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I think it depends on each situation for I think its more the way its done. Its more to control urges and desires, to limit them as much as possible.....now clearly sexual behavior tends to be done out of disire/urges. Anything that isn't done out of urges/disires I would think would be ok....but i don't know. I find it hard not to sexually disire something.

This is very odd. In his book, Kindness, Clarity, and Insight, the Dali Lama said that homosexuals are simply the reunion of feminine and masculine energies or "chi". Where did you get your information from? I'd be curious as to perusing it for myself.

I am very curious as to where you heard homosexual acts were frowned upon. In all the years I've been practicing Buddhism, I've talked to several Ajans and have gotten the same answer: Gays and Lesbians are equal lengths of the Wheel, therefor are teachers by nature and compassionate beings.

And as for the Dali Lama is concerned, in his book I just recently read, he called the gay community a "community that fosters tolerance and acceptance, peace and compassion...loving people who are a blessing to know."

I would be greatly honored if you would show me where you got this information from. I'd be interested in knowing what it says exactly.