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 Posted: Mon May 09, 2011 6:49 pm
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THIS SITUATION BECAUSE i FACE THE SAME ISSUES AT MY SCHOOL. I FEAR THERE WEILL ALWAYS BE STEREOTYPES IN THIS WORLD BUT THE THING IS TO IGNORE THEMA ND ENJOY LIFE BEING WHO YOU ARE AND NOT WORRYING ABOUT THE WORLD'S PRECEPTION ON YOU AND YOU LIFESTYLE CHOICES... I LOVE THAT I LIKE GIRLS AND BOYS EVEN THOUGH i'M MORE OF A LESBIAN THAN ANYTHING AND EVERYONE ACCEPTS ME FOR IT AND I WISH THE WHOLE WORLD COULD THINK ON THE SAME LEVEL AS OTHERS AND STOP BEING SO JUDGEMENTAL
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Posted: Mon May 09, 2011 7:47 pm
I'm bi, but everyone said I just said that because I wanted to be able to whore around all I wanted. If I was with a guy they would say 'you lied your straight' if i was with a girl they would say, 'your useing her because you want some fun' it started to piss me off. So i experimented with something. When people asked me what my sexuality was I would either A say I just liked people, or B say I was a straight lesbian, or I'd go with the thinking approach and talk about how being young my mind has not fully developed enough to completely understand the meaning and pretenses of a committed relationship that is deep enough to be on an emotional and physical level. My conclusion. If you confuse the simple minded they roll their eyes call you stupid and never talk to you again. So i'd have to say it works well. To be honest I actually believe that in high school and such your to young to know for sure and you look on yourself changes as you age. At first I was straight, when i was little up to when I was in around seventh grade, then I started to notice pretty girls, and well, i just accept it and call myself what ever i think I am at the moment, I wont know until I actually discover who the hell I am.
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Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 11:25 am
iLegoBlock Bi is real, its just given that stereotype because of "bar-sexual" people.
Their the ones who do things like make out ect with members of the same sex, to gain attention from the oposite sex.
People dont want to date them because their labeled as sluts, or just experimenting. This. That's the reason why bisexual people get such a bad rep. I don't know if I'd ever date a bisexual guy. Personally all the bisexual people I know incidentally ARE sluts, and aren't satisfied with just one partner. It would probably take a lot longer for a relationship to bloom with a bisexual man than a gay man because with a gay man you know he only wants another man so their aren't any doubts on that front.
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Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 2:23 pm
I don't believe in orientations, period, so of course I don't believe bisexuality is a fad, but I have heard a lot of people describe it as such at my school. I am attracted to whomever I am attracted to. We can't really know who we will be attracted to, whether the person'll be a man or a woman, so I say it doesn't really matter what or if we have to identify ourselves as something. this fad of identifying as orientations is relatively recent; ancient greeks had completely different rules on sexual patterns. So yeah. People shouldn't discriminate. People are individuals and have individual rights.
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Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 3:54 pm
I am a very proud, open, and faithful bisexual. i would never cheat, lie, or use. If I am with someone, it is because I love them and see a pottential serious relationship with them.
as for being discriminated against, yes I have been. Originally it was just kids not wanting to do simple things like sit or stand near me, and the girl that knew that I liked her avoided me for a while. The other day thought my best friends step mother poraqctically verbally attacked me on it. She didn't know that I was bi and somehow the subject came up and sudenly she, a quiet nice woman, because mad and raised her voice and proclaimed "There is NO such thing as bisecual1 They are simply barsexual! I know this becuase I HAVE had partners of the same sex, and I am still straight, and I have slept with gay men and they were still gay." When i told her I was bi and tried to defend myself she simply said "yeah, I'm sorry, you can think that, but you aren't bisexual, you are barsexual."
So yeah, that s**t pisses me off a bit...
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 1:20 am
I've never really noticed any true discrimination for being bisexual, besides a friend being adamant that I was "being greedy and didn't want to choose one sex or the other."
Actually though, when I tell people that I'm bisexual and *not* polyamorous, they're usually shocked...like I guess it never occured to them that I could just want to date a girl and not feel like I had to be with a guy at the same time, or vice versa.
Personally, I am monogamous, and I feel that I'll always be monogamous. I feel that if I'm with someone I should only feel the need to be with that one person. [[Keep in mind I'm *not* trying to get into a monogamous vs. polyamorous debate here, I'm just stating my view from personal experience.]] But yeah, besides people being shocked that I don't have multiple bfs/gfs, I haven't really experienced much in the bisexual discrimination department.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 3:43 am
For the comment about there being no such thing as bisexuality,
number one, stop with the bullshit. It's really annoying.
So many people get this confused even though it's very simple.
I'll start off with the definition of bisexuality:
"Bisexuality is sexual behavior or an orientation involving physical and/or romantic attraction to both males and females"
To be more blunt, if you find yourself aroused or turned on when being with both sexes, then you are definitely bisexual. Just because you're more attracted to one sex than the other does NOT mean that you're either gay or lesbian. You're still bisexual. I consider myself bisexual, but I'd rather be in a relationship with a male instead of a female. But that sexual/romantic attraction to females will never go away. It'll always be there. I don't know where people get this mess from saying that bisexuality isn't real just because you're more interested in one sex over the other. That's just being ignorant. Don't get me wrong, there are many people who make false claims of being bisexual for these reasons:
1. Just for show (Most of the people who do this are straight females because then believe that most men get are turned on my that sort of thing. Which a lot of them actually are. Same goes for men.)
2. Afraid of coming out as actually being gay or lesbian. This is what I learned from some of the "coming out" stories I've heard. Their parents apparently put less pressure on them. I personally think that coming out as a bisexual is actually just as bad. To this day my family still pressures me to be with a woman and constantly tell me that I'm just confused.
and I'm sure there are many other reasons.
Now for the discrimination part. All I have to say is that it needs to stop. It's not just discrimination against bisexuals, it's the whole LGBT community and it's sad. I've witnessed gay men talk s**t about lesbians and vise versa. And I think that transgenders actually have it worse when it comes to discrimination. For the people of the LGBT community who do this, basically you're no different from the heterosexuals that hate us for being attracted to the same sex. This is nothing but a act of childishness and stupidity. You expect people to except us for who we are, then start excepting your own community. UGH....this subject get's me so fired up.
And one last thing, sexuality is such a broad subject. You could find yourself attracted to someone or something that you would have never expected.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 8:29 am
To be honest, when I first came out as a bisexual to my mother this didn't go very well. That's because there's just a lot of prejudice about bisexuality and people aren't really taught much about it. There's a surprising amount of people who think you're either gay or straight and never anything inbetween.
Luckily she no longer thinks that way, and she respects me more as an individual rather than a certain sexuality. I think if people were a tad more educated on the subject it'd already help in some cases. Might also get rid of the stereotype that bisexual people can't be with just one person and are unfaithful. I'm very much bisexual, and I wouldn't dream of cheating on someone I love.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 9:21 am
I haven't really told anyone except for my boyfriend about being bisexual. I'm sure some of my family would be okay with it, but there are a few people that would look down upon it.
I have a really good friend that is bisexual, too. He has a girlfriend, but he still holds fast to the title.
In school, no one admits they're bisexual because they're afraid of what comments could ensue. I greatly agree with deeerhearts about all of it.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 9:24 am
d e e e r h e a r t s For the comment about there being no such thing as bisexuality,
number one, stop with the bullshit. It's really annoying.
So many people get this confused even though it's very simple.
I'll start off with the definition of bisexuality:
"Bisexuality is sexual behavior or an orientation involving physical and/or romantic attraction to both males and females"
To be more blunt, if you find yourself aroused or turned on when being with both sexes, then you are definitely bisexual. Just because you're more attracted to one sex than the other does NOT mean that you're either gay or lesbian. You're still bisexual. I consider myself bisexual, but I'd rather be in a relationship with a male instead of a female. But that sexual/romantic attraction to females will never go away. It'll always be there. I don't know where people get this mess from saying that bisexuality isn't real just because you're more interested in one sex over the other. That's just being ignorant. Don't get me wrong, there are many people who make false claims of being bisexual for these reasons:
1. Just for show (Most of the people who do this are straight females because then believe that most men get are turned on my that sort of thing. Which a lot of them actually are. Same goes for men.)
2. Afraid of coming out as actually being gay or lesbian. This is what I learned from some of the "coming out" stories I've heard. Their parents apparently put less pressure on them. I personally think that coming out as a bisexual is actually just as bad. To this day my family still pressures me to be with a woman and constantly tell me that I'm just confused.
and I'm sure there are many other reasons.
Now for the discrimination part. All I have to say is that it needs to stop. It's not just discrimination against bisexuals, it's the whole LGBT community and it's sad. I've witnessed gay men talk s**t about lesbians and vise versa. And I think that transgenders actually have it worse when it comes to discrimination. For the people of the LGBT community who do this, basically you're no different from the heterosexuals that hate us for being attracted to the same sex. This is nothing but a act of childishness and stupidity. You expect people to except us for who we are, then start excepting your own community. UGH....this subject get's me so fired up.
And one last thing, sexuality is such a broad subject. You could find yourself attracted to someone or something that you would have never expected. 
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 10:40 am
wel since not many people know i am bi i haven’t really heard any hateful comments about it razz
i will say though that i’m only interested in being in a relationship with one person and im not saying im bisexual because apparently its a possible fad confused
i find it strange that some people think bisexuality doesn't exist. i mean someone being attracted to both genders isn’t that hard of a concept to believe is it?
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 12:54 pm
I'm bisexual and I think only about 1 or 2 of my IRL friends know it. Honestly, I am anything but a slut. I've never had my first kiss (unless you count the time I kissed my friend Lauren on the cheek in 3rd grade), I've never officially "dated" anyone (although there was a kid I met online, but he doesn't really count), never grabbed anyone's boobs or crotch, never had sex of any kind or anything. I'm not even on first base (whatever that means)!
My cousin (who is 15, same age as me) thinks it's weird that I'm 15 and have never had a serious crush on anyone. The two most serious crushes I remember were a boy in my class in 7th and 8th grade (I started to have a crush on him in the beginning of 8th) and a reading teacher of mine in 7th grade (which I found weird because he was in his mid-forties and had gray hair, but he always made class fun so maybe that's why I liked him).
Those two crushes lasted for about 3 months tops, and all the rest I've had were only for a day or so (or even just a moment).
Sorry for getting off-topic. Anyway, I notice a lot of people think they're funny when they say that bisexuals are just confused or something. One of my favorite online comedians made a joke about how bisexuals shouldn't be allowed to vote since they can't even make up their minds for if they want a woman or a man as a partner. I know he was kidding, but it still stung. So, yeah, I do notice a lot of descrimination against bisexuals.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 3:40 pm
The Problem of discrimination lies within the kinds of bisexuality that are out there. Here are just a few examples of bisexuality that create doubt that it even exists or that they're all horndogs:
Many Bisexuals wind up finding out that they were never attracted to same/opposite sex in the first place (my own personal experience). This makes it look like ALL bisexuals are confused, and are at a crossroads.
Many others claim to be bisexuals because they are willing to have relations with the same sex but most likely don't have an actual attraction to them (aka straight girls or straight men that wouldn't mind kissing the same sex but wouldn't necessarily enjoy it).This is an example of people with different interpretations of the meaning of bisexuality. Other Bisexuals may not agree with this and it can tend to discredit those who truly adore both sexes.
Others claim bisexuality (gays who are uncomfortable to completely come out) because many find it's easier to relate to them in groups of hetero sexual men and women, especially if it makes them more approachable. so these people were never really bisexual, but using it as a cover. again, it makes ALL bisexuals look like they're at a crossroads in the long run, because people aren't going to see a gay person hiding, they're going to see another bisexual that wound up only liking one gender.
then sadly, you have that select group of men/women who are indeed very sex crazed and will basically broaden their horizons by not limiting themselves to one gender for sex. Not to mention the fact that there are bisexuals who date both men and women at the same time, which makes people not take it seriously.
And I've personally found it very hard to find a bisexual that likes both men and women equally. usually there is a preference involved. this kind of makes people think that because they like one more than the other that they don't really like that sex or aren't serious about it.
Also, you must remember that every gender and orientation is subjective to cheating, but for some reason people find it easier to blame this sexuality due to the reasons above.
Basically I don't think that bisexuals get any more discrimination than any other prejudice, but like any other group of people there are going to be people that get mixed in with the decisions and stereotypes of others. It's not fair, but it is life.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 4:40 pm
d e e e r h e a r t s Just because you're more attracted to one sex than the other does NOT mean that you're either gay or lesbian. You're still bisexual. I consider myself bisexual, but I'd rather be in a relationship with a male instead of a female. But that sexual/romantic attraction to females will never go away. It'll always be there. I don't know where people get this mess from saying that bisexuality isn't real just because you're more interested in one sex over the other. That's just being ignorant.
I agree wholeheartedly that bisexuality is very, very real. I don't entirely agree with the rest of what you said, though. If we were just talking about words, then sure, anyone who is attracted to both males and females (regardless of the degree) is bisexual. But considering the fluidity and subtleties of human sexuality, I think it's fair to give people some leeway with the words they use. It's important to remember that you don't get to choose how someone else identifies. It's a very personal thing. Some people prefer to call themselves "gay" rather than "bisexual", or "primarily attracted to x, but every once in a long while, attracted to y". It's one of those cases where the dictionary definition doesn't necessarily mesh with real life, I think.
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Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2011 5:46 pm
I definitely don't get the, "I wouldn't date a bisexual person" thing. I personally know three bisexuals and they're probably the coolest people I know. None of them are sluts, and I'm sure that none of them are faking it because it's a 'fad', or whatever.
There are a lot of people who can't even understand what being bisexual is. My dad said, after mentioning one of my bisexual friends, "That's stupid; you have to choose. You can't pick both." It's ignorant statements like that that make me want to stay in the closet. >.<
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