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yeah my typing skills do suck. It is one of my faults that needs work. It is improving slowly. Man when I first started typing... well let us not discuss that.
Just know that I don't talk as badly as I type. I was planing on typing something else but I lost track of what it was, I am sort of half asleep right now it is way past my bedtime.

Because I'm frank, and say what I think. I defend what I say, and speak for what needs to be defended. Women's Rights is horribly underrepresented.



Bettime? LOL.

S'good to know you talk better. I type the words I talk, so I get all sorts of weird contractions, but they are all punctuated correctly!

*Is English Buff*

Let's just make sure than in our celebration of women's equality that we don't swallow the chauvenist propaganda. Yes, there is more to a woman's life than child-bearing and dish-washing. However, these are important things! (It really freaks me out when my dishes start walking or worse, sending up satellites.) No one's life should be limited to them but then no one's life should be limited to standing over a petri dish all day either.

Homemakers keep the world running. They keep the scientists, politicians and garbage men fed and clothed so they can do their jobs and they raise the next generation to be productive human beings and thoughtful citizens. Personally, it's my goal in life to be a home-maker. It's just the way I am: home, hearth and heart are things that are very important to me. It bothers me a great deal to see this important work denigrated. People who value these things, women OR men, have as much a right to their desires as those of you who feel yourselves drawn to a different field of influence.

It's kind of sad to hear things like "I'm not into skinny blondes who are nothing but housewives." One of the coolest ladies I know is a skinny, blonde, LDS mother of three who throws the coolest baby showers, makes AWESOME scrapbooks (not something I really have the drive for myself) and makes jewelry. Really guys, don't stereotype. You never know what's going on in someone. smile

On another note, you're not alone. My (non-LDS) cousin lives in Texas right now and HATES it. She says the guys only want blonde, bouncy cheerleader types and that telling them she's a lawyer is the kiss of death.

Oh my gosh! Did I actually write that? Wow. Okay, I've changed a little bit. I want to go to BYU-I now. I've never been a guy magnet, and sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me, but really there's nothing wrong. Maybe if guys all liked me I would be a lot mroe tempted to do something I'd really regret. And it really doesn't help that the two priests in our ward who I would actually consider dating have both pretty much sworn off girls until after their missions.

I'm going to EFY next week, and the guys never notice me there, either. It's going to be my last year, and I am so nervous, because even there the guys gravitate toward the totally made-up girls, and my hair is even shorter now, a long pixie cut, and even though I wear more makeup than I did, I still don't wear a lot. Guys never ask me to dance at dances, and stuff. It is so frustrating, because I know it's for my own good that guys don't notice me nowadays, but it's 5 1/2 years until I get back from my mission, and that sounds like such a long wait to me!

UGH!

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and i'll flame you if i want to, thank you very much. pirate

I always thought that too, but I want to be a Theatre or Drama major, and going to a non-church school to do drama could be horrible. Drama people tend to not understand LDS values, and at any other school I would probably be asked to do all sorts of things that I wouldn't feel comfortable doing. "It's not even real, it's just acting" or "The playwrite put this profanity in there for a reason, so it needs to stay" or "It's just a costume, no biggie." It's kind of a hard situation to describe, being and LDS drama-enthusiast when you are the only one there. Drama people don't have our same morals and won't change them for just one person. They tend to love dirty jokes and it can be really hard to maintain gospel standards with them.

I want to be a mentor for a high school theater program, and show teens how great family-quality theater can be, and a church school is a place where I won't be pressured to abandon my standards for the sake of "art", and where clean, family theater is encouraged. That's why I am setting my sights on BYU-I. I was thinking of Southern Virginia University, but they don't really have French there, and I live on the West coast, so I don't want to go that far away. I will never want to go to school in Utah, though, and you couldn't pay me to live there. I just want to go to a place where I can participate in what I love and stay true to my beliefs.

Although I live in Provo, I'm not going to BYU - but 95% of the people around me are. Of all the girls that I know that are engaged (and there are a lot), none of them are blond, very few would be considered "minny", and all of them are continuing their education.

Besides, I'm 22. I got married at 20, and I'm already divorced. My sister is 28, never married. And as I've seen with so many other people .. it is WORTH WAITING FOR. You're only 23. That's infant when it comes to the eternities (which is what you're going to be married for, right?). You've got tons of time. Get over what "most guys" look for, and find someone that is looking for you. Don't even start freaking out yet. Much better to wait and find the right guy, than settling for the first guy that looks your way (again, I've seen this, it's incredibly STUPID). I'm not bitter, just right.

well I may be young and all but please just hear me out...in church one sunday morning my sunday school teacher was talking to us about temple marriage and finding the right guy and all. she was a newly wed by a few months or so and so I felt she was pretty right in what she was saying. she thought that she would always be with a guy that had dark hair and dark olive skin and brown eyes but the guy she married IN THE TEMPLE, has blond hair and blue eyes and regular white skin. and so maybe what these guys think they like they really arn't sure and heck they could end up liking you and marrying you IN THE TEMPLE!
I know temple marriage is important and all and the love of my life isn't mormon crying but we've still got a few more years to go so maybe if I'm lucky he'll join. or at least come willingly to a wednesday night activity... rolleyes
but you shouldn't have to worry about that...you still have the rest of your life to live, live it. If you find a nice LDS guy and things are going slow just ask him out instead, or get some addresses of the missionaries. wink but if a man you like isn't LDS try inviting him to church a few times. and let him know how important this is to you and if he decides that he doesn't want to then he's just not right for you.