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As a female instructor (in Tae Kwon Do) this issue hits hard and even more so when it is discovered that I'm only 19. My children classes are packed but my adult classes consist of higher ranks that have sparred me without holding back and women. The older male members have learned that they better not hold back and even tease me by saying "Yes sir" instead of "Yes ma'am" because I'm one of the only a few female members like this.
However, it is extremely difficult to get new male members in class because men just don't want to learn from a tiny teenage girl for one reason or another.
Personally guys the men that is do teach just had to be beaten into that fact that in sparring, grappling, joint locks, whatever. What you need to do is go out and grapple a girl that if you loose focus and slip up could easily beat you.
Course, I'm not a guy but its a suggestion.

Mostly, the guys that I fight with respect me for wanting to fight full force. I mean, what's the use if you learn it at half force? You won't be able to use full force in real life if needed. Meh...

This week we learnt a new technique my sparring partner and I refer to as the "hugging technique" xd (We have our own names to remember the techniques...)

Anyway, it begins with someone holding you, arms around you on the front, and then the victim hitting the person in the jewels (if they have some). Followed by some more painful stuff whee It was fun sweatdrop

to be honest, and i hope most of u think like me (if not than i take it back), overall men are stronger than women, and if u spar with a woman u must usually hold back. it is simply common sense. on the other hand if the girl is 6'3 and weighs 200 pounds, im sure ull be ok going full power.

You may not, but I will. If thats how you feel about women in the ring, your a dumbass, a pure and simple dumbass. now, don't get me wrong guys are usually built stronger, but that doesn't mean that the female your sparring against can't kick your a**, I've gone against alot of girls and when were doing conditioning drills they can take alot from me, Meowmeows knows roughly how hard I can kick(and I mean that from drills, not the concusion I gave you BY ACCIDENT) and has gone on to kicking someone else's a** minutes later in the ring without a slightest bit of painon her face. now she may be a good actress(probably not) but she's also a...how do I put this, Smaller person, not a midget, just not your definition of a large women(6'3 200lbs) I think she's about 5'6 and weight I'm not sure, though she's pretty light from what I remember, now I was probably about 5'11 to 6' at the time of these and probably about 150-170lbs(not sure, weight varies on the day...lol, some days I eat alot, some days I don't but I always have energy) and most of my weight is leg muscle as I found out in fitness class up in the weight room... and shes defiantly not the only one who can take kicks like that their, theres others, just not sure if they are on gaia or not.

Regardless of whatever stereotype you believe, if you're holding back when training with a woman, all you're doing is depriving her. She's going to get into a match where the guy ISN'T holding back and get her butt kicked because you spent all your time training going half-a**. Do us a favor and TRY to go full power regardless of size. A lot of girls don't look as strong as they are.

Correct... case in point, you and Chris. whee

wow wow relax eveyone i didnt know this would start such an argument. first of all i would like to apologize if i hurt anyone's feelings, everyone should enjoy this forum smile . second of all i would just like to point out that perhaps we are talking about different areas of martial arts. the only thing i have ever done was boxing, so from my experience if your a guy you should not swing as hard as you can at a girl during sparring. once again i am not saying this about all girls, since i have seen girls in my boxing gym who can take down walls with a punch, but when i saw a sparring match between this guy and girl in my gym, and how his punch connected in her face, causing her to bleed for about 10 minutes from her nose and mouth, and then watching her run away crying, and then never seeing her again in that gym, u gotta understand where im coming from. and that woman was insanely strong too. also, i guess i dont really have much to say since i have never sparred with a girl before. just a reminder i was talking about BOXING, so i apologize for the misunderstanding. now as for blondiebabe135 asking me not to hold back once, i assume u did not know i was talking about boxing, if not than i apologize.

i hope this clears everything up. again i did not mean to offend anyone. sweatdrop