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 Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 2:30 pm
Alessandra crying It's so sad but yeh it makes it so difficult to be with them. There is a lack of spirtual connection even with ceratin morals and values they lack too. I am now with a Christian man now and it makes it so much better cause you can connect like the image of a triangle God at the top you and your guy at the bottom you grow together towards God in your relationship. For kids espically.. that would make it to confusing for them to have mixed belief systems for them to follow. Yeh, I know what you mean. But, it's not a problem anymore because I broke down and asked him because I was driving myself mad thinking about him finding someone else before I asked him. Anyway, he sied I was a really sweet person, but he just didn't see me that way. Which basicly is just a polite way of saying he doesn't think I'm pretty... So that was nice. I'm probably better off, yeah, I'll just keep telling myself that...
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Posted: Fri Jan 20, 2006 11:49 pm
Just an FYI to you all. Here's what The New Testament says about things like that... 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2006 10:05 am
Cometh The Inquisitor Just an FYI to you all. Here's what The New Testament says about things like that... 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. thats interesting i just read that the other day cause i was looking uup things on devorce cause i am trying to get my mom to devorce my step dad and i came across that one it is an interesting verse.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2006 10:07 am
You can quote bible all day long. But it is a problem of the heart. I work in a sport bar. I see life on both sides. If you feel it is ok then fine if not then it is fine. Examine your own feelings.
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Posted: Mon Jan 23, 2006 7:26 am
rftkfan You can quote bible all day long. But it is a problem of the heart. I work in a sport bar. I see life on both sides. If you feel it is ok then fine if not then it is fine. Examine your own feelings. No. "Do what you feel???" That's the quickest way to screw up your life. Hey, I work for the public schools. I go to a public university. That does not make me an authority on right and wrong. Neither does your limited life experience make you an authority. If someone believes in the Bible, they SHOULD look to it for instruction. With as much respect as I have, I seriously doubt working in a sports bar makes you smarter than the creator of the universe. Are you a Christian, dude? If you are, just a heads up, you aren't talking like one. I'm not trying to judge you, but where is your faith in the Bible? If you're not a Christian, sorry about the confusion.
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Posted: Mon Jan 23, 2006 9:00 pm
In my opinion its not a good idea to date non believers. I say this mainly from experience. Some people think that it makes it easier to witness to the person, It actually makes it harder. Instead of you pulling them up they will pull you down. Also in dating a non believer there is a higher chance to run into temtations that you wouldnt nessesarily want to run into. If you decide to think about dating a non believer i would advise you to first talk to them about God and possibly convert them before you start dating because as I said before in the relationship instead of you pulling them up they will pull you down.
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Posted: Mon Jan 23, 2006 10:37 pm
Just say "no" to evange-dating!
Hm. I don't think dating a non-believer is a good idea. Romantic relationships need to be centered around God.
Ephesians 5:22-25
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
How does an unequally yoked relationship, founded on chemistry and attraction, reflect this? How can an unbelieving man be expected to follow Christ's lead in love? How can an unbelieving woman be expected to understand the symbolism and honor in submission?
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Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 12:20 pm
The Bible says we can't... I wish I knew where, but we can't marry non-believers... not even date them... so if you want to date him... try to lead him to Christ first... I'd make God VERY happy if you do.
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Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2006 7:11 am
Gilwen Just say "no" to evange-dating! Hm. I don't think dating a non-believer is a good idea. Romantic relationships need to be centered around God. Ephesians 5:22-25
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.How does an unequally yoked relationship, founded on chemistry and attraction, reflect this? How can an unbelieving man be expected to follow Christ's lead in love? How can an unbelieving woman be expected to understand the symbolism and honor in submission? Ya, that's what I was worried about, most of my friends sied that I was being too serious about it, but I'm not the type of person who can just be not serious about stuff like this... I still don't know what to think though, that verse that Cometh posted sied it's alright, or does that only apply to people who get married before they are Christian and then become Christian and their spouse isn't? I'm so confused...
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 8:28 pm
LadyAmbrosia Ya, that's what I was worried about, most of my friends sied that I was being too serious about it, but I'm not the type of person who can just be not serious about stuff like this... I still don't know what to think though, that verse that Cometh posted sied it's alright, or does that only apply to people who get married before they are Christian and then become Christian and their spouse isn't? I'm so confused... The verse Cometh posted seems to refer to people who become saved after marriage. Mixed relationships seem to conflict with Jesus' message to love God with all our hearts, souls, and minds. If you love God that much, what could you have in common with someone with a different worldview? You're going in completely different directions from someone who is living for themselves.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 6:16 am
i think that it is wrong to date a non believer.In the bible,God ask us to separate from the unequal yoke in Jeremiah.Paul also ask us not to sit with the mockers.It means that we are not supposed to get involve with these people althought they can still be our friends.As Jesus accept the sinners,we are to do so.But dating is another thing as I feel that dating would cause you to be involve in that person's life.So in short,it is okay to have a non believer as a friend but not as a lover or a date.
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Posted: Sun Feb 05, 2006 6:48 am
Gilwen- I never thought about it like that before, but I see what you mean. But we do have stuff in common (not that it matters anymore), he just thinks that the Bible is alittle far fetched... he thinks that we're an alien experement and evey once in a while they send someone down to teach us something, but we're just not getting it. I think he is just anti-organised religion, he beleives we were created by something, he just doesn't know what...
Crystal_lynixe- I understand what you mean, and I agree, but does not beleiving in God equal mocking him, because like I sied above, he just doesn't beleive in organised religion, that doesn't mean that he doesn't beleive there's a God. Am I just making excuses?
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Posted: Sun Feb 05, 2006 7:25 am
LadyAmbrosia Gilwen- I never thought about it like that before, but I see what you mean. But we do have stuff in common (not that it matters anymore), he just thinks that the Bible is alittle far fetched... he thinks that we're an alien experement and evey once in a while they send someone down to teach us something, but we're just not getting it. I think he is just anti-organised religion, he beleives we were created by something, he just doesn't know what... Crystal_lynixe- I understand what you mean, and I agree, but does not beleiving in God equal mocking him, because like I sied above, he just doesn't beleive in organised religion, that doesn't mean that he doesn't beleive there's a God. Am I just making excuses? being a christian is not just religion but relationship with God....And sorry for being ..yes u r making excuses.If u love God more than anything,u know that u would do anything for Him.But ...this is up to u....date the guy or not is ur choice as God give us all choices in life
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Posted: Sun Feb 05, 2006 10:01 pm
LadyAmbrosia Gilwen- I never thought about it like that before, but I see what you mean. But we do have stuff in common (not that it matters anymore), he just thinks that the Bible is alittle far fetched... he thinks that we're an alien experement and evey once in a while they send someone down to teach us something, but we're just not getting it. I think he is just anti-organised religion, he beleives we were created by something, he just doesn't know what... Crystal_lynixe- I understand what you mean, and I agree, but does not beleiving in God equal mocking him, because like I sied above, he just doesn't beleive in organised religion, that doesn't mean that he doesn't beleive there's a God. Am I just making excuses? This is a hard position for you to be in. You're going to want to date guys you have feelings for, and you're going to (probably unknowingly) make as many excuses as you need to to justify it to yourself. But in the future, don't make the mistake that thousands do just because of your hormones. Ask yourself this question next time: Will this man be an example of Christ's love to me, will he purposefully encourage me in my faith, and will he be the type of man God wants in my life? If the answers to those questions are no, you know what to do, even if it will be hard, since you have feelings for him. But you'll have those feelings for others in your life. You'll have more chances to fall in love. You will never find a Savior like Jesus Christ. Think of it this way: if God were your earthly father or something would he be happy with the directionyour love interest will lead you if you were together? Would He approve? ~Gilwen PS I'm sorry about what happened when you were honest with him. The really good thing about waiting for a man who loves God with all his heart is that he will care about the people around him, and he won't be superficial or unkind.
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Posted: Wed Feb 08, 2006 5:26 pm
awww I'm sorry to hear that things didn't work out between the two of you. However, if it was meant to be, God would have made sure it would have happened right?
anyway here's my opinion on the subject:
as others have mentioned/posted, there is the verse of 2 Corinthians 6:14 which says
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
you should always resist the temptation to "flirt to convert." I've had friends with the attitude that "if he sees how great I am, he'd convert to date me" no no no ! If a guy is making the choice to become a Christian to impress you, is he doing it for the right reasons? is he really giving himself to God, or is he giving himself to you?
The reason that it may be unwise to date a non-believer is for the simple fact that all humans are easily swayed. You may think that your faith is unmovable, but the fact remains, has it really been tested? Though you may be able to do some good in a non-believer's life, you must guard yourself. After all, think about how much you yourself have to lose.
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