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 Posted: Thu Jun 24, 2010 8:09 pm
There was only once that I ever had a problem with breast feeding.
So I used to waitress and the restaurant I was at was close to closing. Anyways there were only two sets of customers in a restaurant with 200 tables. So the ones that came in first were a family with adults and three kids. They sat in a booth by the kitchen. Fine and dandy, no problem.
The second set was two parents and a four year old kid. I'm talking the other family had a child younger than this kid. They take the table directly in front of the booth the other family happened to be sitting in front of. Not only that, they faced the family that was seated there.
So family one is enjoying their meal. Whatever. Family two though, the parents are eating...but the kid's not getting s**t. I'm thinking maybe they gave the kid a happy meal before they came in. Hell no. Mom finishes eating, whips both breasts out, and starts breast feeding the four year old. Mind you, she's in direct view of the other family and as close as she can sit to them.
THAT was the one time I had a problem with breast feeding in public.
And I do also acknowledge that this was an absurd rarity that almost never happens but every time the breast-feeding debate comes up I can't help but think of it.
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Posted: Thu Jun 24, 2010 8:14 pm
I don't mind it if they try and remain somewhat modest and they try not to make a show. Go ahead and feed your kid, I all fine and dandy with that, but try and be respectable about it. Don't just think having a kid means your milk sacks can just hang out all over and you're allowed to parade around about it. That just tells me how you got that kid in the first place.
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Posted: Thu Jun 24, 2010 8:18 pm
Lateralus es Helica There was only once that I ever had a problem with breast feeding. So I used to waitress and the restaurant I was at was close to closing. Anyways there were only two sets of customers in a restaurant with 200 tables. So the ones that came in first were a family with adults and three kids. They sat in a booth by the kitchen. Fine and dandy, no problem. The second set was two parents and a four year old kid. I'm talking the other family had a child younger than this kid. They take the table directly in front of the booth the other family happened to be sitting in front of. Not only that, they faced the family that was seated there. So family one is enjoying their meal. Whatever. Family two though, the parents are eating...but the kid's not getting s**t. I'm thinking maybe they gave the kid a happy meal before they came in. Hell no. Mom finishes eating, whips both breasts out, and starts breast feeding the four year old. Mind you, she's in direct view of the other family and as close as she can sit to them. THAT was the one time I had a problem with breast feeding in public. And I do also acknowledge that this was an absurd rarity that almost never happens but every time the breast-feeding debate comes up I can't help but think of it.
A three year old or so was playing on the play ground and comes over to his mom and starts doing some whinning and hand motions {I don't think it was actual sign language} so the man {Whom I know} asks what was wrong and the mom says, "Oh he just wants a snack" and pulls up her shirt. Right there on the playground, infront of this 60 some year old man and all the other kids.
Yea... No excuse or reason for that. My aunt actually breast fed until my cousins were like two! She said she stopped because of their teeth! I'm sorry, but once they start getting juice you should cut down on the breast feeding...
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 2:52 am
Anorectic-Pandas Shiori Miko In the second to last link, the women who are not breastfeeding are far more revealing. A woman wearing a bikini is closer to nudity than any breastfeeding I've seen. Though I'm not sure why it makes some people uncomfortable. With my sister's first child she would leave the room to feed him. I accidently walked in on her once and it was pretty uncomfortable. But with her 2nd and 3rd child she didn't hide to feed them and I never felt uncomfortable when she lifted her shirt to feed them.
A bikini typically covers the breast (and the ones that are string are in the same boat as breastfeeding with me), but to breastfeed, a lot of the time, a good portion of the breast has to be exposed and uncovered.
With the mothers I've been in the room with while they breastfed they didn't reveal much at all. You see a shirt and a baby's head. There is the possibility of seeing a n****e for a millisecond or two but mothers can move the baby and shirt at the same time which avoids that possibility.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 3:15 am
Aakosir Renkon Root This pickled vegetable...Honestly, I think breast feeding in and of itself is disturbing. ... could kick your a** !! Something being natural doesn't mean it's not disturbing wink I think breast feeding is quite lovely, actually, but I think pregnancy is really disturbing. I cannot for the life of me work out why people do it voluntarily.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 3:34 am
I don't understand the "breasts are bad because I find them sexual" thing. I don't understand "nudity = bad" really to begin with, but breasts especially I have no problem with seeing in public. Breasts are lovely.
And they're only sexual when in a sexual context. If your mind automatically goes to "SEX" when you see a pair of boobs, that's an issue in your own mind, not with a woman's body. Artistic n***s, for example, are often non-sexual. Something can be beautiful, shapely, inspiring without the context having to be related to sex.
Also I don't really get the "it's related to sex, so we should prevent people from seeing it!" thing either. Fun Fact: your kids already know about sex, and they think it's gross. And funny. On the same level as boogers and dog s**t, really, only less interesting.
I realise that, for reasons beyond my ken, people are offended by breasts. For this reason I am not going to take my shirt off in public, even on a hot day (!). It annoys me on one level because men can take their shirts off in the summer, and we can't. Why? I don't understand.
But when a child can't get fed because someone's mind's so in the gutter that the can't help but be offended by a n****e, that's messed up. Breast milk is vastly preferable to bottled milk in the first six months especially. My stepsister didn't breast feed at all and I was, and remain, quite horrified. It's important to start off with because that's where the kid gets its immune system. There's all sorts of nutrients in there to start off with. V. important.
So anyway, I've rambled enough.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 4:51 am
Shiori Miko With the mothers I've been in the room with while they breastfed they didn't reveal much at all. You see a shirt and a baby's head. There is the possibility of seeing a n****e for a millisecond or two but mothers can move the baby and shirt at the same time which avoids that possibility. The breastfeeding I've seen has left much of the breast exposed.
I've seen some women actually pull the shirt down completely below the breast and allowed it a be in open air while the baby fed.
That's what I have a problem with.
If you can do it and ensure that your breast is covered, that's A.O.K. with me
But otherwise, you should try to be respectful and try to think about other people.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 4:56 am
Anorectic-Pandas Shiori Miko With the mothers I've been in the room with while they breastfed they didn't reveal much at all. You see a shirt and a baby's head. There is the possibility of seeing a n****e for a millisecond or two but mothers can move the baby and shirt at the same time which avoids that possibility. The breastfeeding I've seen has left much of the breast exposed.
I've seen some women actually pull the shirt down completely below the breast and allowed it a be in open air while the baby fed.
That's what I have a problem with.
If you can do it and ensure that your breast is covered, that's A.O.K. with me
But otherwise, you should try to be respectful and try to think about other people. Maybe hospitals should offer "Breastfeeding Etiquette" classes.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 4:58 am
Anorectic-Pandas Shiori Miko With the mothers I've been in the room with while they breastfed they didn't reveal much at all. You see a shirt and a baby's head. There is the possibility of seeing a n****e for a millisecond or two but mothers can move the baby and shirt at the same time which avoids that possibility. The breastfeeding I've seen has left much of the breast exposed.
I've seen some women actually pull the shirt down completely below the breast and allowed it a be in open air while the baby fed.
That's what I have a problem with.
If you can do it and ensure that your breast is covered, that's A.O.K. with me
But otherwise, you should try to be respectful and try to think about other people. Can you explain to me why showing part of the breast is disrespectful? I honestly don't get it.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 5:26 am
I'm afraid I'm going to echo what others have said, but I don't see a problem with breastfeeding in public. Most mothers are doing it in a way that isn't sexual nor showing off. They're just trying to feed their baby in a way they feel is natural.
I agree, Sanguina Cruenta, I don't understand why nudity = sexual-especially with female bodies. Heck in Virginia there was a recent issue with that on the state seal. I worry about the supposedly grown men and women who see breasts and immediately think "sex". You have to wonder...
At the same time, I like the idea of a breastfeeding course. I wonder if the mothers who do use breastfeeding to show off (sadly, it does happen) are just inexperienced with breastfeeding.
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Posted: Sat Jun 26, 2010 5:41 am
4shi At the same time, I like the idea of a breastfeeding course. I wonder if the mothers who do use breastfeeding to show off (sadly, it does happen) are just inexperienced with breastfeeding. I think a lot of women aren't sure about how to breastfeed but don't want to ask - it's "natural", so they think they should naturally know how it's done, and they're too embarrassed to ask for help. I mean I'd like to think it all gets properly explained in ante-natal and by the midwife but still.
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Posted: Sun Jun 27, 2010 11:32 am
Sanguina Cruenta 4shi At the same time, I like the idea of a breastfeeding course. I wonder if the mothers who do use breastfeeding to show off (sadly, it does happen) are just inexperienced with breastfeeding. I think a lot of women aren't sure about how to breastfeed but don't want to ask - it's "natural", so they think they should naturally know how it's done, and they're too embarrassed to ask for help. I mean I'd like to think it all gets properly explained in ante-natal and by the midwife but still. Maybe that's the heart of the issue: people keep assuming everyone knows what "natural" refers to. It's one of the reasons I'm really against abstinence-only education, but that's another issue altogether.
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 3:30 pm
I have no problem with breast feeding in public places.
However, I DO kinda mind the slight nudity and where the breast feeding is done.
For example, a restaurant...
I don't feel comfortable while eating when someone is feeding their baby that way nearby. It just doesn't feel right and than I lose appetite.
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 3:54 pm
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 8:01 pm
Sanguina Cruenta Aakosir Renkon Root This pickled vegetable...Honestly, I think breast feeding in and of itself is disturbing. ... could kick your a** !! Something being natural doesn't mean it's not disturbing wink I think breast feeding is quite lovely, actually, but I think pregnancy is really disturbing. I cannot for the life of me work out why people do it voluntarily.
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