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 Posted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 5:06 am
Sminkx Shanna66 Azra Reyne Bisexuals are not as acceptable : I've been indirectly referred to as a hoe... I disagree. if you are a woman you are going to be called a hoe or slut sometime during your life no matter what you do or who you like, that just how women are treated as bisexuals we can have an easier time passing as straight.
Bisexual guys are assumed to be secretly gay, bisexual girls are assumed to be secretly straight, both are assumed to secretly like men.
We live in a patriarchal society, men assume themselves to be the center of everything, and thus the focus of the attraction of others who are bisexual and like two genders (notably by most definitions men and women). Bisexual girls and women are often assumed to be “posing” for some sort of queer-popularity related reasons, and not to like women, but to like men. And bisexual men are assumed to be hiding homosexuality-liking men.
This is because of a combination of biphobia and erasure, and of living in a male-centric world. After all, if one was to assume bisexual people did not exist but lesbian, gay and straight identities did and the world was not biased towards men, the erasure would mean that bisexual people had a 50/50 chance of being gay vs straight in other people’s assumptions, regardless of their gender, but this is not the case.
i wasn't saying we have it easy. biphobia is a huge issue, and as a bisexual I get to deal with almost daily. that or some men telling me that all women are bi and all men who say they are bi are really gay. and of course some people informing me that I cant like women anymore and HAVE to be straight because getting married is some sort of magical ritual that changes sexual orientation rolleyes I just meant that as a bisexual its easier to pass for a straight person because you can be in a hetero relationship. if you are in a homo relationship then obviously you wont pass for a hetero person if someone sees you kissing your loved one
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Posted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 5:09 am
Azra Reyne Shanna66 Azra Reyne Bisexuals are not as acceptable : I've been indirectly referred to as a hoe... I disagree. if you are a woman you are going to be called a hoe or slut sometime during your life no matter what you do or who you like, that just how women are treated as bisexuals we can have an easier time passing as straight. I've never been called a hoe or slut just for being a woman. My own mother has told me that bisexuals are hoes and confused as well as they can't make up their own mind. consider yourself lucky for never being called anything like that for anything other than being bi. ive been called a slut by my own grandmother for wearing a fishnet s**t under a tank top. ive also been called a slut because some other girl liked my boyfriend at the time. being bisexual does seem to automaticly come with those terms, and its sad. its one of the reasons I will never come out to my cousins unless I have to
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Posted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 8:28 am
Shanna66 Azra Reyne Shanna66 Azra Reyne Bisexuals are not as acceptable : I've been indirectly referred to as a hoe... I disagree. if you are a woman you are going to be called a hoe or slut sometime during your life no matter what you do or who you like, that just how women are treated as bisexuals we can have an easier time passing as straight. I've never been called a hoe or slut just for being a woman. My own mother has told me that bisexuals are hoes and confused as well as they can't make up their own mind. consider yourself lucky for never being called anything like that for anything other than being bi. ive been called a slut by my own grandmother for wearing a fishnet s**t under a tank top. ive also been called a slut because some other girl liked my boyfriend at the time. being bisexual does seem to automaticly come with those terms, and its sad. its one of the reasons I will never come out to my cousins unless I have to I dont want turn this into a pissing contst but ive been called worse for wearing things. I put a bandana on my head and my father called me the n word. Ive been called a dyke for dressing boyish.
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Posted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 9:01 am
Azra Reyne Shanna66 Azra Reyne Shanna66 Azra Reyne Bisexuals are not as acceptable : I've been indirectly referred to as a hoe... I disagree. if you are a woman you are going to be called a hoe or slut sometime during your life no matter what you do or who you like, that just how women are treated as bisexuals we can have an easier time passing as straight. I've never been called a hoe or slut just for being a woman. My own mother has told me that bisexuals are hoes and confused as well as they can't make up their own mind. consider yourself lucky for never being called anything like that for anything other than being bi. ive been called a slut by my own grandmother for wearing a fishnet s**t under a tank top. ive also been called a slut because some other girl liked my boyfriend at the time. being bisexual does seem to automaticly come with those terms, and its sad. its one of the reasons I will never come out to my cousins unless I have to I dont want turn this into a pissing contst but ive been called worse for wearing things. I put a bandana on my head and my father called me the n word. Ive been called a dyke for dressing boyish. I was using those experiences as examples of what most women have dealt with. I wasn't trying to make this a contest to see whose life is worse. im sorry if it came off that way but that wasn't my intent at all
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Posted: Fri Jun 07, 2013 8:56 am
Sminkx One thing I hate is how after coming out as a lesbian, all of my experiences telling straight men has led to "That's hot." "Can I watch?" "I'd love to have a threesome with you." etc. It seems like just standard protocol of what a lesbian should accept when coming out to a straight man, and it is so frustrating. Men who come out with those questions are normally sluts and want nothing but a good time, I find it quite embarassing when i hear Males blemish my gender with such inappropriate questions.
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