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@Sonic

Well personally I don't know your ex so I feel like I can't really comment on whether or not she was an attention whore, yknow?
But I wouldn't associate sexuality or gender identification with someone who is generally an awful person...and trust me, I know what it's like to hate an ex. gonk

My best friend is transgendered and we talk a lot about this stuff. I go to a school that is a huge hub for the LGTBQ community, and people come internationally to attend my school for that reason...so it's in front of me a lot and has really helped me understand the scope of everyone that falls into different lines.
At this point the lines have blurred and no longer matter to me, if that makes sense.

Earlier this semester, someone I know began to start sexually assaulting one of my close friends. The assaulter was born male but identifies as gender neutral, my friend is male. An issue I've found with some people who are gender neutral is that they'll try to live in "the best of both worlds" so to say, rather than the unique world that they should occupy on their own. So in this instance, they would use male-assault related excuses as to why it wasn't assault.
"He can defend himself if he doesn't want it"
"Why doesn't he say no?"
"He's fine"
"I'm not hurting him"

Seriously being an awful human being. They would also use the female related reasons as to why this was not assault, but I don't want to preach too much.

Essentially this person is/was ******** awful. I think they're better now than they used to be, and hopefully happier. But this experience doesn't hinder or prevent me from befriending other gender-neutral individuals or spending time with them, yknow?
It just happened to be that this one person was the worst.


Alternatively, I like to think that I'm a pretty decent person. It would really hurt me if I found out that someone decided to judge me because they had met some other bisexual who was awful and so they assumed I, too, would be awful.

Finally, Insy has no reason to be posting her sexuality everyday in every thread waiting to catch your eye. It's really no one's business. A lot of people work out a lot of things with themselves before they come to any conclusions with themselves...some people never feel comfortable telling others, other people feel more ready. Personally, I feel as though unless I'm planning to immediately sleep with someone I have no business knowing their sexuality unless they share it with me.

I get where you're coming from though. I can't believe I wrote this much...I really didn't mean to preach lol, no one has time for that anymore. But I love you and I love Insy so i would hate for a misunderstanding to make things uncomfortable while everyone settles back into minor guild life, yknow?

Thanks for responding though. I really find these perspectives interesting.