I'm concerned. At what point do people actually force you into tears? Or get you to the point of hatred, anger, etc? Why does it bother you so much?
I am the last person you would think to take sides, but at the same point, they could be thinking the same about you. The fact that people get to you in that way is your own issue. Yes, it is a human condition to feel a dislike for someone, based on how they act, think, dress, talk, walk, etc. But if you think about it, you are no better than those people who do those things that you dislike. You sit there and complain about them doing it, as if you are without fault. No point in arguing the fact. No point in stating that you dislike something based on your own opinions as opinions are very common. Everyone has them. Everyone will always have an opinion of you, even if it isn't right.
The point is don't sit and bicker about the way someone does something, and expect them not to retaliate, or think that you are better than say a homophobe for being who they are. It isn't a choice to be gay, right? Ok, so it isn't a choice to be narrow minded either.
(Before you begin to comment, I am a Gay male, so I do believe I have justification for my last remark).