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*hugs* Jenni I know exactly what you are going through, Im having the same problems myself. I hope things start looking up for you, and hopefully you will be able to carry one to full term soon. My thoughts are with you heart heart heart heart

I'm really sorry to hear your news, but I'm glad that you're alright. Hang in there.

Update: I started bleeding more heavily again today and called in because I was afraid I would need a D&C. The doctor told me that the emergency room doctor had told her that he didn't think I had actually miscarried yet. I wish he would have told me that! He was definitely one of those doctors who seems to think patients don't need to make decisions about their care because doctors know what's best for them and they don't know what's best for them. I told him that I didn't want a D&C unless there was indication that I wasn't miscarrying by myself, and he was about to give me pain medication (when my pain level was stated at only 1 out of 10!).

Anyway, I don't know if this is the real miscarriage coming, but I suspect that I already miscarried and this means I need a D&C. I really hope I don't end up going to the emergency room and having the same doctor who will roll his eyes and say, "you should have gotten a D&C when you were here before!"

Okay, I'm just venting. I thought about talking to the hospital about him, but then I thought, what if he sees me again and knows and then he's pissed at me and the only one who has the authority to take care of my health?

I agree, My dad was a doctor and even he said that a second opinion was very important.

thanks you guys. turns out I still had quite a pile of blood clots that wouldn't come out. When they put saline in my uterus to get a better look at it under ultrasound (to make sure it wasn't a polyp) I think that's what juggled things loose because I think it all came out of me there in the office. I appreciate that my OB/GYN gives me the choice of less or more intervention, and respects my choice after she gives the information. I could take methergine, which would cause my uterus to contract more and help push all the blood out and seal up any bleeding parts, or I could get a D&C. She explained that some people would rather go ahead and have a D&C rather than take the chance the medicine wouldn't be enough and then have to have a D&C anyway. I chose the medicine. I'll be back later this week to make sure I'm all done.

It's interesting when you come to giving birth and stuff. Some women are hard core that they want to do everything as naturally as possible as long as there isn't some rare huge emergency (I'm tending toward that end of the spectrum, though not all the way). On the other hand, there are so many women who just say, "I want the baby to come now, give me drugs, make it happen, give me an epidural, I don't want to feel the pain, or feel anything!"

My OB/GYN herself is one of those, but it's great that she totally respects our decisions for those of us who feel we want things more natural. She's had 3 kids now. Each one with an epidural started earlier and kept going later than most doctors would allow (maybe she sees so much labor pain in her job that she couldn't stand it herself!!! LOL. I remember feeling the same way when I heard Fawn screaming when Jade was born). This last one she told me "I'm having this baby on June 16th, because I can get a sub OB to cover for me right then. I still haven't decided whether it will be ceasarean or vaginal, I figure, one way you have the worst pain before delivery, the other way it's after..."

I totally respect women who feel that way, but I can't imagine it!

Sitting up is more like it. My bed was raised enough so I was kind of.. reclined sitting. But Jenni DID want to have a water birth when she had Ella, and that's the reason we all drove out to Taos (3 hours away) because the hospital here was so finicky about stuff like that. She used the hot tub during labor, but found it slowed the contractions too much, so she didn't wind up having a water birth.

well..i am one that cannot tolerate pain at all...and fear of a needle going in my back made me not want an epideral with jake but when i got to the hospital they gave me something..cause i couldnt stand the pain....jake came so fast too...in labor for 7 hours and 3 pushes he was out...

now with the twins..i had no choice what-so-ever gonk ...lil ms stephanie was sitting upright in my pelvis and stephen was laid sideways above her...and they just were not going to turn....so i had no choice but to get c section....and i still shudder at that epideral they put in my back...in fact i cant stand to have anyone touch my back where it was...

but i wouldnt go for a natural if i could help it....the pain...and that might be why they want women to lay down...cause sometimes the pain is so much they pass out....or in the case of when my mom had my sister..she had been in labor so long..and pushed so hard...that she couldnt push anymore so the nurse had to get on top of her and push the baby out gonk

yes they do fawN and i have BIG issues with that!

The celebrity mothers who don't want to go through the pain of childbirth, or end up a little loose down there either, so they book themselves in for a C-Section in some fancy private hospital mad
Victoria Beckham is very guilty of doing this, 3 children and not one naturally, i think she's also guilty of having the 'Muumy Tuck' as they call it, have the c-section then whip them in for a quick spot of Lipo, tummy tuck and boob lift/implants. then they re-appear in a couple of weeks looking even thinner than before they were pregnant talk2hand