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 Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 3:30 pm
k y r i e For some odd reason when I do see a black guy with a white girl I do get a tad..irked. But it's the total opposite when it's the reverse and it's a sistah with a white guy.
I guess it may because of I've seen alot of black guy white girl realationships totally based on sex and stereotypes. And since black girl white guy relationships aren't that common I'm pleasantly surprised when I see them.
Thats probably because from what I've seen and heard black girl, white guy relationships are more scrutinized then their counterparts since the other is much more common. [Interesting viewpoint. 3nodding ]
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2005 5:22 pm
Passion_Dragon thirdeyephilsophy Im just gonna say this: My mom didn't care when she found out my dad had a girlfriend that is until she found out she was white, and my mom is mixed. [...Then she..."started caring?" Or she got angry? What? Care to elaborate? If your mother did get upset, do you share her views, or does father have a right to do what he wants? How does this affect you?? neutral ] Yeah my mom got hell pissed startin saying "that ***** left me for a white b***h" and callin him a jiggaboo and everything, i don't really care about the whole interacial thing casue other peoples business is there business and I've dated white girls before, I just think you gotta find some one thats gonna understand who you are, and some white people don't get that.
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Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2005 5:40 am
thirdeyephilsophy i don't really care about the whole interacial thing casue other peoples business is there business and I've dated white girls before, I just think you gotta find some one thats gonna understand who you are, and some white people don't get that. [I have a problem with black people not understanding me, actually. I don't especially seek out white boys as mates...but I do gravitate toward them simply because there's more of a likelihood that they are interested in the same things I am. But, hell, if I could find a black male rocker who sported a mohawk and a lip piercing and preferred leather cuffs to "Jacob" on his wrists...who likes muscle cars and comic books...I'd jump on him so fast his head would spin~!! biggrin heart ]
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2005 10:48 am
i don't particularly care for the bruthas dating white women, but i know it's a personal thing, and i don't fault anyone, or try to make them out to be bad for it. it's my issue, not theirs; i don't really have any reason or right to say 'don't do that' or whatever.
it is my experience that they seem to pick out either the dumbest or ugliest ones to date. not all the time, but more often than not, from what i've seen. most of the black men i've seen with white women are all about what they can get from the chick with all the money and status, and none of the self-esteem.
again, this is not how all black/white relationships are, i'm sure, and i know that's a stereotype in itself, but it's what i'm familiar with. i think if i saw a real relationship between a black man and a white woman, then i would feel differently.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 9:23 am
Kaenai i don't particularly care for the bruthas dating white women, but i know it's a personal thing, and i don't fault anyone, or try to make them out to be bad for it. it's my issue, not theirs; i don't really have any reason or right to say 'don't do that' or whatever.
it is my experience that they seem to pick out either the dumbest or ugliest ones to date. not all the time, but more often than not, from what i've seen. most of the black men i've seen with white women are all about what they can get from the chick with all the money and status, and none of the self-esteem.
again, this is not how all black/white relationships are, i'm sure, and i know that's a stereotype in itself, but it's what i'm familiar with. i think if i saw a real relationship between a black man and a white woman, then i would feel differently. [That is annoying, yes--the dumb/ugly black dudes with the white girls. But you're also right that others looking down on them isn't "their" problem. xp That's kind of how I feel when I'm with a white guy. People find it wierd that I "choose" white guys that aren't "wiggers;" that is, "black-acting white boys." If I wanted to date someone who "acted black," I'd date a black guy. rolleyes I gravitate more toward non-black guys because they seem to have more in common with me, as I'm sure I've said before. I wish I could say that it appeared to be the same way with black men and white women... stare ]
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 8:13 pm
Passion_Dragon thirdeyephilsophy i don't really care about the whole interacial thing casue other peoples business is there business and I've dated white girls before, I just think you gotta find some one thats gonna understand who you are, and some white people don't get that. [I have a problem with black people not understanding me, actually. I don't especially seek out white boys as mates...but I do gravitate toward them simply because there's more of a likelihood that they are interested in the same things I am. But, hell, if I could find a black male rocker who sported a mohawk and a lip piercing and preferred leather cuffs to "Jacob" on his wrists...who likes muscle cars and comic books...I'd jump on him so fast his head would spin~!! biggrin heart ] Mmm! If you ever find one of them... and it doesn't work out, pass him on to me. xd
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 5:20 am
Passion_Dragon Kaenai i don't particularly care for the bruthas dating white women, but i know it's a personal thing, and i don't fault anyone, or try to make them out to be bad for it. it's my issue, not theirs; i don't really have any reason or right to say 'don't do that' or whatever.
it is my experience that they seem to pick out either the dumbest or ugliest ones to date. not all the time, but more often than not, from what i've seen. most of the black men i've seen with white women are all about what they can get from the chick with all the money and status, and none of the self-esteem.
again, this is not how all black/white relationships are, i'm sure, and i know that's a stereotype in itself, but it's what i'm familiar with. i think if i saw a real relationship between a black man and a white woman, then i would feel differently. [That is annoying, yes--the dumb/ugly black dudes with the white girls. But you're also right that others looking down on them isn't "their" problem. xp That's kind of how I feel when I'm with a white guy. People find it wierd that I "choose" white guys that aren't "wiggers;" that is, "black-acting white boys." If I wanted to date someone who "acted black," I'd date a black guy. rolleyes I gravitate more toward non-black guys because they seem to have more in common with me, as I'm sure I've said before. I wish I could say that it appeared to be the same way with black men and white women... stare ] i know, it's odd. it's all about who you're attracted to. my neighbor (let's call her 'S') is dating a white man, and he's really nice. it appears, however, that there are some parenting issues - he's got kids, and they're bad as hell; one of them smacked her, just for the hell of it. of course, she got smacked right back, but dude didn't even say anything until S threatened to leave.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 8:36 am
Disruptive Passion_Dragon thirdeyephilsophy i don't really care about the whole interacial thing casue other peoples business is there business and I've dated white girls before, I just think you gotta find some one thats gonna understand who you are, and some white people don't get that. [I have a problem with black people not understanding me, actually. I don't especially seek out white boys as mates...but I do gravitate toward them simply because there's more of a likelihood that they are interested in the same things I am. But, hell, if I could find a black male rocker who sported a mohawk and a lip piercing and preferred leather cuffs to "Jacob" on his wrists...who likes muscle cars and comic books...I'd jump on him so fast his head would spin~!! biggrin heart ] Mmm! If you ever find one of them... and it doesn't work out, pass him on to me. xd [Mwaha~! rofl
But seriously though, it's beginning to seem like "if I ever find one of them," he's going to be doing the same thing I am: looking for someone who "LOOKS" like they are "his type," meaning he's going to be looking at white females more so than black, and we might completely over-look each other. gonk ]
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 8:44 am
Kaenai Passion_Dragon Kaenai i don't particularly care for the bruthas dating white women, but i know it's a personal thing, and i don't fault anyone, or try to make them out to be bad for it. it's my issue, not theirs; i don't really have any reason or right to say 'don't do that' or whatever.
it is my experience that they seem to pick out either the dumbest or ugliest ones to date. not all the time, but more often than not, from what i've seen. most of the black men i've seen with white women are all about what they can get from the chick with all the money and status, and none of the self-esteem.
again, this is not how all black/white relationships are, i'm sure, and i know that's a stereotype in itself, but it's what i'm familiar with. i think if i saw a real relationship between a black man and a white woman, then i would feel differently. [That is annoying, yes--the dumb/ugly black dudes with the white girls. But you're also right that others looking down on them isn't "their" problem. xp That's kind of how I feel when I'm with a white guy. People find it wierd that I "choose" white guys that aren't "wiggers;" that is, "black-acting white boys." If I wanted to date someone who "acted black," I'd date a black guy. rolleyes I gravitate more toward non-black guys because they seem to have more in common with me, as I'm sure I've said before. I wish I could say that it appeared to be the same way with black men and white women... stare ] i know, it's odd. it's all about who you're attracted to. my neighbor (let's call her 'S') is dating a white man, and he's really nice. it appears, however, that there are some parenting issues - he's got kids, and they're bad as hell; one of them smacked her, just for the hell of it. of course, she got smacked right back, but dude didn't even say anything until S threatened to leave. [Yea, that's parenting issues, alright. stare But it's not really a problem specific to interracial couples. I think it's most common with couples where one of them isn't the biological parent to the children. It's probably to be expected that there is going to be some "defiance" somewhere along the way.]
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Posted: Wed Dec 21, 2005 9:54 pm
It doesn't realy matter who it is or their race but whenever I see a couple I just grin at them
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Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2005 5:21 am
There's a reason why people get so irked about black men dating white women, and that's mainly because it makes it seem like black women are less desirable as women compared to white women, it's almost as if we're less feminin.
Yhe same thing is happening with asian men and women. Asian women are dating white men, and asian men are being considered less desirable because of it.
I feel that way sometimes too and I'm in an interracial relationship. It has a lot to do with Eurocentric standards of beauty. Notice how most famous black women we see are light skinned or mixed with white. It's almost as if the media is trying to still use the paper bag test and say you have to be this light to be considered beautiful, when it shouldn't be that way.
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Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2005 8:36 am
This reminds me of this email I got. I think it's funny... others might, but read!
- Well scratch that idea... I lost the email stare
#$#!@# AOl smile
It was just basically a white woman writing into a black magazine about dating black men... saying that black women should learn a tip or tow from them about how to keep them and such.... and a black man responded and 'put her in her place'... Mad i can't find it though...
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Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2006 12:01 pm
ShiaoBella There's a reason why people get so irked about black men dating white women, and that's mainly because it makes it seem like black women are less desirable as women compared to white women, it's almost as if we're less feminin. Yhe same thing is happening with asian men and women. Asian women are dating white men, and asian men are being considered less desirable because of it. I feel that way sometimes too and I'm in an interracial relationship. It has a lot to do with Eurocentric standards of beauty. Notice how most famous black women we see are light skinned or mixed with white. It's almost as if the media is trying to still use the paper bag test and say you have to be this light to be considered beautiful, when it shouldn't be that way. [This may be "an" ugly truth, but I definitely don't think that's all there is to it. That, and perhaps it's mainly black women themselves who have this assumption. The topic might be taboo to the point where black men may only discuss it amongst themsleves, rather than out loud around black women. But I don't think it's a bunch of black men saying "black women are lower on the totem pole than white women." I think it's a bunch of black women (and maybe some white women) who come to this assumption. I'm not saying they don't have reason to, though...]
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Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2006 4:15 pm
A lot of what I think is more in-line with Garvey, Malcolm X, and Elijah Muhhamad and a lot of books by different people with the same tone (Isis Papers:Keys to Color-Frances Cress-Scott Welsing).
So, I'm used to seeing inter-racial relationships, but the thoughts that rush to my mind would shock MLK, or at least make any tolerant black person look at me like I lost my damn mind.
But not to worry, I'm used to biting my tounge enough at my job.
"Hi, welcome to *my job*. Do you need any help today?" biggrin (this smile's hurting me... please leave quickly so I can go back to neglecting my job!)
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 5:38 am
RAS-Anjilyn A lot of what I think is more in-line with Garvey, Malcolm X, and Elijah Muhhamad and a lot of books by different people with the same tone (Isis Papers:Keys to Color-Frances Cress-Scott Welsing). So, I'm used to seeing inter-racial relationships, but the thoughts that rush to my mind would shock MLK, or at least make any tolerant black person look at me like I lost my damn mind. [I don't get it. Could you elaborate??] RAS-Anjilyn But not to worry, I'm used to biting my tounge enough at my job. "Hi, welcome to *my job*. Do you need any help today?" biggrin (this smile's hurting me... please leave quickly so I can go back to neglecting my job!) [ xd That's how I feel most of the time.] [ ]
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