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By all means, if she wants to gain to 300lbs and she's aware of the consequences, which I would imagine she is... go for it.

However, if she wants to gain 300lbs I imagine she doesn't give a s**t what that random guy says... she wants to do it, she thinks it's cool, he isn't going to change her mind... and it's not like it's a secret that it's a crazy thing to do in today's society... so I would imagine she's completely comfortable with announcing it and getting negative comments back. If she wasn't expecting them I'd worry about her choice to do it because I don't think she could be argued living in this reality.

So I fail to see where the problem is.

In the past curves and extra fat were a sign of wealth, to have extra curves meant you had the means to obtain food and did not go wanting. It's basically the same as today's view on weight.

Tans used to be considered horrible because it meant you were a woman who had to slave away in the hot sun, today seeing a woman with a tan makes people assume it's somebody who has money to spend leisure time at the beach.

An obese woman (arguably, almost any girl sitting at or over 300lbs... with a few exceptions for the extremely tall and muscular) is not healthy, though. Most people in society view one another in terms of reproduction... we want somebody to pass on genes we like, genes that compliment our own, and who will not only be able to give birth healthily (I don't know if it's any harder or easier for an obese woman to give birth, so I can't claim any facts on that), but who will provide us with healthy offspring. Due to modern medicine and the fact that the wealthy can now afford personal trainers, thin is in because the women are considered "healthier" and it is assumed when you see a skinny girl that she works to keep that shape...

In the past, the view on size was hardly any more respectable than it is today, it's really all about money. And there are some people who don't care, who like their own thing... and that's great... because they see something different from how others do... and that's what helps the gene pool to stay varied.

I somehow doubt her wanting to be a leader, maybe she wanted to make a few people think... but it takes more than what she did to be a leader.

Forgive me if I'm overly rude or harsh, I've found myself in a bad mood since getting home from work, and I don't mean to say anything that sounds that way.

I think fat people should have a rally or something, a big fat rally.

It would be amazing.

I think the problem is so many people would be like "I'm so tired, can we stop marching now?"

Maybe we should just switch it to a party.

Sometimes, Ghosty, I swear you've been poking around in my brain, because you manage to say exactly what I want to say (and word it better).

Anywho, I'm just worried that she doesn't know what she's really getting into. It's one thing to be 200 lbs. It's another thing to be 250, and a whole completely different thing to be 300. I used to weigh that much, and I was miserable. Yeah, I could eat whatever I wanted and not really gain weight, but that was horribly outweighed by the health problems and self esteem problems that came along with it. I mean, I'm not a small girl, naturally, and never will be, but I couldn't handle all the extra weight-I was tired, grumpy,and basically downright miserable most of the time.

I hope for her sake that this girl has a very thick skin, because she'll begin to notice that how people treat her will change as she gains weight, and sometimes I think the mental part of being fat is worse than the physical (because really, everyone care about what other people think about them to some extent).

sail away with me, honey...

i put my heart in your hands.