I think that one in a lolita outfit is expected to act as those did in the Victorian times. In the movie Kamikaze Girls, that is what the main character kept refering to it as her favorite time period[I think]. In class, she really didn't have any friends because she acted way different. She was quiet, prim, proper, and polite. She acted elegant although she thought she was above everyone else. Now except for the last part, I think that's how most lolitas should act.