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 Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 1:51 pm
Legendary_ONE Anyways, since that was your case, I congratulate you for being the lucky b*****d you are. lol -cough- Yes, ahem. 3nodding That's me. xd
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:00 pm
*sigh*
Anyway, to be honest with you guys... I may be shy about asking guys out (THE very first move), but I'm not shy at all around guys, lol... If they're my friends. And since I've already overcome being shy about trying to make friends, it makes it all the easier. I've always hung out with guys more than girls... Lol. I'm weird. I also prefer guys as friends... But I go an all girls' school. sad
IF, and I say, if, I went out with the guy, and I was really... well, we had a good relationship, I would definitely make "moves", lol, I would, but... yeah. I want to be in that position, and I want that chance, but I'm not allowed, so I'll live with it. I'm not the kind of girl who'll hold back if given the relationship. xd But I am no slut and I am not easy at all. blaugh
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 3:46 pm
-How do you start conversations with people you don't know?
I usually just say and kind of a "How are you?" or "What's up?" kind of question. Just something casual or make a comment about something around us like the weather or buildings, etc. Kinda mundane, but it works. :3
-Where do you go on dates? (Mention more places not just one)
I would go to either the movies or somewhere out to eat. It's very casual and natural, plus there's no pressure. It's a very commonplace setting.
-What do you talk about on dates?
I would try to get to know the person I'm going out with. You know, maybe ask questions about school if that's where we met or what music they're into or foods... things like that. Just easy questions to break the ice.
-When do you kiss the one you date? (which date, what situation)
Um, to be honest, I think I would just let it happen if I felt it was time to...
-Girls usually wait for guys to make the first step. Do you make the first step? If yes, how? If not, what do you expect from a guy to do, and when do you expect first kiss.
I've made the first move before, but I guess it depends on the people involved, whoever is more shy or more open, you know?
-What kind of kiss?
For the first kiss, I would say just a simple on the lips, no tongue or anything, kind of kiss. Just sweet and to the point.
-Gender based differences.
-The stereotype of: Girls don't have to do anything, just decide
Guys have to do all the dating ''work'' (calling to dates, taking first step)
I kinda am for this and not for this. I think girls shouldn't be afraid to go up to a guy and ask them out, but then again, I think it's a very classic and romantic thing for a guy to ask first.
And there's my two cents. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 5:50 pm
right... I'm not very good with meeting people and i don't know anything about dating and i don't exactly know why people freak out over it.
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 5:27 am
The best thing to overcome shyness is to stand up in front of the public.
e.g. Dance or sing in a show, or even in the schools theatre with many guests, speeches in front of hundreds etc.
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 9:11 am
ugh I becoem shy and my voice shakes when I speak in frotn of the whoel class its so embarassing
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 9:13 am
b&b @ you know your not weird because I prefer guyes as my friends too even though most of my guy friends end up as my boyfriends
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 8:07 pm
BlacksandBlues Raioga-san, you idiot, I'm not allowed to date. Of course I'm allowed to make the first move. rolleyes Goodness sakes... My parents' number one ruke: no boyfriends (or girlfriends, LOL!) Which is why I NEVER make a move. WHY? Because I'm not allowed. Do you get it now? stare And there's nothing wrong with being shy. If you didn't have shy people in this world, there wouldn't be any confident people, like you. So there you go. And yesh, my shyness with making conversations, making friends, has been conquered last year. But I can't move that quickly. I can't run beforee I crawl. I can't, anyway. I'll take it a step at a time. How can you expect me to overcome shyness with asking guys out if I've never, or am not allowed to ever do it [before]?! And we girls think the same way as you. We don't wanna be the ones being rejected either, lol. I've read a Chinese and English speech (both langs) in front of the whole China Town, presented flowers to the Queen in person, and done a lot of other needing-courage things. I still don't have it... yet. It can't be overcome that easily. You make it seem so simple. Everyone's different with their own pace. I think I'll stay with mine, thanks very much. wink Was it the Queen Queen or a Beauty Queen Queen?
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 1:10 pm
yalie5 BlacksandBlues Raioga-san, you idiot, I'm not allowed to date. Of course I'm allowed to make the first move. rolleyes Goodness sakes... My parents' number one ruke: no boyfriends (or girlfriends, LOL!) Which is why I NEVER make a move. WHY? Because I'm not allowed. Do you get it now? stare And there's nothing wrong with being shy. If you didn't have shy people in this world, there wouldn't be any confident people, like you. So there you go. And yesh, my shyness with making conversations, making friends, has been conquered last year. But I can't move that quickly. I can't run beforee I crawl. I can't, anyway. I'll take it a step at a time. How can you expect me to overcome shyness with asking guys out if I've never, or am not allowed to ever do it [before]?! And we girls think the same way as you. We don't wanna be the ones being rejected either, lol. I've read a Chinese and English speech (both langs) in front of the whole China Town, presented flowers to the Queen in person, and done a lot of other needing-courage things. I still don't have it... yet. It can't be overcome that easily. You make it seem so simple. Everyone's different with their own pace. I think I'll stay with mine, thanks very much. wink Was it the Queen Queen or a Beauty Queen Queen?
You spoke in front of many people, you were not shy, others wouldn't dare to do that. You can't be considered shy, if you achieve what you want!
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 6:37 am
hmm this is an interesting topic lol
i never see girls out out guys at my school were to unlucky always us 1st
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 11:29 am
Rauall hmm this is an interesting topic lol i never see girls out out guys at my school were to unlucky always us 1st yeah, but I hope it will become equal one day.
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 2:32 pm
Raioga yalie5 BlacksandBlues Raioga-san, you idiot, I'm not allowed to date. Of course I'm allowed to make the first move. rolleyes Goodness sakes... My parents' number one ruke: no boyfriends (or girlfriends, LOL!) Which is why I NEVER make a move. WHY? Because I'm not allowed. Do you get it now? stare And there's nothing wrong with being shy. If you didn't have shy people in this world, there wouldn't be any confident people, like you. So there you go. And yesh, my shyness with making conversations, making friends, has been conquered last year. But I can't move that quickly. I can't run beforee I crawl. I can't, anyway. I'll take it a step at a time. How can you expect me to overcome shyness with asking guys out if I've never, or am not allowed to ever do it [before]?! And we girls think the same way as you. We don't wanna be the ones being rejected either, lol. I've read a Chinese and English speech (both langs) in front of the whole China Town, presented flowers to the Queen in person, and done a lot of other needing-courage things. I still don't have it... yet. It can't be overcome that easily. You make it seem so simple. Everyone's different with their own pace. I think I'll stay with mine, thanks very much. wink Was it the Queen Queen or a Beauty Queen Queen?
You spoke in front of many people, you were not shy, others wouldn't dare to do that. You can't be considered shy, if you achieve what you want!
But it's the internet and people can act differantly compared to their internet persona. 3nodding It's easier to express your thoughts to strangers sometimes just because you most of the time they won't be able to spread it to others you know in real life and embrass you.
Speaking in front of many people doesn't really help, espeacially if they are people you highly respect or if the audience doesn't take you seriously (By that providing sources of increase insecurity). Some people would be afraid of dissapointing or making a fool out of themselves. Being more secure and having a higher self-esteem should be otainned before facing a huge crowd. Not as easy as it sounds..
I think shyness doesn't need to be concured, why conform to everyone's ideal and be outgoing and attract so much attention to yourself? confused Shy people have their own ways of suceeding in life. 3nodding It's better for them to be liked for who they are rather than have them change.
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Darkaznstargoddess Captain
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 2:34 pm
Darkaznstargoddess Raioga yalie5 BlacksandBlues Raioga-san, you idiot, I'm not allowed to date. Of course I'm allowed to make the first move. rolleyes Goodness sakes... My parents' number one ruke: no boyfriends (or girlfriends, LOL!) Which is why I NEVER make a move. WHY? Because I'm not allowed. Do you get it now? stare And there's nothing wrong with being shy. If you didn't have shy people in this world, there wouldn't be any confident people, like you. So there you go. And yesh, my shyness with making conversations, making friends, has been conquered last year. But I can't move that quickly. I can't run beforee I crawl. I can't, anyway. I'll take it a step at a time. How can you expect me to overcome shyness with asking guys out if I've never, or am not allowed to ever do it [before]?! And we girls think the same way as you. We don't wanna be the ones being rejected either, lol. I've read a Chinese and English speech (both langs) in front of the whole China Town, presented flowers to the Queen in person, and done a lot of other needing-courage things. I still don't have it... yet. It can't be overcome that easily. You make it seem so simple. Everyone's different with their own pace. I think I'll stay with mine, thanks very much. wink Was it the Queen Queen or a Beauty Queen Queen?
You spoke in front of many people, you were not shy, others wouldn't dare to do that. You can't be considered shy, if you achieve what you want!
But it's the internet and people can act differantly compared to their internet persona. 3nodding It's easier to express your thoughts to strangers sometimes just because you most of the time they won't be able to spread it to others you know in real life and embrass you.
Speaking in front of many people doesn't really help, espeacially if they are people you highly respect or if the audience doesn't take you seriously (By that providing sources of increase insecurity). Some people would be afraid of dissapointing or making a fool out of themselves. Being more secure and having a higher self-esteem should be otainned before facing a huge crowd. Not as easy as it sounds..
I think shyness doesn't need to be concured, why conform to everyone's ideal and be outgoing and attract so much attention to yourself? confused Shy people have their own ways of suceeding in life. 3nodding It's better for them to be liked for who they are rather than have them change.
There are methods to overcome shiness.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 4:35 pm
In reply to your questions, one basic answer will be enough - for me, I don't speak a lot, and I'm, to an extent, sexless. Well you get people like this thing called Zhouyu21 here every now and then. =/
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Posted: Wed Apr 05, 2006 1:26 pm
Zhouyu21 In reply to your questions, one basic answer will be enough - for me, I don't speak a lot, and I'm, to an extent, sexless. Well you get people like this thing called Zhouyu21 here every now and then. =/
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