platsdevil
So I need some very serious advice on this one guys.Very serious.
For sixteen years I have been raised a Roman catholic because that's what my father has been all his life. I went to all the ccd classes, got baptised when I was a baby and did my First Holy Communion when I was like ten. But now it's finally the day when All the classes end and I'm getting Confirmed... later today actually.
But here's the thing. There really isn't any strict religion going on on my mother side, but all of my fathers side are Roman Catholic and I have to say I'm much closer to them. The only one who isn't Catholic in my closer family would be my mother. But this whole confirmation thing has really just been a show to make my family happy.
I know if I tell my dad I am no longer a Catholic after today, he will probably disown me, but I have to. I can't keep going to the services when just dont believe.
I still have my faith in God and Jesus. They're my best friends. But I don't believe in Catholicism.
What I mean to say is, how do I tell my dad? How do I tell him I don't want to be what he has raised me as for the past sixteen years? This is a really heavy subject and I could use some advice.
Sorry for getting to this so late, but damn! I have to tell you, this problem really relates to me because I was right in your shoes at that age.
Really, you shouldn't tell your father. If I know anything about my experience with older Catholics, it's that they aren't very tolerant of other people's simple quest for the
truth, rather than rolling over as the Bible tells them to.
What your father probably doesn't understand is that there is a huge difference between obeying religion and being faithful to God. The
real God, not the God that the Church makes him out to be. Someone who says homosexuality is a sin and yet is somehow all inclusive. The same God who supposedly gave us free will, then wants us to live our lives as he tells us to. Hah.
You've got to understand that Confirmation is a mark of your commitment to the Church, as defined by human laws. But in God's world, confirmation really doesn't mean anything. It's the religion that gave confirmation power. It's just a symbol, and I leave symbols to the symbol-minded. You can go ahead with it and really just choose to keep your thoughts about who God is to yourself. That will make your parents happy. While the "right" thing to do is speak your mind and leave it to your parents to accept who you are, chances are that you won't be able to change their view akin to yours. So really, there isn't a point to trying.
