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 Posted: Tue Jul 05, 2016 6:46 am
My current relationship started off as just friends then slowly moved into FWB territory. At some point he asked if it was just about sex for me, then he started catching feelings and calling me 'his girl' but we never had that talk because he wasn't going to push it and I wasn't even sure at that point I wanted anything more than sex, so it took me awhile to sort out my feelings before I told him I would be his gf if that's what he wanted. We've been together for three months so far and it's been a bumpy but fun ride.
FWB is only really a good idea if your time spent not having sex is as enjoyable for both of you as the times you do have sex, otherwise it's going to end up one sided. I wouldn't say it's impossible to have a FWB without catching feelings, I've managed it before, but it's hard to be invested in the friendship and not feel something for them at the same time unless you're able to mentally separate sex from love.
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Posted: Tue Jul 05, 2016 7:40 am
Forelourne johnlennonandcupcakes It may be a large group of them, but I've definitely had guy friends that weren't solely motivated in that way. My last relationship (long term, 4+ years) had a guy who was romantically involved, but didn't want sex unless it was done a certain way. Sooo almost the exact opposite, me wanting sex and him not
rofl
I had a six month relationship with a guy who realized he was asexual. We're still best friends. Pretty opposite, yeah.
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Posted: Tue Jul 05, 2016 8:29 am
lol sadly i haven't had a relationship in a bit so i would be willing to take what i can get ninja
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Posted: Tue Jul 05, 2016 8:33 am
johnlennonandcupcakes Green_crayon42 I've recently had a friendship like this. The instant I said no more sex, he quit. I'm thinking the ONLY motivation for a guy IS sex. Not the friendship. If he's not getting sex, he won't even try. He says he understood that I was not his girlfriend and he was not my type, but the second I drew the line at sex, he got very upset and just quit. I really don't know my position on "can a woman and man be friends?". Sex just is a primary motivation, it seems. I don't think it's fair to group all men into a category of only caring about sex. It may be a large group of them, but I've definitely had guy friends that weren't solely motivated in that way. that is kinda exactly my problem .. i am no one's type lmao .. (except for when i donate blood xd ) and i have a million friends - no fwb or no relationships .. so guys CAN just be friends
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2016 2:41 pm
I feel the opposite way. At this point in my life, friends w/ benefits is the only thing for me.
I'm kind of a space-case, can barely commit to my coffee order at Starbucks let alone another human, and I have the tendency to flutter in and out of people's lives (aside from close friends/family)
So really, just seeing someone once in a while, hanging out and hooking up, that's enough for things to feel consistent for me. And I don't care what either of us do on the side (neither of us are the jealous type, i think).
It's worked out pretty nicely so far for me, but I totally get that it's not for everyone! whee
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Posted: Sat Aug 20, 2016 11:11 pm
Everytime I've tried it I ended up dating or fall in love with them sweatdrop lol
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