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 Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 7:24 am
I tend to remain friends with my exes too...there's only two that I can think of right now that I haven't. Sometimes that takes time, though. With one, it was about a year and a half before we started talking again, but now he drives several hours to visit about once a month. smile
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2005 10:08 pm
I used to wonder about the same thing when I was younger.
It wasn't until I had experianced several different relatinships that I could tell the difference between different kinds of love. Interactions are'r different between you and each individual you meet.
But trust me... when you find 'the one' you will know.
Or... at least I did.. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2005 12:24 pm
It annoys me that english doesn't have words for different kinds of love. I've gotten into so many arguments before trying to explain how my love for my friends is different from love for family is different from love for people I'm dating. And how I'd much rather marry a friend than someone I'm *just* dating.
We should definatly NOT use the same word for "I love this song!" as we do for "You are the one for me forever, I love you."
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Posted: Tue Oct 18, 2005 4:52 pm
Maybe I am just a bit nuts but I really like my boyfriend... Even though we can't see each other right now (He lives in Washington and will be moving to Colorado in January)... I really love to talk to him on the phone, I don't even mind when we get into arguements!!! heart heart heart
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Posted: Tue Oct 18, 2005 8:49 pm
Arguments can be good sometimes. They help you get to know eachother better.
Oddly enough, after a year, Deljarum and I still haven't had an argument. We've even had mock-arguments to make up for it. hehe.
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Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 10:27 am
isn't life complicated?
i suppose it would be boring if it wasn't though, break ups do become easier as you develope in maturity, my ex fiance often visits me, we're still the best of friends, i think it's best that way, aslong as they know their boundaries and don't start behaving inappropriately towards you(as my ex does sometimes sweatdrop )
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Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 4:59 pm
Malkut It annoys me that english doesn't have words for different kinds of love. I've gotten into so many arguments before trying to explain how my love for my friends is different from love for family is different from love for people I'm dating. And how I'd much rather marry a friend than someone I'm *just* dating. We should definatly NOT use the same word for "I love this song!" as we do for "You are the one for me forever, I love you." word. it is difficult, especially when you like to tell people how you feel about them, like i do. some of my friends know what i mean, one or two even realize that i love more than one person. love has been made out to be this rare gem, people have forgotten how easy it is to find if you're open to it. it's one of those "the more you give, the more you get" kind of things.
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Posted: Thu Nov 03, 2005 7:11 pm
Malkut It annoys me that english doesn't have words for different kinds of love. I've gotten into so many arguments before trying to explain how my love for my friends is different from love for family is different from love for people I'm dating. And how I'd much rather marry a friend than someone I'm *just* dating. We should definatly NOT use the same word for "I love this song!" as we do for "You are the one for me forever, I love you." score one for the ancient greeks on that point. i also feel awkward telling my friends i love them (or rather, my friend, since i only ever say this to my absolute bestest "known her my entire life" friend.) not like in a "oh i think you're really cool!" sort of way. in a "i really care about you a lot and i like spending time with you and i'm glad you're friends with me" way. one of my exes hates me. the other seems pretty okay with me, but i haven't talked to him much since he joined the navy two years ago.
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Posted: Sun Nov 06, 2005 9:02 am
Right now I like to think I'm in love for the man I'm with puts up wuth me all the time and in the end still says he wants me xd
I find it funny just because of how that's phrased, but anyway.... Here's how my love goes and hopefully people will get something out of it:
We met several years back, I was friends with someone on his floor of the dorms (in fact, right next door to him) and also someone right above him so I'd pass by his door often (he was right in front of the stair well). I used to goof around with him a little here and there whenever he visited his neighbor. After a while (incert 2 years here) I found out he liked watching anime and he brought me over th watch "b*****d!" (yes, that is the title lol). After that I wanted to share movies with him too so I brought him over for several nights to watch "Firefly" the series (non anime) and made sure to rent the downstairs room with the extra large TV 3nodding
I remember sitting on the couch with him and jokingly having elbow wars for the space between us and eventaully laying on his arm to win the fight lol He them put his arm around me. I told him if he lets me cuddle like that then he'd have to put up with lots of cuddling cuz I lvoe it so much and he shruged (he's so neutral xp ). After a while it got to more. I really did cuddle with him every time we were watching something (we moved onto Hunter X Hunter by then). It took us a while because both of us are not too keen on taking the next step when it comes to relationships, but I finally got enough courage to bring the topic up. I eventually said taht I would like to be bf/gf with him if he'd go in on it with me. He agreed. (my councelor thought it was great wording yet cute at the same time lol.)
Since then, I was constantly visiting. Taking naps between classes with him, staying the night to cuddle (he had his own room too, whoot!). I admit, we even had sex too. (he's my little virgin boy, lol I was his first and he was a little innocent about it, but was a very good soldier 3nodding ).
He graduated that summer (I had started going out with him in April, it was now May) and went home, but thankfully his home was only an hour and a half drive from school (I had moved off campus that summer). I missed him when he first left of course. Cried as he drove off (I fully admit it). but visiting him and getting visits from him were the best things in the world to me.
In August, he got hired by a company in Boston and had to move. I was, of course, heartbroken, but I still wanted him to go. I havnt seen him since but that doesnt mean I havnt kept in touch.
I've sent him cards and stuffed animals (he wanted a cat one because he missed his cat). I've also talked with him on AIM every day, even when we dont have much to say. He changed his cell phon over to my company so that our calls to eachother were free, and so even when there's no words between us on the phone I feel happy that he's on the other end.
He's done great things for me too. Things I'd not even expect. One time I had my purse ransacked and my rent money stollen (and my check book). I had to freeze my account and I didnt know what to do. He actually sent the rent money overnight to my real estate place! I couldnt believe it! (It was $175 rent and whatever it cost for overnight from boston to wisconsin). My parents sent him a check to pay him back, but he has not cashed it. he says that he wants to show that he can support me.
We have talked of marriage and kids and a home with cats. We tease eachother constantly, and I never stop telling him I love him (even when he's not always saying it to me).
At this rate, I jsut about feel a proposal comming when I graduate next year whee . (no we're not three years apart, I jsut took the long route for college and he's Mr. Graduate-in-four-years razz )
He's also the person I turn to most when I'm depressed, and he puts up with it extreemly well. We both know I'm not getting better, and we're both tired of the same ritual every time, but he's still willing to put up with it, just for me. 3nodding
I know that I had always wanted someone to be my 'hero' as the person I love, but instead I think I've got someone better. Who knows, mebbe he really is my hero afterall smile
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 5:45 pm
that's an adorable story crying
i hope things work out for you both 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2006 9:12 am
I hope no one takes offence to this but i mean it in a funny way !
"how do you know when it's love? (>Or Not<)
Answer to : "or not"
When you passionatly kiss your partner lovingly gaze into their eyes and say "i love you so so much"
and they reply with..."yeah i love your T!ts thay're fab"
lol
not the exact answer you'd be looking for!
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 3:27 am
Malkut It annoys me that english doesn't have words for different kinds of love. I've gotten into so many arguments before trying to explain how my love for my friends is different from love for family is different from love for people I'm dating. And how I'd much rather marry a friend than someone I'm *just* dating. We should definatly NOT use the same word for "I love this song!" as we do for "You are the one for me forever, I love you." Yea, it totally takes the meaning out of the word "love."
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 3:30 am
Sashmo I hope no one takes offence to this but i mean it in a funny way ! "how do you know when it's love? (>Or Not<) Answer to : "or not" When you passionatly kiss your partner lovingly gaze into their eyes and say "i love you so so much" and they reply with..."yeah i love your T!ts thay're fab" lol not the exact answer you'd be looking for! Yea...normally I'd be able to detect that kind of ignorance from a person before I even want to go out with them. Ignorance is a definite turn-off for me. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun May 07, 2006 4:26 pm
I know that I love my bf. I've never felt quite this way about anyone before.
He says and does these special things for me that it's making me tear up in happiness just thinking about it and lets me be myself around him...if I'm sad, he'll listen, if I'm being a goof-off he'll start doing the same. I can trust him with anything I say or do...he's always there to give me a shoulder to cry on and then a laugh afterwards to cheer me up.
We've been together for almost a year and that whole time we've been long distance. I wouldn't be in that kind of relationship with someone unless I really loved them.
Both of us want to spend our entire lives with each other and we look forward to the time when we can afford to have kids and raise them together.
And love is a blossoming thing. Before my bf and I were together, I loved him as a friend but with every moment, that friendly love grew more and more and also branched out into romantic love. I still love him dearly as a friend...much more than I used to, but friendly love is still differant from romantic love but both are important in a relationship. heart
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Posted: Sat May 13, 2006 10:15 pm
I hope you can live nearer your boyfriend soon Ceres, I know how hard it is to spend time away from someone you care about so much, sad
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