honey. You're not bi. It's just a stage."
At least he still loves meh.

i fell in love with a girl, and we were together for awhile, then we fell apart. and i thought i would die. but i woke up every morning to make it through another day. seriously suicidal over this, i was.
but i lived.
then mom went through my s**t, and pulled out an envelope that was hidden in my room full of over 100 hundreds between or from me and her.
i got GROUNDED the whole summer break for it, and im still forbidden to talk to her (******** that, i call her on the phone all the time), and had all my music taken away, since that was somehow "inspiring" it.
then i got in more trouble when i said my parents were homophobic.
and got put in therapy and counseling to "talk me out of it".
which was a waste of time.
so now i just lie about being bi and hope they dont find out.
i have to be AFRAID of who i am for their sake.
and im not ok with that.
but its something i have to do.

That sucks. Of course there's such thing as being bi!

It's probably the most misunderstood sexuality there is. Some people think all bi people are sluts, and some think bisexuality doesn't exist. It's wierd.