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 Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 9:19 am
If the people who are in the multiple relationship know and are okay with it then I am, but cheating is way different, to me atleast. Breaking the bonds and vows that you took when you were wed is wrong, to me, once again.
I forgot to state my abortion opinion. I am only pro choice because of the rape victims. If a woman, teen or child is raped they should have that choice, but if the baby is an "accident" then no. They knew what they were doing they should be responsible for that baby.
I have proof that the rehab does not work in the prison system. If the murderer/rapist does not want to change you cannot force him. There are so many repeat offenders in the world it is just pathetic. I have one in my family... He is in jail now for his second time. He sexually abused his daughter and son, then he sexually abused his granddaughter while the grandson was in the room. He obviously is not sorry. And same with my father... He abused all of us, differently, but still abuse. He was mentally and verbally abusive to me. He was sexually abusive to my sister. And physically to my brothers. He has never been in jail and I have no clue why. I wish he was in for life.
This sounds harsh, but when you live a childhood with him, you would be the same way. I don't want to go one with my life story I just wanted to support that statement.
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 11:52 am
If a condom breaks, do you say the same too? Why does no one think about that? I mean if no one knew and thought they did that all correctly, the potential to get pregnant is still at large and an accident. Same with the very small percentage of getting pregnant even taking contraception; nothing is ever 100 % effective with Plan B or the pill. s**t happens.
And with the possibility of making it more illegal except for those 'rape' instances, back-alley abortions will happen. What about them? We should teach more about contraception and better sex education as well as give out free condoms and things of that sort in order to cull the need for abortions. The privacy policy is a slippery slope because there are women that abuse it but that doesn't mean you signal everyone out who wants to get one on their own free will that have better reasons than "I had sex without a condom". If you were the baby who was adopted, you would think differently because then you would know the system. I was adopted and I could have been another 'mistake' as well. And my other 2 cents is if the rents know their child will be a bad mother, then why birth a kid that's going to go through hell and who knows, maybe kill themselves? Just wondering.
And I said rehabilitation for people who need it...and I should have also said people who don't deserve aka repeat offenders or moderate-to severe crimes. The ones you just can't trust and don't want help except to hurt others. Otherwise there are a lot of people who need it who are being good and not making the same mistakes. My dad should have gotten the rehabilitation but let's just face it: (might as well put it out there) he sold pot and got 7 years and made it harder for me to deal with being without my rents for my childhood. Something needs to be done with that system and it needs change now. There's overpopulation in prisons and that's wrong. There's a reason I watch tons of documentaries and read stories about stuff like that so I get all sides of the issue. If the same happened to me, I would have still kept an open mind about rehabilitation. Through pain or not, I would never lie to myself about other cases. I'm sorry if that offends, but I've known better from experience.
I know, cheating is wrong. But if things are consensual, let them work it out. That's all I meant.
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 2:02 pm
Some I got from home. Like most I was taught it was wrong to kill, steal or use violence. They taught me there were no "good guys" and "bad guys", that you should somehow assist people who aren't as fortunate as yourself, and that you shouldn't do something you don't want anyone else to do, and vice versa.
They've also taught me you shouldn't wait until you get married before you have sex. I still believe in all those things.
Some I got from society, after having seen many people do things I thought to be 'the right thing', e.g giving your seat to the elderly or helping the blind get around, or getting involved when someone seems to be in trouble. Those things mostly involve how you should interact with strangers; some of those things you don't learn at home, some you do. I also picked up on beliefs and ideas somewhat common, although not being 'preached' for them at home - that suicide shouldn't ever be a way out, and that you shouldn't let things that frighten you drive you away from doing what you enjoy doing.
Some of them I adopted by myself, like avoiding harming animals. I'm the only vegetarian in my family, and I don't buy leather products, products tested on animals, etc. This idea just seemed right to me, I don't think anyone or anything has led me there.
There's always more of course.
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Posted: Wed Dec 23, 2009 8:40 pm
Distorted_Image If a condom breaks, do you say the same too? Why does no one think about that? I mean if no one knew and thought they did that all correctly, the potential to get pregnant is still at large and an accident. Same with the very small percentage of getting pregnant even taking contraception; nothing is ever 100 % effective with Plan B or the pill. s**t happens. And with the possibility of making it more illegal except for those 'rape' instances, back-alley abortions will happen. What about them? We should teach more about contraception and better sex education as well as give out free condoms and things of that sort in order to cull the need for abortions. The privacy policy is a slippery slope because there are women that abuse it but that doesn't mean you signal everyone out who wants to get one on their own free will that have better reasons than "I had sex without a condom". If you were the baby who was adopted, you would think differently because then you would know the system. I was adopted and I could have been another 'mistake' as well. And my other 2 cents is if the rents know their child will be a bad mother, then why birth a kid that's going to go through hell and who knows, maybe kill themselves? Just wondering. And I said rehabilitation for people who need it...and I should have also said people who don't deserve aka repeat offenders or moderate-to severe crimes. The ones you just can't trust and don't want help except to hurt others. Otherwise there are a lot of people who need it who are being good and not making the same mistakes. My dad should have gotten the rehabilitation but let's just face it: (might as well put it out there) he sold pot and got 7 years and made it harder for me to deal with being without my rents for my childhood. Something needs to be done with that system and it needs change now. There's overpopulation in prisons and that's wrong. There's a reason I watch tons of documentaries and read stories about stuff like that so I get all sides of the issue. If the same happened to me, I would have still kept an open mind about rehabilitation. Through pain or not, I would never lie to myself about other cases. I'm sorry if that offends, but I've known better from experience. I know, cheating is wrong. But if things are consensual, let them work it out. That's all I meant. The health departments around here give out free condoms and they give you a whole packet and everything. It's not really about teaching better practicing, it's more about responsibility. The teachers can teach everything and then some, but there will always be those people who say, "I'll never get pregnant," and then they don't use anything and end up getting pregnant. I definitly believe if the mother is not capable then the child should be taken away, but you don't know what type of life the child will have. A friend of mine was adopted and her adoptive father rape her... I know it's a really bad world. It sucks. I didn't mean to be standoff-ish in my posts. Debating is a hard thing because people read too much into it and they get a "vibe" that isn't there.
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