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 Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 12:13 am
PsychoTeddy First of all, I am physically female with confused feelings towards transgenderism. Not sure what's going on in there.
Anyway, for now, I'm 100% out as a lesbian to family, friends, school people etc. The only people who may not know are my school teachers because a) they haven't asked and b) I see no reason to tell them.
I am also out as possibly transgender to my girlfriend, parents, school counsellour and one school friend. No more until I know what the hell is going on.
Reasons for coming out: Lesbian, because I thought at the time that that was who I was and felt ok with it and wanted to share it with the world. Although, the only real reason I came out to my parents was because they were getting suspicious about my girlfriend coming around all the time. xp
Possibly transgender: To my girlfriend because I felt that she had a right to know how I felt about myself and my body. School counsellour because I needed help with it, parents because the counsellour suggested it (this was only last week mind you) and school friend because I needed someone to talk to and he seemed like he'd understand. 3nodding Wow. That's pretty amazing. O: Thank you so much for your response. <3 NightWindII, your brother sounds awesome. XD And I'm glad you found friends like that. :]
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Posted: Thu Dec 22, 2005 3:49 pm
I came out, i think? My mom kinda told me it was a phase that everyone goes through. My dad supports me. I'm super grlad bout my dad but all in all i don't feel that much is changed. Its kinda weird.
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Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2005 9:36 am
I'm not out with my parents at all. They're like
hardcore LDS people, and they would probably
get a full flood of emotions if I told them. u__u;
But I am out, only to my brother's and my friends
basically. Coming out in middle school isn't such
a great idea. You know how it is.. Middle school
is sucky and you'll just get mocked at by everyone,
even the 7th and 6th graders, and people will
think you're weird or something. Besides, there's
an LDS girl in my grade who can find out, and she
will tell her parents who will tell other parents who
will tell the friend's of my parents who will tell my
parents. I'm just not ready to tell now. ):
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Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2005 11:31 pm
I would say that I'm out with my friends. Most of my friends are bi anyway, and one of them is a lesbian. Which is cool. She's totally awesome. We hold hands, kiss each other on the cheek, etc., but we're still just friends. I'm the only one with a boyfriend, but I'm not quite sure he know that I'm bi yet. And I'm pretty sure he would at me real weird if I told him, and I can't stand when people do that.
I've had the 'I think I'm bi' discussion before with my parents, and they really freaked me out about it, and made me feel even more embarassed. They started saying that you only know that you're bi or lesbian if you've had a sexual encounter with a girl. And that kind of freaked me out, because I'm only fifteen and so not ready for sex yet. Even though sex is a beautiful thing.<3 But then I mentioned to them that straight people just naturally feel a liking for the opposite sex, and so why would that be different for me towards girls? I feel more attracted to girls. I really don't get how that is so different from straight people feeling attracted to the opposite sex.
They never really answered me. Heh.
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 12:54 pm
Male, Out. (Mostly)
I had been hinting at being bi for almost a year, when I finally looked someone straight in the face, and told them that I wasn't completely straight. If my memory suits me, that was my current Girl Friend. She was shocked to say the least, and didn't talk to me for several days, but she finally came to grips with it, and now we have a great relationship; nothing is quite like talking to your GF about cute guys.
I came out in math class one time, but with the exception of a really nice lesbian girl, and the cute guy who's shoulder my head was resting on (He just freaked out, and jumped about twenty feet away from me), everyone else just flamed me about it, or ignored my statement completely.
I told my Mom about it today, and I thought she was going to crash her van into a ditch for a second. After that initial shock passed, she just told me that I was to young to know for sure, and every one goes through stages. (If this is a stage, then I have been going through it for a very long time) Now she just keeps asking me a lot of question. It's all good though, because I have not been disowned yet. *laughs* I feel like no one is willing to except me as bisexual, because I am supposed to be the perfect smart child.
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 5:43 pm
Seralunarin I came out, i think? My mom kinda told me it was a phase that everyone goes through. My dad supports me. I'm super grlad bout my dad but all in all i don't feel that much is changed. Its kinda weird. O: Oh well, your mom might get used to it eventually. XP It's so wonderful that your dad is supportive of you, though! Lucky. <3
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 5:45 pm
xX Vanity Angel Xx
I'm not out with my parents at all. They're like
hardcore LDS people, and they would probably
get a full flood of emotions if I told them. u__u;
But I am out, only to my brother's and my friends
basically. Coming out in middle school isn't such
a great idea. You know how it is.. Middle school
is sucky and you'll just get mocked at by everyone,
even the 7th and 6th graders, and people will
think you're weird or something. Besides, there's
an LDS girl in my grade who can find out, and she
will tell her parents who will tell other parents who
will tell the friend's of my parents who will tell my
parents. I'm just not ready to tell now. ):
LDS? I'm not familiar with that term/acronym, so I'm not quite sure what you mean... I can totally see why you'd be doubtful about being open, though. (Actually, I got confirmation-outed to my mom that way--some other Asian mom found out from their kid and called my mom to rant about it. ^^" )
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 5:48 pm
Childhood Dreams I would say that I'm out with my friends. Most of my friends are bi anyway, and one of them is a lesbian. Which is cool. She's totally awesome. We hold hands, kiss each other on the cheek, etc., but we're still just friends. I'm the only one with a boyfriend, but I'm not quite sure he know that I'm bi yet. And I'm pretty sure he would at me real weird if I told him, and I can't stand when people do that.
I've had the 'I think I'm bi' discussion before with my parents, and they really freaked me out about it, and made me feel even more embarassed. They started saying that you only know that you're bi or lesbian if you've had a sexual encounter with a girl. And that kind of freaked me out, because I'm only fifteen and so not ready for sex yet. Even though sex is a beautiful thing.<3 But then I mentioned to them that straight people just naturally feel a liking for the opposite sex, and so why would that be different for me towards girls? I feel more attracted to girls. I really don't get how that is so different from straight people feeling attracted to the opposite sex.
They never really answered me. Heh. Ouch, got them there. XD Yeah, but I'm sure you don't have to have a sexual encounter to know. Attraction is what defines your orientation--not actual sex. Otherwise, we'd all be orientationally neutral until we screwed with someone. =___= And you know, stupid idea. You shouldn't be embarassed about your sexuality, though--whatever you are, gay, straight, bi, etc.--you should be proud and appreciate yourself (and others, of course) for what they are. :3
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 5:55 pm
Adam T Nightclaw Male, Out. (Mostly) I had been hinting at being bi for almost a year, when I finally looked someone straight in the face, and told them that I wasn't completely straight. If my memory suits me, that was my current Girl Friend. She was shocked to say the least, and didn't talk to me for several days, but she finally came to grips with it, and now we have a great relationship; nothing is quite like talking to your GF about cute guys. I came out in math class one time, but with the exception of a really nice lesbian girl, and the cute guy who's shoulder my head was resting on (He just freaked out, and jumped about twenty feet away from me), everyone else just flamed me about it, or ignored my statement completely. I told my Mom about it today, and I thought she was going to crash her van into a ditch for a second. After that initial shock passed, she just told me that I was to young to know for sure, and every one goes through stages. (If this is a stage, then I have been going through it for a very long time) Now she just keeps asking me a lot of question. It's all good though, because I have not been disowned yet. *laughs* I feel like no one is willing to except me as bisexual, because I am supposed to be the perfect smart child. ^^" Maybe you shouldn't have told him while your head was resting on his shoulder...XD Well, it's a start with your mom, at least. And heck, she hasn't disowned you already, so she's not going to. My situation was rather similar, but at least you've got it out to her. The worst she can do is be in denial about it the rest of her life. O:
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 7:14 am
Adam T Nightclaw Male, Out. (Mostly) I had been hinting at being bi for almost a year, when I finally looked someone straight in the face, and told them that I wasn't completely straight. If my memory suits me, that was my current Girl Friend. She was shocked to say the least, and didn't talk to me for several days, but she finally came to grips with it, and now we have a great relationship; nothing is quite like talking to your GF about cute guys. I came out in math class one time, but with the exception of a really nice lesbian girl, and the cute guy who's shoulder my head was resting on (He just freaked out, and jumped about twenty feet away from me), everyone else just flamed me about it, or ignored my statement completely. I told my Mom about it today, and I thought she was going to crash her van into a ditch for a second. After that initial shock passed, she just told me that I was to young to know for sure, and every one goes through stages. (If this is a stage, then I have been going through it for a very long time) Now she just keeps asking me a lot of question. It's all good though, because I have not been disowned yet. *laughs* I feel like no one is willing to except me as bisexual, because I am supposed to be the perfect smart child. lol.....i got that one too. < >
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 7:16 am
kageling Seralunarin I came out, i think? My mom kinda told me it was a phase that everyone goes through. My dad supports me. I'm super grlad bout my dad but all in all i don't feel that much is changed. Its kinda weird. O: Oh well, your mom might get used to it eventually. XP It's so wonderful that your dad is supportive of you, though! Lucky. <3 I was suprised as hell, my dad is from a super conservative family (my aunt baptized me in a sink). I think that he just completely gives up on trying to make me his asristocratic proper daughter and just has kinda acctepted the pansexual activist me that really exists.
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 9:03 am
kageling Ouch, got them there. XD Yeah, but I'm sure you don't have to have a sexual encounter to know. Attraction is what defines your orientation--not actual sex. Otherwise, we'd all be orientationally neutral until we screwed with someone. =___= And you know, stupid idea. You shouldn't be embarassed about your sexuality, though--whatever you are, gay, straight, bi, etc.--you should be proud and appreciate yourself (and others, of course) for what they are. :3
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 9:36 am
Quote: ^^" Maybe you shouldn't have told him while your head was resting on his shoulder...XD Well, it's a start with your mom, at least. And heck, she hasn't disowned you already, so she's not going to. My situation was rather similar, but at least you've got it out to her. The worst she can do is be in denial about it the rest of her life. O: You are right, telling him at that moment probably wasn't the best Idea, but the look on his face was great. I am just glad my mom had enough common sense not to tell my dad. Next to my grandpa, he is the most homophobic person on the planet. Just my luck. *dry laugh*
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 11:18 am
Seralunarin I was suprised as hell, my dad is from a super conservative family (my aunt baptized me in a sink). I think that he just completely gives up on trying to make me his asristocratic proper daughter and just has kinda acctepted the pansexual activist me that really exists. I'm sorry, this is totally random, but the phrase "baptized me in a sink" keeps giving me an image of just that...and then lifting the baby and accidentally banging its head on the faucet. x___X I'm so sorry! It just keeps playing in my head... DD: Okay anyway....hahaha, but you are very lucky to have a father like that. :] A lot of people don't have even half of that support. And I hope it makes you strong. <3
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 11:33 am
Childhood Dreams I wish I could accept myself more around my boyfriend, to be able to tell him. I made a joke aboout it once, [Hint, a joke.] and he was fine. Oh, jeez, I'm so confused now. xP Hmm...well, that's definitely a good sign. I've personally found that it's easier to find out how someone feels about things like that by first starting some form of discussion on gays and gay rights. Obviously, if he expresses something like "Gays should all burn and die", then maybe we don't want to tell them...but if they seem tolerant and/or supportive, then it's probably safe to tell them later. The worst you can get then is discomfort...and in your case, it shouldn't be too bad if present at all. He's not finding out that someone else of the same sex has a crush on him, anyway. Besides, if you're still not sure after talking about that, then there's no need to go any further with it.
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